I am on NoFap now for almost one year. And I am not moving forward I found out the reason and hope anyone has some tips for me? When I am not fapping a lot of crazy stuf pops up in my mind ... even sometimes I think about raping a girl (wich discussed me) ... its so crazy I dont understand this at all ... I have an amazing girlfriend ... I dont understand it seems that fapping keeps my mind num and my dirty toughs away. Any one can help how to get rid of crazy psycho thoughts?
Yes I absolutely agree with Dragonaire. And also I feel you should keep your mind and schedule more occupied to give yourself less freedom to think about such things
You should consider talking to a therapist about this, because it does sound like a real issue, and therapy may help. In the meantime, you need to focus not on just blocking bad thoughts, but on having good ones. Direct your thoughts where you want them to go. If you have these thoughts jump into your head, don't obsess about them. Firmly push them away and tell yourself, "I am going to think of ________." Insert pure, kind, nonsexual thought here. pmo will not help this problem. It would only make it worse. Don't fool yourself back into misery. If you need an outlet, get a hobby or talk to someone. Good luck man.
Oh good 1 year is a long time, I can understand your feeling, always want to fuck every girl and women.... So if u masturbate it will kill u so, when ever u think abt fap ,just think fap will make u pre mature aging and hairloss. U will automatically cool down
Pmo is driving those thoughts it makes it worst. When you are not fapping and those thought pop up. Tell your self why its wrong challenge the thoughts with some self therapy...
of late even i've been having many sexually violent thoughts towards women. many men have such thougths. if u remove the sex, many men(and women) have thoughts of: beating their boss getting violent during a street fight as long as you dont not act on them then it's okay. i try to have sexual thoughts in which both i and the partner are having fun and are comfortable.
Goodluck, but most of all Congratulations on your 1 year of NoFap. For Me Fapping drains my energy and makes me weak. So be grateful you are not weak, and you are using your time wisely for other useful purposes Dont do PMO anymore! Have fun and play outside.
Thank you all for your supporting comments. I must say I have some big downfalls but I can see improvement. I am now on this for a year and falling and realapsing a lot still. But I can feel I am heading in a good direction and that there will be light at the end of this long tunnel. As mentioned I will focus on just one girl and my girl friend. (We have an open relation and she now is in Qatar). I will press onward
I have had those thoughts too, so I'm just telling you so you don't feel alone. I rarely have them anymore though, I think that is just due to telling myself that it really isn't an option. Just keep working on your recovery and the rest will fall into place. I also know that I had more thoughts like that when I was drinking. I no longer drink (almost 2 years), and maybe that has something to do with it too.
