Why do I find self development so complicated? What can I do to fix it?

Start small. Start with yourself. Read what you are inclined to read. Let that lead on to other things. Let things develop organically, and see how they interconnect. Strive for unity and coherency.

 

What type of development are you seeking? Physical , mental?

 

I am a bit like this.... and often feel overwhelmed by the endless free material out there - Wikipedia for example!

Knowledge is nice but it will not make you happy by itself... You have to try other stuff - like communicating with others (Nofap or real life) actually doing things ( e.g. visiting somewhere new ) instead of sitting down and researching. Keeping fit and healthy...and other good things.

Many don't even bother thinking about 'self-development' - they just do what makes them happy without analyzing why.

 

@NakedDisciple , ur 16yr old, highly appreciate ur efforts ,ur willingness, ur observations .

 

One is always developing the self. Perhaps it is only difficult because we have become aware of said development.

 

Gotta be specific. What aspects?

 

You can develop specific aspects only as @Survivalist said because if you developed every aspect you'd be called "Perfect" and there is not a single human on earth who achieved "Perfection".

 

I meant: you have to start somewhere, you gotta be specific and not distracted. Master one skill/habit a time, then move on.

 

I get perfectionist stress as well. It really helps to sit down and try to define exactly my goals. Then I can somewhat sort illusions from reality, it gives some peace of mind as well