Hi all I have been addicted to porn n masturbation ever since 1998 when I was 12 years old . I always relapsed after goin days without it. I am married with one child but i feel guilty as my wife doesnt know and I can never tell her. Please advise me how to stop watching porn and masturbation. I promise to God Almighty that I will stop today Thurs Sept 20th 2018. It is not worth it but triggers are what is killing me. I see women at work, on TV, on Newspaper wearing tights n revealing clothes. What can I do? I know there is better life outside porn and masturbation.
You could try downloading something like Kaspersky for your computer that has parental control. Download Spin browser and app blocker for your smart phone from app store. Find an accountability partner or maybe a relative to keep those passwords . I found that long meditations (2-3hr/day) and fasting really helps (one meal a day). Maybe seek out a professional who can help with the addiction and see what they have to say.
I'm a life long addict to PMO. Found out about this M'ing thing when I was 12 or 13. I was pretty free to rome at an early age due to an absent, selfish, emotionally cruel father who didn't even have the courage to just stay away. He was no asset in my life but he left behind some Playboys. Thanks Dad! I never stopped even though I had girlfriends growing up and eventually my wife, in 1994. I was 33yrs old then. 2 great children and a good wife with little sex drive. My issues certainly didn't help that any! No one seemed to care if I just privately ,whacked off. I convinced myself that this kept me loyal to my wife. Not much reflection past that but my insecurities, and marginal performance in most areas of my life really began to arise in my head. You know depression, a general feeling of being outside of society. Long story short because I type like shit is; I stumbled here and on YBOP in Dec 2013. Read some reflective book titled Out of the Shadows prior to that. Have been battling this ever since. I would guess that I'm clean 70%- 80% since Dec 2013. And I no longer accept that average. I've also been to 2 different Therapists and highly recommend that avenue too. I'm kinda addicted to these sites and I'll take that for now because it has improved my life dramatically. Be glad you found this site and know that you have this problem. Feeling the urge can become satisfying and motivating but you must not only control that urge but make positive uses with it. Can be very difficult but lots of involvement here helps keep you moving forward. Good Luck.
Don't set long term goals in the beginning, take it day by day. Keep yourself occupied. Think about the benefits with NoFap
@MyFreshStart Thanks for ur post. Yes I have made an oath to God Almighty and I will stop. I have been feeling guilty after jacking off because imagine how can you spend 2-5hours fapping and then you release sperm in less than 20secs. Doesnt make sense. I feel like i have been wasting my life but after like two days the urge comes back and my brain tells me u need to feel that "high" again so i relapse but now I seriously need to stop and I will. Imagine I have a beautiful wife but ever since she gave birth to our son in 2016 our sex has reduced so I have no out outlet. She works and she is always tired. Our son is 2 n a half and he is very active so imagine running after the child all day and then u have no time for sex. I hope things improve but It is MY FAULT ALSO because after masturbating who has energy for sex I will improve @jorge78. I will take it one day at a time
