when does my transgender/cd fetish go away ?

Wait and watch. Everyone is different.

 

Are you ever around women IRL? And do you feel attraction for them?

 

True, healthy attraction involves more than just appearance (“hotness”) or sexual arousal (horniness). It involves a mutual connection of mind, body, and yes soul (personality). When two people are truly compatible there is a “click” that you will just know that it’s right, and you will be able to open yourself up to each other and be truly intimate. Anything less is a substitute, and is only skin deep sex, which is what we are addicted to.

 

I had a trans fetish for a while with porn. I realized it was just trying something different ... trying to kick in the greater rush from the “new” porn. I went that way because “regular” porn was less intense after a while. So I tried something “new” There is one particular image that I sometimes just can’t shake it haunts me it was a very feminine trans image so I try to remind myself that it’s the feminine portion of the image that made it so attractive to me and that it’s more a fetish than a real attraction for me. That helps me relax about it more and I know that my real attraction is to women and in reality I just trained my sexual desire that way while PMO with trans porn for a while. (I am hoping a reboot will really fire up and renew my attraction to my wife.) I am attracted to my wife but need the dopemine triggers and this addiction to to change. I’m on day 6... wish me luck!

We have marital problems and have for years but I want to fix many things for the sake of my family and myself too.

Relax and be glad and confident when you do find yourself attracted to women. That will help you reset your thinking over time. Just give it time.

 

We can do this. One minute and one day at a time. Again focus on the fact that the attraction to women is your baseline. Porn is extremely POWERFUL and extremely SEDUCTIVE. The industry knows how to trigger us. So we need to be armed to fight back with our own confident manhood. There’s nothing wrong with you. We are just victims of the very powerful seduction of Porn. Best of luck.

 

Right on, @frankpyle, so true.

Healthy attractions & healthy love mean seeing a person as whole & integrated people. This means body, mind & spirit. People have family, friends & loved ones, people we work with, go to school with, people we care about & who care about us. We stop seeing others as sex objects having only one dimension, whose sole purpose is for our selfish sexual gratification. And then, just like our addiction to photos & videos, after our climax we turn them off & putthem away until the next time we’re horny & need another fix & another orgasm.

When we love & respect another in healthy ways, it’s all about what we do & how we treat them - & ourselves - as we bathe in the afterglow after making love, after sharing an intimate experience of sharing ourselves in body, mind & spirit.

 

The transgendered person porn fantasies will go away when you stop viewing them. How long? Depends on you, and how serious you are about getting this stuff out of your head. Most recommend 90 days no PMO as a start. From there if you are single you will have to get out there and interact with women and begin to build connections with them. To re-wire you must exclusively have hetero sex with someone you have a true relationship with. Learn to look women in the eyes and have meaningful conversations. Open your self to them and you will find mutual attraction building. Let the attractions build until you are both comfortable that sex is where you want to take the relationship. Then fuck like rabbits.

 

To rewire you do not have to have hetero sex with someone you’re in a relationship with; if you’re gay, gay sex in a relationship is acceptable. Please let’s not be bigots or against any other sexual preference.

 

You don't need to have sex to rewire, just abstain from this disgusting stuff and everything will get back to normal.

 

I’m definitely not bigoted. I identify as bi, and have no real qualms about anyone’s true orientation. The OP asked specifically when he would no longer be addicted to Trans porn and be horny for women. So I assume that is his preferred partner choice. If he wants to be horny for women, then he needs to be pursuing a relationship that will culminate in sex with women.