Sorry guys yesterday I can’t able to post as I am having difficulties with internet connection so day 4 completed successfully Did morning meditation so day 1 of it Did studying in the morning so day 1 of it And I Missed reading rebooting material yesterday but today I will read it
Day 5 completed successfully today read this information in the website it may be helpful differentiating real sex vs porn http://www.alexlerza.com/blog/2014/3/10/22-differences-between-healthy-sex-and-porn but morning meditation back to day 0. As I did not do it in the morning And my reading also back to day 0 as I did not read today morning so need to keep my medication and studying consistent or else I will never reach my goals. anyone some motivation for studying and achieving my goals any suggestions But my first Piriority is rebooting from porn and become a gentleman
You´ve already joined brother . Just post here everyday and when you´ve reached 500 days without pmo, you win the challenge . Let´s go!!!
Very good brother. You´re going through the pass of Caradhras. Beware for the porn forces are strong here!!!
the best motivation is really about taking action bro. that´s the truth. any kind of "external" motivation won´t last long. take action now, regain your rebooting habits one by one, that´s how you´ll gain motivation.
93 days my brothers. here´s an interesting article from JK Emezi, porn rebooter coach. have a nice day. "Brother, I often get asked about the dangers of masturbating while rebooting. "Isn't it healthy?" "Does it affect my brain rewiring?" "Is it o.k as long as I do it without watching porn?" Before we dive into that, lets talk about whats WRONG with masturbation. Four Problems with Masturbation Firstly, masturbation desensitizes you to regular sex. Over time, you get to the point that you prefer your hand to the sensation of being with your partner. You may have had the experience of having sex, feeling the need to masturbate shortly after, masturbating shortly after and perhaps feeling bad that you preferred masturbating to actual sex. Next- masturbation is for the most part, driven by fantasy. While there is nothing wrong with that, more of the than not, that fantasy comes from pornography or porn induced sexual fetishes. This makes to challenging to reboot. Masturbation is also used to medicate many issues. Loneliness, problematic relationships, feeling better about yourself, and other dealing with strong emotions are some of the things masturbation can be used for. Finally masturbation is a solo act. This means that when done compulsively, you condition yourself to disconnect from emotions which require connection. The emotional component of sex with your partner reduces and sex becomes more of an extension of masturbation. Many of us grew up in cultures where masturbation was frowned upon, or in religious households which discouraged masturbation. On the other hand, there are recovery groups and individuals who have progressed in their recovery who discourage masturbation. Professionally, I am not a fan of absolutes. Not only must there be a reason for creating a boundary for a client, but the client should also experience the reason for themselves. For some porn addicts, masturbation is your only sexual outlet. In the porn reboot system, we teach you to control your behavior with masturbation, to the point where you have full confidence in your control or where you lose the urge to masturbate compulsively. After this period of time, clients who have no other sexual outlet may begin masturbating WITHOUT pornography -with certain guidelines. To make it absolutely clear- this is a professionally supervised process because, naturally we will underestimate the time and competency in coping skills required to get to this point. A good therapist or coach can work with you to determine the best time for this . If you don't have a therapist or coach, you must decide for yourself personally, as your progress in your reboot whether masturbation is a healthy behavior for you or not. After learning about the problems associated with masturbation, its ultimately up to you to decide where masturbation fits in your life. The biggest danger you face is understanding this information regarding masturbation, yet still choosing to live in denial of your problem. Your brother in this struggle, J.K Emezi"