I'm joining this challenge! I'll update on my progress every few days. Good luck to everybody involved!
Cool, I´m going to type here too. It's been a whole mess of days since i PMOd, or at least it feels that way. At this point, I've deleted all profiles (except Okc. it's not a trigger for me) & online pornafolios, but the urge keeps nagging at me, and today is especially rough. I stumbled across some image on my ipad, and I let out an involuntary loud sigh. Thankfully, the mind is more powerful than a tiny pixelated pic, so I deleted search history, depressed top ipad button & got on with my day. I don't drink alcohol anymore, but I've been a coffee hound for the past week. Today I switched to herbal tea, except for morning & after lunch, & my mood isn't so edgy. Thanks for the anonymous online support, dudes.
Relapsed this past weekend and am realizing how much more difficult it is to not only give up P but MO as well. It hasn't been the first time I failed but I am starting to learn more by documenting everything. I am going to lay off the ganga/booze and start being more active by exercising and going out to be around people more than just staying in front of a computer. Round Two, Fight!
DAY 11: So, today is a really bad day. I slipped up and masturbated 3 times to a girl I met online... I met this girl on Twitter and we started talking, she was nice and we got along quite well. we started to flirt and it got sexual quite quickly, we were eventually sending snapchats to each other which resulted in me masturbating 3 times.. I didn't watch porn, but I did engage in sexual acts with a girl I've known for a day However, negative stuff out of the way. I have been so much more confident with 11 days free, I've also learnt more self control and ways to deal with my temptations. Going to set another counter and start again! Thanks for everything x
@ryantaylor1996 - it is disappointing when you do not control your sexual desires and you have to reset your counter to zero. However, you have already learnt much which is good. Be aware that the desire to binge will be high for the next few days. After a triple shot of high dopamine surges, your brain will be craving more of the same. After 3/4 days it should settle down quite a bit.
Just a quick point to all those participating in this thread. It is great for you to work together as a team. But at the end of one month, none of you will have been rebooted. Even after a completely successful month with no resets, you will still be addicted. You will have taken an important step forward, but many more need to follow. Some refer to 90 days as a sort of magic number. Experience tells me that most taking the challenge require much longer than this for their neural pathways to rewire in order for a reboot to factory settings to be possible. This is not intended to be discouraging. I just want you to know that the scope of this thread is a foundation upon which you will need to build. How long one individual needs to complete this process compared to another can vary. So, keep your outlook positive, hopeful, yet realistic. Good luck.
Day 7 - Week one. Conquered. Woke up at 6 am. Didn't take my cold shower. I didn't have enough time to. Ready for work. Was a quiet day at work. Got home, cooked dinner, spent time watching various YouTube videos and worked on my research paper. My friend came over and set the administrator password for K9 Web Protection. Went to bed at 23:30 as tomorrow was going to be a public holiday. I am in control of my actions. No PMO for 7 days straight.
Day 3. It's been kinda hard at this point. I'm a part time worker and I've also finished all of my uni work for the semester so I've had a lot of free time. At home, on my laptop, with everybody else either out of the house or asleep, which means a lot of temptation to PMO. I've managed to fend it off so far. I find that I don't really want to PMO, more I am tempted to do it for the sake of doing it. I can honestly say that I don't enjoy it when I do, perhaps it's out of boredom, and the fact that my girlfriend and I are currently away from each other for uni, as mentioned in my first post. Just prior to writing this post I was feeling the temptation so I'm glad that I opened this thread and found encouragement in your successes and mutual struggles.
DAY 1: The dreaded chaser effect So, after falling short at day 12, i'm here to do it again, learning from my mistakes, i'm even more detirmed to beat this! Took a nice cold shower today and it was a massive step for me, went to college and came home. I have been experiencing serious chaser effects lately but I'm trying to not let it get me down 1 down, 29 to go
Hi All I'm also joining this 30 day challenge. I'm 38 years old. I actually started a few days ago, but I am glad to be here, to get the boost and support I need to succeed. This is my first time time doing this. I am married for 10 years and my goal is to avoid PMO, that is porn, masturbation and orgasm. But I am open to sexual activity with my wife. although that is very scarce these days. So this challenge is not technically hard mode, but will be hard mode as I do not engage very regularly sexually with my wife, as she normally only likes to engage in sex only about once or twice per month. The challenge is for me to tolerate that without resorting to porn, and masturbation. I am already feeling stronger since I've joined this forum, it is really helping me to stay on course. Although yesterday was a bit hard, as I boredom is a trigger for me and I was bored at work as my client did not arrive. But I just got busy doing other things and the urge was easily controlled that time. But I know this will get harder with time. Also, I read somewhere another guy was saying he is trying not to see woman as sexual objects. Well, I find myself admiring woman that i see alot, I look at their breasts and butts. I thought this was just normal. I do think, that it is a sign of a healthy sex drive. But since reading that, I have been trying to see woman that see around town as just people and not in a sexual way and I think it is helping a bit, and I plan to continue doing that.
Hi everyone..... This is my first day here. Got to know about nofap just few hours back. Well my problem is P/SMO i.e porn/ stories( sex stories ). Every now and then whenever i am alone i flip through these stories. My goal is no P/SMO for 30 days...
I feel you Ryan, after I relapsed I definitely have been experiencing the chaser effect too. I'm working on refocusing things on keeping active with enough exercise, doing research, and learning how to play guitar. I also am trying going for walks at night to get me away from the computer anytime I feel I'm tempted and losing control . Cold shower at night and / or in the morning seems to help too. Thanks for the support everyone. Let's keep at it. Remember that it's not nearly as important whether or not we fall but that when we do we pick ourselves back up and don't give up!
hi all, going well here, how does one cope with fullness in genital area below, my body i used to O on regular basis and now, it is like not understanding why it cannot O and get a release, must I just learn to live with this sensation, is it dangerous? Otherwise, i am feeling good, feeling very potent and strong, coping well.
