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Why not femdom

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Aust, Mar 23, 2019.

  1. DiFaaprio

    DiFaaprio Fapstronaut

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    Femdom urges are usually born in people who even before they got into porn had been in the presence of very strong, independent women. Cases where kids in their early teens develop these fetishes come from seeing either their father being punked or dominated by their relatives, coworkers or any female they come across or seeing their mom being the man in the house.

    Understand these urges came from your environment and are not necessarily representing who you are.

    You are a Man, a strong man who just needs to peel off the huge crust of pussy youve built around your manhood. Goodluck friend
     
  2. Hoorak

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    Well my father is not the best leader , mother is very strict it could be sometjing related to it , but not that much. This fantasies would never escalete if there havent been adds, tvs or internet porn. At first i only watched vanilla porn then to bdsm lesbian and the last station was this fetish, it got boring over time.
     
  3. Peiskos

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    You’re just conditioning yourself to get aroused to only a particular thing, femdom. So that in future situations with a woman if she isn’t dominating you you’re going to have trouble getting an erection and having normal sex with her. This is what porn induced erectile dysfunction is.

    You don’t want to get so involved with femdom that it gets to the point where that’s the only that that does it for you.
     
  4. ultrafabber

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    I'm pretty sure femdom (submission) stuff is a new thing, at least to this spread and magnitude. I think it has two primary causes, both being connected to living with/around strong, independent women:

    1. the women did become much more independent since they joined the workforce, got new rights etc - they start to be pushy and disrespectful to their husband, they assume power and control over kids.

    2. the (primary and secondary) education system is 99% WOMEN, as opposed to all men teachers in the past (pre 1940s). This means that the boys have to submit to the authority of women, something that never happened in the past

    Combine 1+2 and you have a perfect storm for an epidemic of sissy/femdom/homosexuality/cuckoldry etc
     
  5. chapuleta

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    i have a foot fetish since i was a baby because of one of my baby-sitters,and i have a desire about being on my knees worshiping the feet of a little evil girl and being a doormat to her walk on me hahaha,but not being humiliated or degrating fantasies.Maybe i watched some movie or vídeo game where the female character stepped on someone guys face and i like associated the foot fetish with being stepped on.
    But is just that, i dont like it out of the foot fetish "scene". On otherhand i like more using my foot fetish during the sex with a girl i really love worshping her feet in a love context. And i read an article on 8chan about femdom fetish when it started, and the majority of the guys are into femdom and that are submissive to girls tell that they were bullied by girls on her early puberties or when they were little kids. But i dont remember something like that on my puberty, besides the foot thing with my babysitter related to my desire on being on girls feet.

    Now my history with pornography and why i think they can make you be what you arent.

    I Always had a Strong foot fetish and all my life since 15 years old until now 25 years old i fapped only to porn related to foot fetish, But my only fetish is over foot,remember im a 25 years old never kissed a girl and im a virgin yet,Notice: all the kind of porn categories im listing now have a foot fetish realted during the vídeo,like girls showing their feet while doing or saying other things,like insulting me by my foot fetish or saying i will be virgin forever by liking feet,so go on i started with straigh foot fetish(15 - 17 years old)>>> trample(pratice where i stepped by girls)(18 - 20) >> now start things that to me is not party of my self inner being but htings pornography make me feel addicted and i fell disgusted to fap to this >>>>> \\\\\ crush fetish(girls stomp animals to death, but i love animals, i myself cant stepp on an poor ant without fell bad for that,so why i feel excited about crush fetish? porn make me think i like that.)(21 -22)>> countdown and brainwashing,money slave( im the most Penny-pincher guy on the world hahaha, how i like money slave?because porn made me like that.)(22 - 23)>>femdom like being submissive to girls stuff and virgin humiliation and cuckold(if someones give me orders in real life i want punch them on face and got very angry,so why i like to receive girls order and being dominated,so why i like that?porn make me like that.).(24 - 25) //////, and since i started i noticed that i was fapping to things i feel disgusted,so im since my 20 years old sttruging with pornography (5 years strugglin with it) but i continue coming back to porn during these years because i havent any girlfriend(sad),if i have a girlfriend all of that disgusting things porn make me think i like was fade and be washed alway.
     
