Which Church?

I highly recommend you to read Nathan the Wise by Gotthold Ephraim Lessing. The 'Ring Parable' should clarify your doubts.

 

I go to a traditonal roman catholic church and its very good

 

“My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me.” - John 17:20-21

 

Yup.

 

Calvinist in the house!!