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Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Ikindaknew, Jan 23, 2016.

  1. Ikindaknew

    Ikindaknew Fapstronaut

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    OK,

    I understand fully the need for me to stop PMO. It caused my wife to become sad because she felt she couldn't manage to please me enough, couldn't "compete" with slim female bodies, or higher sex drive women (as depicted in P, which is sci-fi). Poor girl is 50 yo and I love her. I don't care if gravity takes its toll, I love her body the way it is..she doesn't understand..its mind games...When I was PMO'ing, I was NOT seeking perfection, studio-perfect stuff, or younger girls. NOT. My wife is 10 years older than me, because I loved older women. I was 25 yo and she was 35 when I started dating with her. I liked my Coug! I always looked at real amature, looking legit, homemade stuff. Real bodies, not plastic surgery, forged background or 40 yo ponytail freaks.

    Now, I always been a MO fan. Even if I PMO'd, I sometimes MO'd (just like the pre-high speed internet age). I often sought ways to MO, including thinking about fabricating homemade "devices" to MO with. I even looked at "hands free" devices out there, like "e-stim". In a nutshell, I like MO'ing. My first ever O as a kid was caused by me "using" an object that later became a fetish. I always associated toys and/or objects with O. I can be VERY creative with this.

    Now, I've been PMO-free for 12 days. No Edging, no M, no O by myself. I had two PIV occurrences and that felt good, no more PIED. I had a woody all night last night. I don't sleep well, my mind is punishing me for starving it from dopamine.

    I still question myself about the validity to stop MO'ing. My issue was my Wife's low self-esteem and PIED. I stopped edging and MO'ing atthe same time as stopping to view P, as a package deal...

    I know I feel my ballz getting full and probably seeking self-gratification via O...
    To me, MO= healthy sex drive....PMO =bad for you and your missus.

    I stopped everything because I thought it was NoFap's SOP (standard operating procedure).
    What do I do?
     
  2. BlueNotes

    BlueNotes Fapstronaut

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    Do whatever works for you man. You know how you feel when you mastsurbate and if you feel fine and it doesn't effect your mentality or marriage, go for it. If it does well then you know what needs to be done.
     
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  3. Ikindaknew

    Ikindaknew Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your support! I just don't know if the voice in my head is/was the urge talking for me...To me, not MO'ing is something new. If I reap many benefits from not MO'ing, I'll be in a better place to figure out for myself. Right now, I feel like i'm "c*ckblocking" myself.
     
  4. BlueNotes

    BlueNotes Fapstronaut

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    To be honest bro I have three words for you: Trial and Error
    It took me a long time to figure out that voice in my head and the difference between what I want and what "he" wants. Just give it your best shot and learn. That's all you can do!
    Good luck!
     
  5. bearbones

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    Your wife will be deeply appreciative if you leave her in charge of your mo'ing.. just saying.

    And you'll deepen your relationship by associating o'ing exclusively with her. Eventually your body and mind will come to know her grip and her presence and you won't desensitize yourself with your own hands.

    Experiment. Try going the full 90 days without any PMO or MO.. if things haven't changed for the better, you can always go back to doing it yourself
     
  6. Ikindaknew

    Ikindaknew Fapstronaut

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    Thx. I'll try to make it to 30 days first. I just bought some devices a few weeks before stopping....There is an attraction...
     
  7. bearbones

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    Its good to set goals and stick with them. When the going gets tough, just take it one day at a time. Anybody can get through one day.

    As far as devices go, well, they're not real. Think about it. You have a living, breathing human with you who wants to share her heart, her body, her mind, and her time with you, but you're preoccupied with stickin your chimi in a robotic chonga...

    Part of what makes porn addiction so damaging is that it replaces real love and real relationships with fantasy, and rewires our brains to the extent that the fantasy seems better than reality. But its not. Thats the lie that adiction tells us, and its the lie that addicts believe.

    I think for best results you'd see a real difference in your life with a full reboot, just my opinion though.. there's a lot of personal experience, moral development, and science behind that opinion, but still, do whats best for you & yours
     
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  8. Ikindaknew

    Ikindaknew Fapstronaut

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    Yup, gotcha. I'm feeling confident that i'm doing fine. Sticking to real deal right now. I don't think that I could pass on real sex tho....I need it. MY PRECIOUSSSSSSSSSSS.
     

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