Im on my 37 day now without PM. The sex has improved a lot, there is more intimacy and more sensibility. Before i had a lot of problems with Delayed Ejaculation. This has improved a lot, however i still have a long way to go. So today me and my girlfriend had sex. After a half hour i had an orgasm, it felt very natural and good. Then i had a nap cause the night before we went out, and i hardly had any sleep. Afterwards we had sex again. In the beginning my member was a bit tired, so i didn't make a big fuss about it not being so hard. Mainly because i was so tired. Later on i still was in the mood for sex. Yet, to have an orgasm, i had to think of porn. I know i'm still in my reboot, but i just don't want this to happen anymore. I want to be completely in the moment and not with my head into these images. Anyone has some same experiences? Also, i once had a girlfriend for a couple of months, and i never had an orgasm with her. This was off course when i watching porn.
If you can't orgasm without thinking about porn don't do it, wait till you can orgasm the natural way or else you won't break your connection to porn.
I tried every way around hard mode,,, but everything else has led me back into porn ( including pretty good sex). Part of my brain prefers porn to real women , hard to admit but wtf. Im into my third month of hard mode and things have become so much clearer to me. I feel on a gut level how pornified my brain was/is. I tried looking at p subs while m'ing, m'ing without any visuals, sex but no p or m etc etc...Either way I always needed some kind of porn fantasy to be more than just mildly aroused. Anyway good luck hope that helps.
I just try to accept this stage i am in and take it day by day. I already have experienced a lot of benefits for quitting this addiction. @Adria & Robocop did you have similar experiences? Ho did you dealt with it? Has it improved? @Day one, thx for sharing, hope you conquer this too. The question is: do you want to do something about this. Cause it bothers me, and i want to work on being a better man.
When I was into porn I had to think about it a few times during sex, sometimes not even that would work and then i just wouldn't cum. While on NoFap i havent had any problems i can think of but take in mind i rebooted for almost 100 days before having sex again.
I have had the same, I quit chasing just trying to have an O, that's where the danger is at is always chasing that O, if you can't O don't worry about it, it's better not to O than to induce it with images or fantasy, that's how I would always have an O was through fantasy but since I started nofap I've not fantasized while having intercourse, if I can't O then I just don't O
Well you would think, but after having the O the next day I felt the O hangover so to speak, with incredible painful harsh side effects, on a scale of 1-10 ten being the worse my loneliness scale yesterday was a 19+, I was depressed, I was incredibly irritable, I had the shakes and I had the brain fog, so paying attention to my feelings and my body, my body and brain are not yet ready for O, I have to totally heal and reboot to be better (this may not be the case for everybody) I'm listening to my body, all I wanted to do yesterday was fap to O but I didn't, it felt like I was on drug withdraws, incredible dark and a sense of hopelessness, I have to go hard mode so I can get healthy, my wife is supportive and on board with this so it's ok.
Well... I had never heard of those side effecfs only by orgasming. Hope it gets better with time! Remember that a little hangover the day after is normal.
Reading about it I've learned that it's actually better not O as much as I was, for an example wife and I had sex this past Wednesday night I O two times during that session, then this past Sunday same thing I O two times, both days after were excruciating difficult, I'm talking about difficult my brain and body were both craving an O and I was feeling the withdraws from it, this probably isn't for everybody but my body is telling me to chill for right now on the O because I feel like I'm still depleting an empty gas tank, I've read last night that it takes way more than 7 days to recoup from 1 O and I had 4 within days of each other, I'm not saying it's linked together but there's not going to be any harm in going say 90 days without an O just to see how I feel, now mind you, I'm 37 and I've been habitually masturbating for well over 25+ years with the longest streak being only 5 days in my whole life (except for now, today is day 14 with no FAPPING and porn at all) so I think I have a long long road ahead of me and I'd rather try anything to see if I can be somewhat normal, just my story.
You are absolutely right Airplane, better no O than fantazing. My problem has alwas been that last 10 procent to get O, then the fantasizing kicks in. I did the math, and one month ago i was PMO everyday sometimes 5 hours a day. Now i can have healthy sex again, it is like a miracle. Now and then the fantazing still is there, but i realise it is a process. It is like learning to drive a bike again. excuse my metaphor Still i think i have to except that the fantazing will always be a part of me. Not sure if this will ever go away...