Why can’t I do it doggy?

Ive been abstaining P and M for a few weeks now and it’s fefinitely helping bring me and my wife closer together, but I’ve had a pervasive issue with the doggy style position for some time. When I was in college I could do it all day, in fact it was he position I was most sure I’d stay hard for. Now every time we set up for it my dick just shrinks to nothing and I can’t get it moving no matter what I do. Her on top or me on top is fine and has no issues about 90% of the time.

It’s incredibly frustrating to KNOW I was a lot better at sex when I was younger - could rapidly switch positions, did anal sex and BDSM regularly, made it through more than 50% of the Kama sutra with my then gf - and am getting shittier at it as I get older. Anyone else experience this? It’s not my feelings for my wife - it’s definitely some deep seeded insecurity around the whole thing that I can’t seem to overcome and gets worse every time I muster up the courage to try something a little more adventurous than missionary and fail.

 

Thanks for the comments!

We are using condoms because my wife is a little paranoid about unwanted pregnancy even though she’s also on the pill which I’m sure doesn’t help. But I’m actually debating if I just need full PMO because I also have kinky fetishes I can’t shake and every time we have sex I feel like it keeps me stuck in this mental zone of wanting a bigger high, which isn’t good. She knows about them and agrees to partake if I ask but I feel like I’m manipulating her to feed an addiction and I know she’s not all that into it which actually takes away from the experience a bit. So I’m short I’m still pretty messed up.

 

It gets worse? Uh oh!

But I guess I wonder if I need to just be celibate for a while to make it more impactful?