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"You should fuck at your age"

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Deleted Account, Sep 22, 2018.

  1. Someone told me that a half year back. It went like this: I brought some flowers to a couple of girls at university with the special ocassion of a holiday and i shamed by "mistake" the other boys because they didn't give them any although the assholes knew it perfectly well that the day will come and it's the tradition to bring flowers and all that to women. So the girls were happy and all that but some asshole comes to me and says in front of the other colleagues:" You didn't have to do that. You should fuck at your age." Everybody laughs. Good joke. I felt lonely and very sad thinking of it as "is this so important at my age? will go like ten years without fucking and i wasted my youth in some aspect?" I'm 20 by the way. Lost my virginity long way back and didn't have any sex since then but i have the problem of masturbation every-day you see and never had a girlfriend, and i think i will not have any in the long-time future. What do you think? Am i a loser?...
     
  2. Atlanticus

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    You're fine, guy, and a romantic too!:)

    Now, you may have felt more vulnerable to what others say because all this PMO is messing with your sense of self-worth. Just reboot! It's hard enough but after 60-90 days....you'll be getting your mojo back! Success!
     
  3. I agree. The problem revolves around my addiction to porn. Now ironically i probably sound like an iprocrite... i felt very strongly in his words that selfishness that men generally have around women you know... just view them like an object for self use ALTHOUGH my addiction to porn confirms that because it's the same thing!! You see in that very moment i regret it and felt bad for women to be viewed like that. That is one of the reasons why i am here on this site.. to quit forever my addiction and it helps when i share my thoughts with other people...
     
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  4. dont worry about these guys, that was just a good joke and you could just laugh ;) Noone took it serious and noone cares about your lack of sex as they care only about themselves. 90% percent of ur friends are virgins at the age of 20 and you not. Keep moving on ;)
     
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  5. Peace467

    Peace467 Fapstronaut

    Your doing the right things and your spot on with sharing things with other and chatting about it / Working it through.

    Im 24 never had a gf, you have 4 years head start on my to change your life! Make the changes and stick to them - I should of when I was your age and didnt, you have all the time in the world to have a GF and sex. Imrpove yourself now though, dont let it wait!
     
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  6. Jason_Tesla_19

    Jason_Tesla_19 Fapstronaut

    I'm still a virgin at 30, so don't feel bad! You're at least way ahead of me :)
    Flowers aren't necessarily a mistake, but it can be seen as too "nice".

    Here's an interesting article on why niceness doesn't help you get a romantic relationship. Niceness is great if you just want to be friends. I know I struggle with being too nice, because I don't enjoy being mean or heartless (even though I'm very good at it, but people rarely see that!).
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/.../201405/the-secret-turning-friendship-romance
     
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  7. alexander86

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    The guys who said that sounds like a dooshe. And you sound like a chill guy my man.

    Flowers may seem a bit excessive - i'd say just hand those out when in a relationship.

    20 is young man! You got ages! Work on yourself and girls will become a by-product my man.
     
  8. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    bringing flowers to girls can be a good way to try to fuck!
     
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  9. Don't even bother, I'm 31 and I wish I never had sex or did any PMO till now. I would be giving my girlfriend better sex and a full version of me.

    Besides HIV and other STIs exists don't be fooled.
     
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  10. geoff-89

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    I find your action very heroic and audacious, don't let those doushbag distract you.
    Follow what you find it's worthwhile to follow.:)
     
  11. Ra's Al Ghul

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    Its a bit over the top for these modern times/tinder generation. At that rate you'll never be able to live it down and next the gals will expect expensive diamond rings from you.
     
  12. phwrancesco

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    Virgins always gibe terrible tips on this forum.

    I think you should simply realize that after 22-23 being a virgin is not that okay anymore like was in the past and try to quit masturbation and porn in order to have a girl.

    Ps i lost my virginity at 19 with a random girl and i don't regret it neither.
     
  13. Do what you want. Everyone is different and unique. Do what you want. Don't take any advice other than that. It only matters what you want to do. Make sure it is really what you want (and not what's been put into your head)
     
  14. You've pretty much answered your own questions in your OP. He was an a*****e, never let the world define what you want to do or how you should act.
    ESPECIALLY with regards to matters of intimacy. Follow what you want from your own life.
     

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