Why I deactivated Facebook. And why you should consider it to

Yeah. I made a Facebook account a year, or 2 ago. & deactivated my account the next day. It never really caught my interest. Too many friend requests from random people. I actually do have a Facebook account that I go on, like, 5 times a year. @ the very most. Just to view a friend's post, or whatever.

 

Yeah. For me it turned from wanting to make new friends to wanting to portray myself as a winner and a happy person so people would think I'm cool. It went from spending a couple minutes a day, to a couple of hours, to several hours, to checking every minute waiting for someone to like or respond so I could feel validated. I deactivated my account a year and a half ago and haven't looked back.

Also, I've started avoiding the comment section of websites like YouTube and even forums unrelated to NoFap (though there are some idiots on this website too). All these comments do is boil up the blood. And the sad part is you know the person talking shit is some lonely, worthless low-life with no girlfriend or job.

 

You're absolutely right, YiboW. I deleted mine, too.

 

Even though it has a huge negative impact on us, Facebook still has a lot of good features. I can actually keep in touch with my buds and I use it for a group that my classmates created, in order to help each other with college projects and basically anything related to college.

But yeah, I totally feel where you're coming from and I agree. Maybe I'll quit as well in the future.

 

I agree. I'm addicted to Facebook. I will post something just to get a response. Just to get a like. Or a comment. Or some pity. Anything to get attention and get a dopamine hit....

God help me. I'm scared of being alone. Without outside connections to people. It's not how I want to be. I need to change.

 

I have my FB tailored to suit my needs. I "like" pages that give me good info like vegan recipes or buy and sell pages for my neighbourhood and I mostly block or unfollow people that are not my real friends. I only have like 30 friends anyway and most of them are relatives that want to see pics of my kids and stuff. I deactivated my account for a full year and got rid of my 200 "friends" and realized I really don't need it at all. Now it is a choice to get info and stay in contact with real friends.

 

For me facebutt it's just a tool I use to chat sometimes and keep in touch with some friends, nothing more.

 

Great post! Insightful and on point. I've been on board with this for a while now. I personally feel like this applies to more than just facebook: snapchat, twitter, instagram, whatever else too.

Snapchat. In my opinion, it's a deceptively harmful app that really undermines the quality of life. It detracts one's attention from the present moment at a concert, doing something fun, being with friends, or wherever, a nice sunset. People feel the need to "share" what they're doing. I had one for a little bit. I'd find myself in a situation were I feel an urge to snap it and put it to my story so that others could see it and know I was doing that cool thing. It comes down to a split persona. The online profile you, vs. the actual you.

Also, I feel like all those moments and times you manifested thoughts and energy into either snapping or not stopping, add up to a hell of a lot of time. In ten years all those ten second breaks in attention will add up to a lot of time. Not to mention all the time you spend digesting all this quick photos and videos of people's lives you really don't care about.

Before bed, I see my brother run through his story. I just think it's poisoning the mind to think of all that stupid shit before bed. Hyper conditioning you to seek that kind of social gratification. Just the mere exposure alone is enough to make changes, but the behaviors all with it all are especially distressing to me.

We need to stop consuming senseless media as a whole. Terrence Mckenna has a great speech that touches on this notion.

 

This song is relevant. Dream Theater wrote it with social media in mind.

 

I find myself when out in nature hardly able to enjoy myself because I "have" to take pictures to document that I have been there. How silly! Its like we are reducing our whole lives to how people online react to them. Your digital avatars become the real you, while all the feelings that conflict with your online persona get repressed.

Isn't Terrance McKenna the DMT guy?

 

Most of the people who get addicted to Facebook are usually not successful in their lives ,so they seek a virtual success on social media.

 

Hmm.. maybe your Facebook friends are not successful? It's opposite with me. When I had Facebook, all of my friends that I personally know are very successful in their lives. As for me, I was not.

 

I didn't say Facebook users are not successful in their lives , I said "most Facebook addicts are not successful in their lives".

 

It is quite silly and scary! Granted I have my own problems with just technology in general too though. For example, I made a point in my personal journal that I wanted to skip my post for tonight. All day, these "filler" times, between classes, have 30 minutes, breaks between studying or whatever, I've made a point to not use my computer for any superfluous media.

And I got to say, i'm been depressed all day. And as I type this right now, I feel much better.

And yes haha, Terrence McKenna would in fact be the DMT guy. He's got some real interesting material out there.

 

I have mixed feelings about this topic. Who's to say that one should deactivate their Facebook account? I do feel that it has its pros and cons, but I don't entirely agree with the suggestion. There are over a billion Facebook users worldwide and trying to convince them to quit Facebook is not going to be easy. In my opinion, Facebook is one of those things where you either like it or you don't. When you compare Nofap and Facebook, you're talking about 2 completely different categories. One is a support group, so of course you're going to find people with greater commonalities than you would on Facebook. While the other is just an enormous social network that anyone can join no matter who you are or where you're from. You can share almost anything....anything but most of your problems.

I'm a moderate Facebook user, but I don't have any plans on deactivating it yet. It can be fun at times. I get to see important events such as my friend's wedding or a child being born which is meaningful, plus I get to stay in contact with friends who have moved away. But other times it can be pretty lame. I'm glad I'm not a Facebook addict . But it depends on who you are. Kuraprika mentioned friends and success. It's really hard to say; I know one women who goes on FB a lot and she's from the military while another guy I know is a complete bum.

I wouldn't go entirely against FB. I like both websites and I believe FB has its benefits, and even if there's evidence proving that some people get more depressed while going on FB, I don't think that will account for all of the FB users worldwide. Like I said, it really depends on the person. In my view, I think moderation for both Nofap and FB is key. We should never spend more than 30 minutes a week posting pictures, say where we're eating, and updating other useless crap on FB. On the other hand, we should not go on Nofap and discuss all about our problems such as loneliness and depression because that can actually be a downside. We might become dependent on others to care for our problems and that can be a burden. The whole objective of Nofap is giving support to others, motivating others, and helping them making life changes for the better.

Talking about your problems all the time on Nofap is not good, nor is it good to spend too much time on FB. I feel much better off staying away from both websites for too long. There are more important things in life that have meaning rather on going on FB or Nofap everyday because they both can suck you in.

 

I never thought about it this way. Thanks for the post!

I will definitely consider it. But probably the more realistic option is to stop using Facebook to fulfil emotional needs. To use it purely as a communication system, and to only post true stuff.

And also, I will stop browsing Facebook unnecessarily, as it builds on the concept of internet addiction, and of course, the occasional arousing image or gif is nothing but harmful.

Thanks again.

DS.

 

Hi YiBoW.

Interesting post buddy!!..

I use(d) FB just to
1. Keep in touch with my high school and college mates, as I am the ONLY loner living approx. 600 miles away in friends' circle..
2. Pull others' legs and sharpen my 'creative writing' skills in commenting on photos, shares, posts, etc etc

But last June, one of my high school friend died under mysterious circumstances jolted me , and I felt I was hurting many people <esp. those who read my comments >. I dint login for about 5 months straight after posting a small note to my lost friend.... Not a single freaking soul called me to inquire, what happened...


Now I use FB, but to very minimal extent..