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When does it get difficult?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by RSI, Jan 11, 2014.

  1. RSI

    RSI Fapstronaut

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    After how many days does PMO get difficult?

    What are your triggers?

    What do you do to prevent yourself from relapsing?

    Do you turn down sex because of this?
     
  2. Angriff

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    I think that i felt wort between 20 and 25th day. Almost animal urges, specially at night but note that im on hard mode.
     
  3. Wannariseabove

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    RSI

    For most people here, triggers are anything sexual. That could be just looking at a men's health mag and reading a sex article. Also, thinking about porn or porn related is as well. It may seem strict but it's the best way to handle it. Triggers is what makes us reset. Steer clear and you will see the best results.

    I keep myself from relapsing by exercise. It helps redirect the energy. I am a Christain so I read my Bible and pray a lot, but if that's not your thing, you can also read a book about something non sexual, play an instrument, etc.

    As far as sex is concerned, I have it with my wife. Bc we have a young child and both work full time it is difficult to have sex as much as I would like. NoFap has helped me so much during the dry spells

    Good luck. I hope this helps

    WRA
     
  4. monke

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    RSI be patient, try not to think about how many days have passed and not to think about porn and NoFap as much as possible.

    Focus on other things in your life, try some new hobbies, pray...
     
  5. R.C

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    Hardest days are between 20-30. Then again my record is 38-ish so I'm not that reliable.

    Ask me again in 11 months ^^.
     
  6. RSI

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    Guys, thanks for the messages and support. This is suddenly getting tougher than I thought. Doing hard mode but sex is everywhere in my life, really difficult to avoid the triggers when they are everywhere.

    My T.V. is in a cupboard, I leave my laptop at work, and workout a lot which helps. But at work some guys are building porn websites and I constantly close my eyes or look away. Marketeers are fuckers every advert on public transport uses sex and women in bikini's to sell their junk. I went to see a play it had naked women in it, I went to see a film it had naked women it, I went to a yoga class models bending over in front of me.

    You guys are saying it gets hard 20-30 days how the hell do you avoid this stuff when it is constantly forced on you.
     
  7. Mark

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  8. For me the hardest part was day 23-25 and 33-35,those days absolutely sucked the big one. I'm in day 55 so the past 20 days were relatively quiet. I experienced some urges but I was nowhere near to relapse. I'm also on hard mode, so the only orgasm I had was on day 38 through a wet dream. Though I didn't remember the dream so it sucked too. :D

    How do you avoid all those sexual images and triggers? You don't. You can't. You just don't act on your urge, and you withold any action until you collect yourself. Worked for me.
     
  9. William

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    RSI, first of all, fantastic run at 14 days. Don't quit now. Your first post on this thread was on 1-11-14. Between then and now you have become much more educated about the problem, I can see that from the way you discuss the problem. You have learned triggers are everywhere. You can't avoid them, but you can anticipate them and learn how lessen the discomfort they will cause.

    Below is an excellent thread one member created in discussing triggers, their danger, and how to avoid them. I think it would help you to read it.

    http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?3617-Humbled-Reset&highlight=wannariseabove

    Good luck on your journey.
     
  10. Congrats, man, your brain is becoming sensitive again! I am sure you have not been triggered by all the softcore imagery around you when you were deep into porn, were you? Now your brain is craving a satisfaction and it forces you to turn your attention to anything! There are changes, man, you are on the right track - keep going!
     
  11. FireGuardian

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    To me, the first few days are always the hardest as far as keeping away from P and M. In my experience, this gets weaker or almost non-existent as time goes on, meaning I no longer get the urge to look at any P, and I no longer feel ashamed, since I did not M for a while, but then I find that the following things kick in. The worry that I might no longer have the ability to do anything with my genitals and the accompanying desire to test these through M just to make sure they still function. Increased energy, self-confidence, creativity and spiritual insight, and the desire to abstain for as long as possible from any M or even any real partners due to the realization that once I slip, I'll lose the entire streak along with all of the benefits that were gained as it became longer. This inner conflict coupled with all the sex images in the media is probably the main reason why I eventually slipped into M every time I tried to abstain in the past. I don't know if it ever gets easier. I hope that my observations resonate with anyone, and if anyone has any insight in regards to how to deal with this, please post.
     
  12. Eriaku

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    It's get harder when you have nothing to do and when you where mad
     
  13. ElectriFix

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    For me its when I'm bored and home alone by myself. I have to keep myself busy with something (making music, playing video games, working etc.) so I can keep the urges away.
     
  14. Siddharta

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    Hardest day?

    For me the sixth day was the hardest (so far), didn't have any other difficulties yet.

    Triggers?

    - My mind basically, and being alone.

    Preventing myself from relapsing:

    - Today I was planning on having a relaxed afternoon alone, but I immediately felt that if I stay home alone I'll fap so I quickly organized a meet up with a bunch of friends and got my ass out of my place as quickly as possible. Now I'm home, a bit tipsy and tired, had a blast and the urge is gone :)

    Turning down sex?

    - Hell no! Seriously though, I'm doing a hardmode right now. I had a few relationship where I really fucked up so now I want to wait till I become a better (or at least different) person and then try again.
     

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