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As a living, breathing, non-porn woman, I can’t thank all of you enough for what you’re doing.

This generation’s excessive use of internet porn terrifies me. The constant influx of new bodies, new kinks, new faces and breasts and buttocks flashing on screens in an unending search for perfection and an ever-hotter sex object freaks me out beyond belief. I know what a guy does in his alone time isn’t my business, but in the end what scares me is this: I can’t compete with that.

I’m human. I’m one person. I can’t be edited or cropped or only shown at my best angle. I have stubble and creases and blemishes and veins, I’m not tanned and oiled and lubed up and prancing around in a thong all day. What I’m finding is that the young men I’m with, even the ones who claim I’m the most beautiful creature they’ve ever seen (and they do) aren’t aroused by just me. I could get completely naked, sit on his lap, put my real hands on him and kiss him with real lips, and I’m still second best. I can’t be opened in five tabs as a brunette and a redhead and with huge boobs and small ones and thinner and curvier and the rest. I’m stagnant, stationary, one being. And somehow that’s not sexy.

Women NEED [Fapstronauts]. We need to be sexy again. We need a guy who can look at his girlfriend, his fiancee, his wife, and find her attractive. I’m looking for that, and I hope I find it, because in the end, I can’t settle for less. I can’t waste my time trying to fix myself and deal with rejection and disappointment because he couldn’t stay away from a hundred other, new, sexier girls. It’s too heartbreaking.

So thank you, each and every one of you, for doing what you’re doing (or not doing, I should say). You’re getting back to normal, you’re standing up and saying to the world “Sex should be sexy! Men should want their women more than their computers!” You’re giving me hope that I’m good enough, that it’s okay for me to be who I am, and that I can have a normal and fulfilling sex life.

If you’re ever feeling weak, or considering going back to the cycle of bingeing and craving and self-loathing, stay strong for us girls. You’re the Prince Charmings of the 21st century, because if he could have stayed home and pulled up “princessXXX18.com” she’d still be locked in that tower. You’re a new breed of heroes, and I hope I can find someone like you to sweep me off my feet and mean it.

Thank you.

-Anonymous NoFap Fan

Comments

  1. I3ios says:

    first, you can say that because you are a girl, and it’s way more easy for you to have sexual relations (if you want to). Lots of guys, wich i’m part, live their lives without hope to have a relation with a girl because “we are too much this, or not enough that” so please stop to speack to “all of us”, you are just talking to mens that you can have sex with.

    segundo, it’s not because i look for porn that i dont know that a real sexual relation is made for the pleasure of both of us, with mutual acceptation.

  2. Mystery says:

    Thanks for liking us. However if you are so worried about competition then why not try to make yourself better too? If you feel you are not pretty enough then join a gym, get a boob job, wear makeup or work on whatever you are lacking. If you want men to like you then you should make sure that you are actually attractive to men. Simply complaining about pornography is not going to bring quality men in your life.

    • Echoghost says:

      @Mystery, your comment is completely distasteful and shallow. The whole point of her article is that women dont feel they can accept themselves the way they are. No matter how many times a women goes to the gym, she most likely will never look like the porn stars specially selected to act in these videos. And why should she get a boob job? Is that what you think women need to do in order o be attractive? Spend thousands of dollars to mutilate and change their bodies in order for you to want to be with them? Not cool.

    • Dylan says:

      Wtf Mystery? Your comment is chauvinistic and off-color. “Better” is a subjective term. There are many individuals in the world who don’t value the same things you do, especially I might add in relation to boob jobs. I think you completely missed the point of this article.

  3. No, do not get a boob job. says:

    No, do not get a boob job.

    A real man who wants a real women will want the real you. Work on being the best version of yourself by all means, seek out a man who wants a virtuous friendship with you based not in physical escalations but intellectual and emotional escalation.

    Hint: you’ll find a man like this at church… specifically in small groups that discuss topics such as Theology of the Body.

    Good luck, make the most of what God made you to be.

  4. Mystery says:

    I was preparing to respond, but then I thought of this: http://xkcd.com/386/

  5. Stephanie says:

    Mystery getting a boob job and lots of makeup sure isn’t going to bring quality men into our lives. It brings men who objectify women. That likely being porn addicts. No offense

  6. Mark says:

    What a fantastic and motivating piece you’ve written – a big thank you to you for writing it!

  7. ECookie says:

    I literally heard this entire speech on BrainBuddy. This is the EXACT speech that I heard of. Now that I see that this is the girl that made that speech, I feel even MORE empowered and inspired! She’s so gorgeous!

  8. James says:

    What an absolute idiot you are… you are precisely the sort of self absorbed shallow scum bag she is referencing.

  9. Bill Y says:

    Thank you for your post. I am saddened by some of the comments. We live in an age in which sexual objectification is an epidemic. Sexual obsession and gratification is considered the only thing worth living for. Our world gives us this message every day, in every advertisement every movie, every tv show, every magazine cover, (except a few, like Atlantic and the New Yorker). I hope you will find a man who has made the journey beyond sexualization, and fantasy, who will connect with you as a person, rather than as an object of their personal gratification. Cheers, Bill

  10. Dyno says:

    Thank you for your encouragement!

  11. anonymousFriend says:

    You’re a beautiful human being 🙂

  12. Chris says:

    Thank you for your encouraging words. I bet you are a cool person.

    But unfortunately I can’t quite come to like your post.

    ‘I can’t compete with that.’
    ‘ I can’t settle for less’
    ‘and I’m still second best’
    ‘I can’t waste my time trying to fix myself and deal with rejection and disappointment’
    ‘What I’m finding is that the young men I’m with, even the ones who claim I’m the most beautiful creature they’ve ever seen (and they do) !aren’t aroused by just me!’

    I don’t judge you, I don’t know you or what you have went through.
    But this post just shouts NARCISSIM in my face. Please don’t blame porn for your insecurities.

    As said, I bet you are chill and didn’t mean to convey the message I just read. Everbody wants to be attractive,sexy and the object of (sexual) adoration.

    Man somehow, eventhough your post isn’t negative, it rubs me real wrong.

    Men do this for themselves, nofap that is, not to spoil women. At least that’s how I see it.
    And nowadays, more and more women watch/read porn. Look at 50 shades of Grey, bona fide porn for women.

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