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Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Deleted Account, Jun 1, 2018.

  1. Analsex. Analsex is something that is super virulent in pornography. so much that i sometimes think it is the most important part in it.
    What role did it play, or does it play, in your addiction? Why is it - generally - so popular? Was it something you cared about before you watched porn? Is it linked to a more or less subtle "violent" part in Porn which is discussed here on board right now in other discussions?
     
  2. I don't think anal sex has to be violent by any means. I think it might make some scared or nervous, typically the female. Maybe in porn is violent bc porn is fucked
     
  3. bassist_car_guy

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    Because it's a pretty common turn on for both males and females. I almost did it once, and only because the girl asked me about it. Nothing wrong with it as long as you do it properly.
     
  4. Fork2323

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    There is so much of it in porn because it is the 1st step in fetish or diviant behavior. Porn sex is not making love between two people who care about each other.. it is the opposite. Its just power and control and ego trips. So anal porn is a reflection of that. Just no love here. Just ego of how degrading they can treat the girl.
     
  5. There is surely a truth into this. We tend to say anal is neutral like "everything else" - but thats not true, because there is a way we perceive "ass-fucking". Sure one could argue that the way we value it, isnt necessarly its nature, but it would be nevertheless foolish to deny that we all learned its supposed to be dirty and degrading (for the passive part). Porn is about fucking - not love making. And i think i read once the statement of a girl about being sodomized feels like "getting fucked" (in the metaphorical sense).
     
  6. Gotham Outlaw

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    It isn't violent. Some people just like to make sex (in any form) violent.
    Exactly. Discuss and take precautions.
     
  7. I was with one girl who really enjoyed it - she invited me to do it with her, more than once. It better not be done violently, BTW - that could be really, really bad.
     
  8. drac16

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    Anal sex in pornography has never turned me on. If I was married, I wouldn't want to do anal sex with my wife. I find it to be gross. Obviously if your partner is not down with it, I don't believe you should force him/her to do it.
     
  9. bro nobody said "ass-fucking," and that woman made a pretty decent observation, she is getting fucked when she partakes in anal sex. If you mean "we learned its supposed to be dirty and degrading" bc we watched porn, then yeah. But its clear porn isn't real life at all. Anal sex really just could be a postive experience for both parties. Doesnt have to be pornographic "ass fucking", like a porn star neanderthal
     
  10. Of course it doesnt have to be savage rude punishement etc pp. But the notion is there. In our daily life. Or not? We aint independent from that notion. I mean: you can surely deep throat someone without being a cruel sadist, but still it plays - to say the least - with uncomfortable (gag-reflex) feelings. So it is with anal too. you can do it slowly, you can be tender. But the act itself has something to it that isnt tender at all. The slight pain when you enter (assuming you do it carefully) reflects this as much as our daily life language. Ever wondered why for a lot of people only the passive part is homosexual? because for them getting fucked is THE problem. And i do think this girl have had such a perception of sex in her mind when she said "it feels like getting fucked". Because she meant the "metaphorical" fucking - not the simple physical act (because sure...shes getting fucked, what else?). I think nowadays people tend to search hide out in relativism: everything is "only how you look at it". But even if this is true: what does that change if most people look at it anyway the same way? I mean it isnt by chance that you even find a "new-word" called painal on the net - looks like there is a lot that make that connection: anal - pain. And they get off on it.
     
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  11. I must be some sort of square - I just can't get off on watching pain or degradation. If I saw anything where the actors or actresses were visibly or audibly suffering, I'd find it a turn off. Like the gagging stuff - no way.
     
  12. The question is: why is it there? not only as a random side-product, but a part of a whole industry? and no one seems to wonder...
     
  13. ukbritishbloke

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    I like it. I don't think it's part of an addiction for me.
     
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  14. Lucifer@333

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    No it is not violent. Actually people always want to have some newnsex positposi in ordee to maximima sex pleasure .
     
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  15. It´s generally considered a forbidden or kinda taboo practice in most religions /cultures. I think that is by far the main reason, why it is so virulent in pornography, it just sells best. There is a strong connection to rape, pain, degrading down to an animalistic beast level, while going on with a high lustpotential and pleasure too. It´s considered "unnatural", "dirty", "the wrong way", "inversive/pervert". Even in the antique it has been watched as most degrading. In the pederastic mentor/pupil relationships of the Greeks, anal practice on the younger boy was not tolerated, because it would have degraded him to a womans or even slave level, while the goal was to uplevel his male personality by the tight temporary relationship with an already mature man. It was about power in Rome, the dominus/master might do it to the slave, but not the other way around, without lost of prestige and authority. In the nordic mysteries analsex was connected to forbidden magic practices. Female powers were seen as mysterious and potential dangerous/rebellious for the later male dominated priesthoods and so have been men, who acted like females. In general it´s the passive part, which is considered as most degrading for a man (also because of it´s intense "female" lustpotential) , while it´s often rather tolerated taking the active part. It´s sterile, means denying the proper function of sexual intercourse for reproduction by putting lust over potential pregnancy and if done brutal can also be very painful/damaging, than it´s like rape.
     
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  16. I was never really one for anal sex with girls/women, but me and my ex were each other’s first and while I had no problems waiting until we could vaginal sex without her discomfort she always pushed for anal sex more than vaginal. After a while I was comfortable with just anal sex while she masturbated during. After my ex I was shocked by how many woman (maybe just my location or type of woman) wanted me to perform anal with them so there was a period where I expected that but never forced it upon any woman.

    With guys and trans I've never needed anal unless they requested me to do so as I prefer oral more than anything.
     
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  17. Julius93

    Julius93 Fapstronaut

    He actually said this like it's something normal.
     
  18. bassist_car_guy

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    You'd be surprised how many straight men have had sex with other men and transsexuals. It's actually pretty commonplace here. Also, holy trigger warning on the "anal sex while she masturbated" thing, can't be saying shit like that around porn addicts my dude.
     
  19. Julius93

    Julius93 Fapstronaut

    That must be the reason why they are here.

    That's sound exciting and a bit gross at the same time. If that girl was on NoFap, she would have to reset her counter. We are all in here for the trigger, isn't that right? Lol.
     

  20. Apologies, good sir. I assumed the entire thread was a trigger warning. Won’t happen again.

    @Julius93, the deviant behavior associated with putting myself in those sexual situations was not normal.
     

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