Why I'm Here

I'd just like to share the reason for me going on NoFap and why I am finally determined to beat my addiction to porn. Your thoughts on my situation would be very much appreciated.

I am 22 years old and I've already had two serious relationships, both of which I enjoyed a lot of sex. Yet despite this fact, I continued to watch porn and masturbate almost every day. Deep down, I knew that it was an addiction, but I figured that it never really bothered my relationship with them, nor did it deeply affect my other responsibilities, and so I didn't think that I needed an intervention then.

Currently however, I have started to date a new girl—a relationship which I would describe as quite frigid. For a little context, she's a freshman law student and I'm studying for my engineering board exams and so making time for one another is very difficult at the moment. Compounding this is the fact that she is still a virgin and is hesitant to go any further than light kissing (which we do... once a month).

I've already talked to her about my needs, specifically how "touch" is my love language. Although one may assume that this is code for sex, but it's not. I've accepted the fact that I won't be having penetrative sex anytime soon, but I was indeed hoping for more than light kissing (2nd or 3rd base, to be honest). She took it well and promised that we would eventually "level up," but our timeline is in months, not weeks.

Well, the wait is killing me. I get very frustrated thinking about the lack of physical intimacy. Now, the "conventional bro advice" has always been to just jerk off to porn and to be honest, I've been masturbating to porn nearly every day FOR YEARS.

But now I feel that maybe my need for physical intimacy is rooted in my porn addiction, and I feel that curbing it will go a long way in helping me overcome this issue with my girlfriend.

 

Thanks Septimus! I'll keep your offer in mind.