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When dating women, don't tell them about your P.M.O problem

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Woodcutter74, Jul 31, 2018.

  1. Woodcutter74

    Woodcutter74 Fapstronaut

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    As I stop masturbating 45 days ago, quit all the sites that were sexually explicit, I found myself being confident again with women. I spoke with them with boldness, told them how attractive I found them, and maybe due to my confidence they find me attractive as well.

    So I meet lots of nice women in real life, but the ones I have met recently were on Tinder.

    First women that I hit it off with pretty well was Nathalie. We had a mutual attraction for each other at first and got along pretty well. Since I felt comfortable with her, I told her about my P.M.O. which was not a problem at first. But then, when I mentioned again on another date, I think it turned her off. Yes it was stupid of me, but since I saw the relationship was going to be platonic, I saw no loss talking about it.

    Then I got to know Nora who look like the girl of my dreams. Beautiful Hungarian brunette who is a doctor, been divorced for two years and has not been in a serious relationship. We had a mutual interest for each other but she wanted me to know something about her before we go out. She told me she was on a certain site and she wanted me to check her profile, because it was very important to her. When I visited this site in question, the site had pornography ads. I did not succumb to PMO but I almost relapsed, not because of the porn, but because Nora was horny sex kitten who wanted to screw with no strings attached. The next day, I told her I did not find her profile, why I could not register on that site because of my PMO problem. Never heard from her again. Better that way, because as hot as she was, she probably would have caused me to PMO again if I had my chance with her or not.


    Though I do not regret telling these women, I did understand that one of these days, I would meet the right woman and it is probably not a good idea to say I quit masturbating and porn for 30 days, 60 days, 90 days and so on. In fact, I don't think it is necessary to tell them at all. The only thing that matters is the benefits that women will be attracted to. So if ever a woman says she likes you and wonder why you treat women differently, don't tell them it is because you quit porn and masturbation, but something like how you have respect for women that changed you in a positive way, nothing else needs to be added.
     
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  2. Honestly speaking, I don't think this counts as PMO / reset if it's sex and not masturbation just by observing your 49 day counter that only has PM attached to it. You would've been fine.

    You're doing a great job. I love reading stories of success and attempts like these, they inspire me to want to actively make attempts to give myself and other women chances of developing a successful relationship too.
     
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  3. Woodcutter74

    Woodcutter74 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you Sheathed_Passion. I was almost ready to relapse with Nora, because she was stunningly attractive and sexually desirable. In the past I would have fapped easily on a woman like this because she is beautiful and loves sex. However, I knew if I did such a thing now, I would just go back to my old habits, masturbate with the help of porn and continue to binge on this dreadful way of life to a down cycle . I looked at it with a rational point of view, here was a woman who was attracted to me, may have spent the night with me but better off that it did not happen. No regrets, no negative consequences, still master of my domain. Keep up the good work as well Sheathed_Passion :)
     
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