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Will having sex weaken my body and mind?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Henryk, Jan 24, 2017.

  1. Henryk

    Henryk Fapstronaut

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    I had sex with a girl I'm seeing. I know it shouldn't reset my streak but damn I feel so weak right now. Even walking is hard.

    It takes me roughly 9-10 days to recover my full strength from an ejaculation. I haven't had sex since I started NoFap 2 years ago, so have no idea what to do. If I have sex at least once a week, does that mean I'll permanently be at half strength?

    If having a girlfriend means feeling like this all the time, then I'd rather go into celibacy.

    I feel that my whole foundation that I built over the past two years is going to crumble by having a girlfriend, but I do really like the girl and want to make it work.

    Physically, I feel drained and weak. My muscles don't have a lot of strength in them and usually takes over a week to come back. Mentally, I feel unmotivated to do anything. Since the most pleasure I get now comes from sex and a relationship, it's only natural that everything else will be dulled out.

    I can at least choose not to fantasize about her, which gives my brain a break from sex. But I wonder if that's enough.

    Is it possible to stay strong and driven while having sex with a partner often?
     
    Last edited: Jan 24, 2017
  2. LadyDefiant

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    These are interesting questions with answers you will probably have to determine through experience. However, I wanted to let you know that sexton doesn't equal ejaculation. There is karezza, tantric sex, and I'm sure a whole host of other things. Explore your options and include your gf in the discussion. Best of luck.
     
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  3. Henryk

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    Thanks for the reply. I've thought about doing this, but I hear that prolonged erections and edging are bad. They always give me that "blueballs" feeling and sick in the stomach, and then it usually triggers a wet dream to release what I've built up. Is that a problem you've encountered?
     
  4. LadyDefiant

    LadyDefiant Fapstronaut

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    Well, seeing as how I'm a lady, no that isn't a problem I've personally encountered. :)
    My husband has had issues w/ "blue balls" but they usually dissipate in a few hours, he refuses to try cold showers or anything cold for that matter, but I hear that can be helpful.
    Also I didn't say anything about prolonging erections or edging, neither of which are a requirement for tantric sex or karezza. Good luck!
     
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