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Worried about flatline

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by B better, Dec 31, 2017.

  1. B better

    B better Fapstronaut

    Hi guys,

    I have committed to no PM, O from sex with wife and I’m on day 8. I’ve been in flatline since day 1, absolutely nothing going on down there. Problem is, I’ve committed to this because we’ve been trying to get pregnant and it hasn’t been going too well due to PIED and DE. My wife is being supportive but at the same time she is getting frustrated because she still expects me to “at least try” and do the business. She will only commit to missing 1 ovulation period, by the time that’s come and gone and the next one is upon us I will be roughly 45 days no PMO, do you think I will be ready for sex once every 48hrs for 10 days by that point, or will it massively set me back?
     
  2. Rob_B_

    Rob_B_ Fapstronaut

    Hard to say, mate, because everyone's different. If it helps at all, I myself went through a complete flatline for the first ten or so days of my reboot, after which things started gradually improving. The first time I tried having sex was about 15-20 days into my reboot, and it was a struggle - got there in the end, but only just (and that with the help of a low-dose little blue pill). The second time was ten or so days later, and that went well, although again with a pill. Now, 40+ days in, I'm not quite back to normal yet, but I'm certainly capable of getting and maintaining a proper enough erection to have sex, even without a pill. (Bear in mind, I'm 50+, so my natural capabilities are probably a pale shadow of yours, given your age.) So if that's anything to go by, you could be just fine at 45 days into yours, and possibly before, although as I said these things come with no performance guarantees or warranties, alas.

    Whether you'll be ready to have sex every 48 hrs, I've no idea - to be honest, I can't even remember what that was like (you lucky dog!). :) And as for whether it will 'set you back', I'm no expert but I wouldn't have thought so - for me, at least, natural sex with my missus as nature intended is very much what I'm aiming for, not what I'm trying to avoid; I see it as part of the solution, not part of the problem.
     
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  3. B better

    B better Fapstronaut

    Thanks for the reply mate. It’s just upsetting because all she wants is a baby and she doesn’t seem to understand that I’m wanting to do this to actually IMPROVE our chances of succeeding with that. It’s frustrating for the both of us, all I can do I suppose is continue with this plan and hope that my mind and body are ready when I need them to be
     
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  4. B better

    B better Fapstronaut

    Thanks for the reply. I do not have full PIED, it only affects me when I have been on a heavy porn binge or I have sex several days in a row due to trying to get my wife pregnant. I am hoping that no PMO for the next 40 days will help matters and my wife is fine with me continuing with no PMO between ovulation periods for as long as it takes for me to fully reboot. So I will be hopefully having a good amount of sex in a short period followed by another 4 week abstinence, hopefully this assist with my rewiring to the real thing
     
  5. soberhenry

    soberhenry Fapstronaut

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    Does she have the ovulation app for her phone? It tracks her cycle so you can tell within a few days when she is ovulating, It's pretty accurate. Have her combine that with ovulation test strips that test her urine. You can find out the actual hours she is ovulating, this gives you your best shot if you only have a limited amount of times you can perform. Good luck!
     
  6. B better

    B better Fapstronaut

    Yeah we have tried all of that for the last 3 or 4 months with no joy, we both need to go to the doctors at some point to make sure everything is working physically for both of us. I am slowly coming out of flatline I think but I still don’t have any interest in sex yet
     
  7. ISOhappiness

    ISOhappiness Fapstronaut

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    Don’t be so harsh on yourself and the baby thing, well too much anxiety could be a problem. Enjoy sex it won’t be a big set back just make up your mind to keep moving forward and stick with it. Our paths don’t all need to be the same.
     
  8. gaink

    gaink Fapstronaut

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    I'm newly married and started no pm about 9 weeks ago. Now almost 8 weeks I think in a flatline period, no urge, nothing movement down there, some wet dream almost every week and morning wood. Even I still cannot do to piv due to I cannot maintain my erection. Very stressful for me because I still in this flatline and my wife although she is very supportive to me, in deep heart she want to have a baby. imo since you still can have sex, just enjoy sex. Many of men like even get difficult to hqve sex :(
     
  9. MarinoBigFan1984

    MarinoBigFan1984 Fapstronaut

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    You can only do one at a time. You won’t heal with constant sex.
     

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