Why am I leaving NoFap; The truth about this community

You seem pretty bitter there. Don't look down on people trying to better themselves just because it isn't for you. I also don't use the site very much but that's no reason to look down on others who are finding it easier to interact with others, are finding new hobbies, are sorting themselves out etc.

Also there is scientific evidence to support that deciding to do something (challenging yourself) and sticking it out no matter how hard it gets (take the 90 day reboot for example) and succeeding in what you were determined to do will do nothing but positively benefit and strengthen you.

I see that you failed to complete the 90 day reboot from your post history, my advice to you would be to take the 90 day reboot challenge, complete it, and THEN leave once you have completed it. Otherwise your post is just an excuse for your own shortcomings.

 

I agree with what you're saying but that doesn't mean you have to leave this site. Your right getting addicted to this site is just like being addicted to porn there both bad. The point of this site is to read a couple of success stories so you will quit porn if it is destructive to your life. I am here to learn what porn addiction is and see if it affected by this. If you are using this site as a replacement for porn that deserves its own site LOL

 

Cool story bro

 

I AGREE WITH YOUR STATEMENT!


His thread reads more like an emotional rant in disguise more than anything.....

 

Hi, I think you have hit on some truths (in that this site could potentially become an avenue for time-wasting, and that there are a few "hobbyists" on here that could be doing something more productive). However, I think you're missing a bigger piece of the puzzle. Porn/porn addiction is impairing people's ability to appreciate and fully utilize their life, they recognize this, and they're taking a brave decision to stop it so they can live fully and be grateful for all the things you described. Yes, a lot of the posts on this website are opinions, but that itself is important because it allows people to collaboratively explore their experiences and see commonality in suffering (instead of feeling they are suffering alone). This place is also an important repository of fact and the science of addiction, and validated advice on how to tackle something extremely difficult to overcome. I think you should complete the 90 day challenge first (with/without forum help) and post to let us know if your opinion has changed after that.

 

I see this post to be a mere excuse for lack of self control. I admit that it's not that easy to abstain from porn after you get used to it. But it's not impossible. And getting rid of porn addiction doesn't mean that you have to addict to something new . Replace it with some habit which improves your health or something which is beneficial to you. Use this forum as a platform for changing yourself rather than logging in this forum for 24 hours. Read others stories and try to learn what are those habits with which they have quit watching porn. And there is no need to compare yourself with others. You are trying to improve your self control. You should be actually glad for it.

 

So you're pointing out that people here in NoFap are so into this site, that they are losing awareness/gratefulness on how life can be? You don't get the whole idea of it.
there are real people here with real problems about this addiction that's getting into their way of living decently. so, they come here to seek for help and advises so that they can go back to their lives, and be grateful for "food, clothes... Eyes... This beautiful lawn... The fact that they're alive... Whatever" and what life has to offer. and not for "hot babes appearing on your screen"

 

That is a great reason to be in NoFap. To know that you are a fortunate person. has something to eat, has a peaceful place to live. and doing actions to make it more sensible/meaningful rather than drowning yourself in lust and dirty stuff.

 

And then there's the time you spent to write this very long exit message. Wondering, besides the fact you also took time to write this long thing, if you really are doing it for others or to justify your own actions and give yourself a pat on the back for giving up.

 

personally this site has convinced me that pmo is a serious addiction......and i am glad that i am here

 

Well I agree that this site should not replace your PMO addiction with a "NOFAP - addiction". I also agree with you that there is a lot of "pseudoscience" on this forum, and many "benefits" are just based on some personal stories and far away from being scientific consensus.

You mentioned quite a few serious problems like people starving and so on, concluding that our problems are quite small in comparison. Again I agree. But honestly, that's what nearly everybody does in society, they have small problems and complain about them frequently, because they are not quite contend with their lives. That has really nothing to do with NOFAP, but could be criticism towards nearly everybody.

I hope you can acknowledge that people with a higher level of maturity and self control will probably be more benefical to society than people who are just a mess seeing others as a means to their own happiness. And that is for many a big part of NOFAP, becoming the best version for youself, being able to have healthier relationships that are ultimately benefical to everybody in their lives. Self improvment is really the first step to improve things arround you, that is what nofap is about.

If you leave this site, because you want to focus on stopping these people from starving that you mentioned and nofap is stealing your time, I completely agree with you. If you don't then I hope your other activities are more benefical to society than trying to get away from a sex addiction that hinders people from loving others properly.

Greetings, and blessings to you brother

 

Its still better to spend an hour on a forum then watching porn, if you value your time so much then you won't have time to PMO either. As for people dying from stravation and lack of water, its sad but so is it when people kill themselves due to depression. If the forum helped somebody make a lifestyle change its done enough, it doesn't need to save the world to be justified to exist.

 

Well said

 

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What a pseudologically biased unscientific post OP.

 

I don't understand threads like this. People aren't airlines, they don't actually have to announce their departure. If you want to go...just go.

 

Minimization, denial, justification, rationalization, and lying your post reeks of.

So, do whatever you want to but don't for a second claim you know the truth. If I really cared I would type out a few pages dissecting your mind and why you posted this but Idfc.

 

Blimey, that’s a short post?

 

That was a long post too wasn't it? Maybe come back when you understand the importance of making distinctions instead of taking a few facts along with a bunch of assumptions. We could talk about slippery slopes and strawman arguments but clearer use of the English language is essential.

Guess what, you may not be the first to make such astute observations, but then you can only know that if you're not exclusively focused on your own thoughts and assumptions.

 

Frankly it's being a bit of a wanker, as our friends in the UK say.

Specifically it's a kind of online social wanking, since there is a bit of drama around leaving and never coming back. It is rather reminiscent of Jerry Springers final thoughts. Jerry had some useful things to say, but it's only final for that episode.

Just as masturbation involves one person and their fantasy, so do such one way declarations involve only their thoughts even if rhetorical questions are used.

Of course, nobody would know if you lurk after making such a declaration and for that matter if the author registets under a new account.

I mean what are we to expect, people being in awe and dropping to their knees at the wisdom of the poster crying "don't leave you have so much to teach us!"?