so far in my reboot I've made some discoveries that I used porn to take away my boredom or loneliness now i feel so awkward when approaching women finding it difficult to strike up a conversation also really having crazy dreams and crazy urges so far my brain feels like it will explode
That's withdrawl - a qualitatively distinct segment of the process from full-on addiction. It's a sign that you're doing great. You're actually experiencing what the addiction did to you - you're becoming sensitized to its effects. It's much worse when you're hurting yourself and don't know it. Good luck, and don't forget to fill that time with the healthy things you actually want to do, even if recovery is painful.
All great signs, especially that you've recognized why you used porn. I don't know if it'll help you or not because of potential triggers, but what's helping me is online dating. I just message as many girls as I can, not worrying about whether they'll reply or not. The goal, while it is to get a girlfriend, is mostly to have conversations with them to make it easier when I do it in the real world. By no means do I expect to get 10+ dates out of this, but having this outlet to talk with them and find out what works and what doesn't seems to help me and of course has the side effect of raising my confidence.