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Hi,

New to the forum. Just wanted to share my story in here. I encountered NoFap's forum some years back by accident when surfing on the web and I thought: "This is ridiculous, why would people stop masturbating? They must be a bunch of religious fanatics trying to make masturbation look like a sin." But now I am here again... as a member... But let me start from the beginning.

I started to masturbate with frequency when I was about 14. It was hard to get porn back then but I masturbated thinking about all the girls I was attracted to. Some years later I started to use porn, but only when my parent's weren't home and it was the same CD that I would watch over and over again. Then when I was around 18 - 19yo, I started to visit porn sites with more frequency and got to the point of making it a habit of almost every day, and often multiple times a day. New porn sites had high definition videos and the facility to find the type of scenes I wanted became easier and easier. So many new beautiful and super hot Pornstars... it was heaven. Then I discovered that masturbating to porn while high on weed was many times more intense for me so I would do this about once a week (apart from all the regular masturbation I did) and sometimes I would even have long lasting (30min - 1hr) edging sessions. It felt super intense. I pushed the intensity up all the way I could. Then I started to notice half erections sometimes when having sex, so I would go to a friend that sold me V-pill and fix the problem with that - taking half a pill whenever I needed to perform well. At first the erections with the pills were super hard and I would last super long and then be ready to have sex again 10 minutes later, and even though I got terrible headaches afterwards I would say to myself that it was worth it. However, after a while, even with the pills I started to experience not-full erections, delayed ejaculation and sometimes loss of erection. Also now, masturbating was becoming more difficult because my dick would not get 100% hard or I would lose erection really fast if I just lost focus for half a second. I then noticed that if I didn't have a pill I could simply not get hard when having sex. It happened to me with three different girls.

One time I was with a hot girl on the beach at night and she was ready to have sex, but it did not get hard at all, I thought I might have been nervous that anyone would see us. Then it happened again with another girl, but I blamed it on the alcohol. Then, it happened one more time with yet another girl. This time I had not drank alcohol, the girl was hot as hell and licking the back of my throat with her tongue asking me for a rough fuck. I was super into this girl and we had a room in a resort all for ourselves, but it didn't get hard during any of the three nights that we spent together there. I told her to do all sorts of things, but only a bland 1/4 erection that didn't even last long. That was my wake up moment to realize that something was not right with me and I had to do something about it.

I am now 28 years old. I started to read about PIED and sounded very similar to what I had so I started to hear people saying that leaving porn behind was the way to go. I decided to start a rebooting process because I don't want to have such great opportunities like those wasted again. So now I am only on day 25 but I am willing to remain on abstinence for as many days as necessary... Hopefully not super long. I have also decided to forget completely about porn, no matter how much I used to love it because having good sex with real girls is worth that sacrifice, and when I start to masturbate again after this rebooting, I will only do it one a week or so.

So far it has not been hard at all to reach these many days. I have not experienced a lot of anxiety or strong urges, probably because I have made up my mind that I need to make the sacrifice in order to fix this problem. After the first two weeks I noticed that I was having morning woods, however this only happened for three or four days. Now it seems like the progress is moving backwards. I thought that after all these days I would start to have super intense cravings but this lack of urges worries me a little.

I am new to these whole culture of "NoFap" but I have read about the flatline period. How do you know that you are going through that period and when is it over? Has anybody been in a similar situation as me, and if so, how long it took you to get the problem fixed. Also, if you were able to fix it, has it really fixed 100% or do you still get flaccid penis every now and then? I hear people talk about how NoFap has effects of improved memory, confidence, focus, etc, etc, but what really interests me is whether or not I will be able to have a 100% hard penis when having sex again and also last long so that the girl is pleased. (I don't want to have a hard penis and cum in 0.45 sec... If you know what I mean.) I would appreciate all the info you can bring.

Sorry for the long post.
Cheers

 

It's day 31 of no PMO for me (record streak) and I wanted to talk about my experience so far.

During the first two weeks I felt some anxiety, especially on the weekends when I normally spend a lot of time at home. I had to go biking around the neighborhood, or go swimming at the pool in my condos because those were the only things that would calm me down a bit. I was Ok with it because the anxiety was forcing me to go outside and do healthy activities... but during the following days, the anxiety started to dissipate, and I have noticed that I've been feeling super lazy.

Regarding porn urges, I haven't had strong ones, and it's been fairly easy to reach this streak, which I find a bit weird because for me it was almost impossible to reach a whole week without masturbating. I do miss porn a bit, but it's nothing I can't control right now. I've been having low libido for the most part of the streak. I still check out hot girls when I see them, but I only know they're hot objectively; I am attracted to them but I don't feel any "physical reaction" or tingling sensation for desire. My penis has been hibernating. This, however, I feel like has been changing during this present week. I've been feeling a slight increase in libido. At night, when I am sleeping, I have been having dreams where there are lots of girls involved. In one of the dreams I was even watching porn hehe (It was a dream; I can't control that too much). Maybe I am just coming out of the flatline? I can't say yet... Maybe things will keep changing in the following days. Anyways that's all for now. I don't have a set number of days that I want to reach. I guess I will know when I am ready.

Cheers.

 

Yeah, even I am impressed of reaching these many days. I tried many times before and I couldn't go past a week, but this time I was pissed off because my dick didn't work when I was with a girl that attracted me and that gave me the strength to reach this streak. The urges have been returning these past few days though. Sometimes I have flashbacks of some of my favorite porn scenes and it's very tempting to just go and watch them, but the streak has given me the momentum to just keep going.

Yeah, well no superpowers for me so far... Except some anxiety and laziness. One thing though, I've noticed that lately I get erections pretty easily, especially around the morning time, and my penis feels thicker in general, but this is a direct effect being so many days without orgasming. I would still need to see how I do when having sex regularly.

 

Post a link to your story here. I would like to read it.

 

I had sex yesterday for the first time since I started the NoFap. In the past few days I had been noticing that I was getting morning wood so things were looking promising. While making out with the girl I got a really hard erection, however during sex itself, on a few occasions it got slightly flaccid but I only had to grab it with my hand for it to get 100% hard again. I then reached orgasm after only a short time. I didn't try to go for a second round since it was late and I was tired so I don't know if I could have done it. I am glad that at least this time I was able to have sex.