why no girl wants to be with me

Then this is the thing you need to focus on changing. I've been in a place similar to you. I would get so caught up with the idea of being with a particular girl that, when I got rejected, it left me devastated. I don't claim to have mastered this myself, but my best advice is to give up on finding a girl for a while, get some other interests in life, find happiness apart from being with someone, and then go back to the search once you've matured a little bit and become more independent.

I will also say that if you do attract someone while you are emotionally dependent, it is likely to be someone else who is emotionally dependent, and that could lead to a very toxic relationship.

 

PA creates a self-imposed solitary confinement as member @Kenzi puts it. It makes us socially avoidant, chained to the screen avoiding our issues and fears. It increases our depression and perpetuates solitude as we spend hours online skimming porn instead of doing real stuff.

Stop the PMO, reboot and live your life, get a girl, be happy.

 

Yeah, sometimes i ask myself why that beautiful girl is with a guy that is uglier than me, but soon i realize that it's because i'm not even trying to approach any girl, i'm just a shy guy with social anxiety, it doesn't matter if you are handsome or not, we always feel like life is unfair with us. But, in the deep, i know that there must be some girl that wants to date a guy like me, and that keeps me up and motivated. I wish you force, my friend, i'm sure that out there, that's a girl that will love you.

OBS: Do not stick to the girl with all your forces, be linked with her, but not in a compusory emotional level.

 

Interesting. So I came to the conclusion that the problem why no girls want to like you is because... you're the issue. Some people might not agree but hey, this is my cup of tea so take it or not. Here's what I think, the reason why this love interest comes into your life is so significant for you to post this kind of issue to use addresses that there are some qualities within that make it seem like you're clingy and have no respect for women. I think you're seeing this way about women is totally different from what I'm seeing. You see that women owe you something. Wtf guy. You probably make physical or mental notes to girls that you're expecting some kind of return for your actions. That's definitely how we operate as human beings. First, I think you need to list out ten things about yourself and REALLY ask yourself. What are my qualities? What are my pros and cons and how can I correct them when I'm around people or girls in general? What do I value in people to get them to like me? Then go into the question of: What kind of person do I want to hang out with? That's the issue that you're missing out. You're rambling about how she is the one and you're nothing without her. Please. There's billions of people out there and you're only asking for one person to stay in your life just because you merely had multiple interactions with? That's something you need to figure out about yourself first because you apply those methods into communicating to others.

 

Sounds like a classic case of one-itis. Unfortunately clinical trials for a vaccine are still at least 18 months away.

 

I have to disagree - many women are VERY emotionally-invested in their relationships. You're here, so clearly you've had some sort of issue with M, whether it was PMO or some other kind doesn't matter. You weren't trying to be your best self, and she could intuit that. Realise that she is one of roughly 3.5 billion women on the planet, and for whatever reason, doesn't dig you. Do your reboot, make yourself the best @jimz by whatever means it takes, and who knows, you'll come to see her lack of interest in you as the best gift she could ever have given you.

 

I got engaged recently (it’s an arranged marriage) and it’s really good to finally get to know someone special. Before this i was single my whole life and I really didn’t understand what i should do to find a partner. Thankfully my parents stepped in and I don’t have to worry about it anymore. Thank God for arranged marriages! And contrary to western beliefs, arranged marriages aren’t “forced” in any way on either side.

 

I believe it was Apu on The Simpsons who said something to the effect that "You know, one in 25 arranged marriages ends in divorce."

 

Until you come at a relationship from a place of wholeness, all you will experience is attachment and validation. Not love.

A great relationship is two whole circles coming together. Where the circles overlap they help each other grow and create something amazing.

Rather than two half circles that can't function without each other.

 

Haha

 

ask her if she is open to having an affair

 

Yeah @gunslinger215 , I thought you'd appreciate the observation. Too many cultures have it, and it's been around for too long to just dismiss it out if hand as a 'barbaric custom'

Women usually don't cheat unless they want to cheat. If she's just thinking of her husband, you'd be expending too much effort for too little potential gain. Flirt with her like crazy (there are places online you can get advice), and if she gets defensive/mentions hubby, just say that you're both adults and a little harmless flirting never hurt anyone.

 

i wanna be with you

 

This is something I also discovered for myself. This feeling you have is the effect that PMO does still have on you. My friends which are totally normal, can talk hours with girls but don't feel love or something like that. Just keep on going with noPMO and try to be socialised as you was in your young stages of life..