So here's my deal... My high school sweetheart ("Sara") and I tried to have sex when I was 19 but it didn't work out. It was awkward and embarassing for us both. That's when I found out I had PED. I tried NoFap but didn't take it seriously at the time, fell back into my old habits. Our relationship was already complicated for a number of reasons, but after this things sort of died down between us. Fastforward to 2015 and things are looking brighter. I'm a solid week into NoFap and I'm very serious about it this time around. Also, Sara recently confessed having feelings for me still. Great news for me, because I've always been in love with this girl, she's great. Here's the problem: She wants me to come visit her at her university. Are we going to have sex when I visit her? Probably not. However, we will most likely make out and cuddle in bed. It would be really embarrassing for her to reach down there and feel something flaccid, or notice there's no bulge when I'm laying besides her in bed. I doubt we'd have sex the first night we hang out, but I'd still like that option. This isn't the typical case of "Oh I might miss out on a chance to get laid," rather "Oh, I might blow another shot with the girl I love" So there you have it. I'm afraid of the flatline and my low libido. But the thing is, I notice that flatlines vary by individuals. So I'm going to post a little information about myself and see if everyone has any feedback from experience or information they've read. 1) I've been watching high-speed porn since the age of 14. I'm 21 now. 2) I was also having frequent sex from ages 14-15 and have had close to none since. 3) I've reduced my PMO significantly these last 2 months (with a few binges), and now I'm going cold turkey. 4) Looking back on it, for the last 3 or so years I've had pretty low libido. 5) It is rare for me to have spontaneous erections in my day-to-day life 6) I have morning wood almost every morning. I find this encouraging, but I'm still flaccid throughout the day. 7) I don't even know if I'm experiencing a flatline or not. And if I am, is it just not that severe (because I still get healthy morning wood). That's my situation... I have no idea how I would react to anything sexual. P.S. I'm mostly looking for information on my flatline, but if you feel like you have any relationship advice feel free to leave a comment. Thanks for taking the time to read this and/or respond to it.
Did you try meeting a specialist about your PED? Also don't think much about whether or not you'll have sex with her when you visit her. Focus more on spending quality time, like catching up with one another about what they've done while you both were separated/not talking, or what goals you both have.
If this helps, even though I don't feel sexual at all during he day, when it comes time to have sex, I just relax, enjoy the moment and things have always worked out. Goodluck!
I started watching P at 13 I'm 20 now. When I first tried nofap I had my first flatline after 2 weeks. I felt like a zombie. I had no idea what was wrong, at the time I I didn't know what a flatline was so I "tested" myself to make sure everything is okay lol when/if you get into a flatline no matter what do not "test" yourself. your gonna feel like shit but you'll get over it. And there's a lot of dudes on here who would do anything to get into a flatline
Be open about it. Tell sarah what you are into rught now and why you do it. Tell her you wanna enjoy her company but cant guarantee that u gona be able to perform sexual actions. You want her, not just her body. If u can deliver that message she might even love you more AND once u told her, that u might have problems getting it uo, u take away all of the pressure and minimize the risk of performane anxiety ed since u already told her. If you manage to find tge right words, it can only help.
I tested myself yesterday in what I believed was a flatline. Does that mean one is out of it once they do that?
It depends on your goals. But as long as you didn't ejaculate your good, try your best not to edge. Edging is worst than pmo
