You can´t beat the hormones with your will

i would say we must control the lust - or learn to control it again.

of course horniness is natural. i think everyone has a different level. some can control it and some not.

in my case i was not able to control it - thats why i am/was fapping. this excessive arousing caused a big chaos in my inner life.

i think we cant beat the hormones but we can probably control them (or we can try to control them).

the urge to have sex is a basic instinct -
in my opinion we are quite intelligent animals.

 

Well, but you can learn to balance it. You can TRAIN to handle akward situations.

Like you can train to keep cool and to get no panic when a fire breaks out.

 

You can beat your hormones, it just depends on your strength, discipline and self control. No hormone can ever force you to do something you don't decide to do. The human will is capable of overcoming even the most intense of our desires.

 

Hum I certainly don't know if I agree on this one, following this logic I'd relapse every time I have my periods because God knows how a massive cocktail of hormones it is. I may be full of hope but I believe you actually can beat your hormones. You can beat 'em by fooling them or as MW said, by crushing them through mastering yourself. There's a lot of cases of men doing perfectly fine with "NoFap" through self-control and discipline, right now I'm thinking of monks but I'm sure there are other examples. And even just my humble self, yesterday I had one of my most violent urge to date because I'm on my periods again and it's impossible to explain or visualize but there's like your flesh physically craves something down there. It's absolutely not mental. It's purely physical. The flesh inside feels like a black hole dying to attract any kind of meat that passes next to it. It's an animal feeling. Did I relapsed?

No.

Because my hormones do not define me.

 

is there a difference between

hormones
emotions
brain
mind
soul

depending to this damn addiction?

which of this factors plays the biggest role?

thats for sure - we stressed all of them by using excessive porn for whatever reasons.

 

To my experience: EMOTIONS. A clash of positive and negative emotions. You WANT to do something, but FEAR and DOUBTS are holding you back from decisions and actions.

This is what happens:

1) You WANT to DO something. For example, you want to practice guitar. Or you want to write a software for someone. Because, in your dream, you WANT to be on stage! You WANT to sell a great software! You want thousands of happy customers, you weant to do GREAT things, you want to be famous and rich!

2) But THEN, you begin to THINK ... "Wait! Probably, my work will not be perfect ... And then, I will be critized ... !!! "

3) You FEAR any critizism! It makes you sick and trembling! It is the worst for you!

4) So you come to your "solution": You do NOTHING !!! Because if you do NOTHING, you cannot do ANY MISTAKES! Instead you "better" look some porn!! This gives you happyness at once, and no one will critize you for it!

That's what is going on!

 

right a big clash - and permanent ups and downs.

i forgot the horniness. this is also an important factor. everyone has a different level of horniness. i think fapstronauts have a very high level - porn is boosting the horniness. this is something god-given. damn he gave me far too much of it!