  6. Orest

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    WELL FUCK INDEPENDENT WOMEN THEN! TELL THEM TO GO BE INDEPENDENT SOMEWHERE ELSE!
     
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  7. Hoorak

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    Indepedent women are a symptom of modern times, and as time progresses they are become more and more independent. The more they are , the more sterile they become ( they have fewer children) . Add to that alot education and u get your perfect indepedent, emancipated women which cares only about herself and refuses to let a man rule over here. I like to call it this way: university is there to make women sterile , not in here body, but in her mind.
    Edit: the fertility rate is still dropping in the west. Thinking that i write bullshit? Look around
     
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  8. IbrahimViking

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    I have always been sexually dominant, as long as I can remember. Pornograpy is where I learnt the terms for what I liked, as well as the fact that this is very popular. It did not "make" me dominant, and I don't believe it made you submissive. Blaming an outer thing (e.g. a porn clip) for your preferences is a fine stepping stone, as projecting what we don't like (guilt or responsibility) outwards, we can actually have a better look at it and make a clear decision, but it should not stop there, in the end of the day, only taking your own responsibility for your own behavior can lead you to more power.
    If you ask about Femdom on a website devoted to porn addiction, I would guess that most men will think that a porn actress or a dominatrix (a tired woman who has to pretend to be sexually dominant out of the desperation of poverty) is a "dominant woman". They will correctly assume that a real meaningful relationship with that - a fiction - is impossible, and I too would agree that it's just a waste of time.
    A happy loving relationship within BDSM is possible, and does not "exclude" one partner. That would be called "abuse", not BDSM. If you come to a public space and ask "what is wrong with x", you'll always find many answers, but they have little to do with you. It's only your life that can answer the question. Are you happy? Does your fetish contribute to your happiness or destroy you with guilt? Do you believe that you can actually have what you want? Don't answer me - just ask that from yourself: do femdom and crossdressing prevent you from happiness? To some this answer is yes, and to some it's a no. There's no "right" answer that others can help you find.
    Imho
     
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  9. fedmom

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    Low serotonin causes masochism which is genetic to a certain extent. Men can only be masochistic, not sexually submissive. If this addiction is a problem for anyone I've made a thread for getting rid of it.
     
  10. Stop porn and these thoughts will go away
     
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  11. singleforever

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    So many things wrong with this statement. It would be easier to tell a fish to stop swimming.

    I know I'm late to the party with this thread, but I just found this site today. that being said, I fully understand the OP problem. It is not as simple as "your a man, act like one." I was into the BDSM seen for a very long time and I have seen some of the manliest men turn into a sub/slave for men and women. At the same time I have seen some of the meekest people suddenly become a dominate Master. It is not about being a man at this point, your not thinking like that. Your statement comes from someone who has never been in this situation. This has little to nothing about making yourself better or someone else lower than you, it is a purely sexual thing, it is about getting into sub-space, or for the Master getting off on watching someone getting off from what you are doing to them. It is very complicated. And can be just as complicated to get out of or away from.

    It is like a switch , out in the world I'm the one in charge of XYZ, but in here I'm nothing but her/his toy. I'm a MARINE I was in the 2nd RECON battalion. I was a team leader, a VC with the Light armored division. I have been in combat, I have faced people shooting back at me. So please, tell me I'm not a man I would pound you into the dirt, mentally and physically. But in the BDSM scene I was both a Master and slave/sub, but more than not I was a sub. Am I proud of that? No, I'm not But at the time it was a release for me, a way to stop being in control of everything. A chance to just let someone else take the reins for a while. This fed into the porn, it was the only type that would work for me, I had to watch Masters and slaves or Femdoms or what ever. I get it, what the OP is going through. I haven't been to a BDSM event or meeting in about 1 year, but it is still in my mind everyday.

    @Aust: All I can say is one day at a time, one thought at a time and you will make it out. We had a saying in the MARINE that I still use to this day. Live your life chow too chow. Meaning just make it to breakfast and your good, now just make it to lunch and your good and so on. The day is only 24 hours long so it can only last so long.
     
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