I have had, and continue to have, a very interesting journey with my NoFap life. But this post concerns itself with what happens when you tell your wife. In summary, we have had a rather sexless relationship for 27 years. There were moments, for certain, but for the vast majority of the time, porn and masturbation were my allies in relieving my sexual needs. 18 years ago she caught me with porn, I was raked over the coals for that transgression, swearing to never again use it. I did abstain for a while. But I regressed. I realized, under a year ago, PMO was the problem in my life. It took me that long to wake up. All you guys know how addictive it is. I am an addict. So I did the 90 days, and gradually resumed sexual relations with my wife. It was wonderful. She was my focus, she was what it was all about. It was like my orgasms were different, new. But she wondered why, what is going on that makes me want her again. I told her that I had given up masturbation. I explained it had gotten excessive and I looked for help, finding this forum. She seemed to understand and was accepting of this new me. A little reluctant but accepting. A month ago, we were in bed, and I was talking again of my stopping masturbation and how good things were between us. She became very inquisitive wondering why I had even stopped and why now? And then came the atomic bomb question: Did you use porn when you masturbated? I knew this was a loaded question but I felt it best to answer the truth. Yes, I said, I had. Holy shit, it was the beginning of a personal crucifixion that was, to me, just about the end of our marriage. She accused me of everything: lying, deceiving, taking away her sexuality, lack of trust, everything you could imagine. There was no forgiveness. It went on for days. She sliced me apart and I had no defense...yes i was guilty, I am sorry a million times over. I understood--though not completely--how she felt. Two days later we were making love again. It was sessions of that interspersed with deep discussions on her part about what I had done to her. More slicing me up and down. Again last week. Yet we remain with passionate lovemaking, better than ever in our married life. This past week has seemed to be very new and even better. I suppose there's much to learn...I wanted to put this out here to see how other guys' wives have reacted. Or does one never tell them? Always an option. PM me if you want or add to this thread.