Why am I thinking about it!?

Resisting is not the best option.How long will you be able to resist it thinking about it all the time.Nofap is not just about PM its about improving your life in each aspects.

 

This is my DAY 1. Tried many times before. This time I am going to succeed. I only understand the benefits once I f£$%ed up on Porn. I am out of the maze and there is no way that I am going back this time! In the past I always had this thought that once in a while won't hurt. Just like that last cig. It always does though. Stay positive. I am sure that good things will come. Best wishes.

 

Hiya Manfro. Nice to hear from a fellow countryman. For me the main benefits are living a fulfilling life. I may be a bit older than you, so my attitude may be different from yours. I have wasted many months PMO. Life is short. All we have is time and as that clock goes down, I would like to say I did something worthwhile rather than say I wanked off for many hours a day to images and videos on a computer. I feel like a drug addict taking a hit. Zoning out and than taking another hit. Today I have done some exercise, listened to some meditation music, read a book about the 12 Steps and finally listened to some GTA 3 music.

I think Aryan hit the nail on the head by saying 'its about improving your life in each aspects'. Each day at a time and each improvement at a time. Later my friend.

 

Hi Manfro,

I have found from my experience that the spontaneous thoughts and urges do fade with time. So don't worry! I think it has a lot to do with how engrained they are in our mind. Our mind is like a field of tall grass. The more you travel down certain pathways of thought the more the grass gets tamped down in that spot and the easier it becomes to travel that path. If you have deeply engrained urges, like the urge to look at P for example, even though you may start making other pathways, it will be easy to fall back into your old habits and get "stuck in a rut". As you stop treading the pathway of P, over time the urges will have less pull on you and the pathways will start to grow over. It may not disappear entirely - our minds are incredible at storing experiences - but it will become weaker over time. In this case, even if you find yourself spontaneously thinking about P it will be easier for you to change your mind, especially if you have cultivated other beneficial pathways. So don't be alarmed if you have seemingly spontaneous thoughts arise from time to time - our minds hold onto a lot. Use them as motivation to keep improving. They can inspire you to become a better person. It is an ongoing journey that requires continuous commitment, so don't give up! It is absolutely worth it!

I have found that one of the main benefits of abstaining from P and P-related thoughts is that I feel way more free than I did before. I feel like I am not a slave to those urges any more, and I feel better about myself and more sincere. Realizing these benefits took time - it was not just a matter of a few days.

I wish you strength on your journey!

 

Hey Manfro,

Hope that you're still abstaining and things are going well? Just to say I'm in the same boat as you as I am married too. I've been keeping away from porn and have managed to keep all the urges at bay. Last night, for the first time since my wife found out about me using porn, she said to me "Why don't you give me a massage tonight?" That statement on it's own was enough to make me excited and it didn't used to be like that. I always saw having sex with my wife as something I had to do so she didn't get suspicious about my porn usage and I didn't really enjoy it. What I'm saying is stick with it man, it really works and I hope that you get your sex life back on track with your wife. It really does get better and the sex with my wife was totally amazing for the first time in ages

 

Dude I'm going through the exact same issue. The first two weeks were a breeze but now as I am progressing towards my 18 day, I feel like I'm going to explode

 

Hey Manfro, I'm still abstaining it's going really well thanks. Having hardly any urges and those I do have I immediately go and do something. Yesterday I had one and went straight out for a walk Also, on the marriage side me and my wife had sex for the first time since she found out about my addiction and my honest opinion is give up the porn because the sex with my wife was amazing! Once you're not looking at videos and "sorting yourself out" real sex becomes so much better. Trust me mate, keep going the rewards will be massive! Take care Manfro, stay strong!