Whats your motivation!?

Yes...I am on that road

 

Escaping the rat race and truly seeing this matrix for what it is. To be able to do what I want, when I want.

 

Whenever I needs motivation I read biography of great people.

 

I want to take back control of my life. Pornography has blocked my potential for far too long.

 

So at the moment, I have been trying to figure this out...
I started NoFap because my friend and I were talking about porn, just casually and some how we got to the stage where we looked at each other and knew we were fucked up inside. We both knew it was disgusting and we both said that we should start not watching porn. A few weeks after, we had forgotten but one day, he turned to me and asked me if I was still not watching porn. I said I had given up. He laughed and told me he had given up too. We both laughed. I stopped laughing and asked him why he gave up. He told me he didn't know, he said he just wanted to watch porn so did. I talked to him again a few months later about porn and he was still watching it.
After this, I saw porn as an addiction and started NoFap, not really having a reason for giving it up, other than to prove that I could give it up, both to myself and my friend. About 6 months of NoFap, my friend came back to me and asked how NoFap was going. I had to admit that I was addicted to porn and that I was really struggling to give it up. Today, he still watches porn and I am still trying not to.
I am evaluating why I use porn and why I want to quit it. I never really had a reason, i just did it. At the moment, I think it's something about my morals. I want to quit because I want to prove it to myself that I can. I want to quit because it ruins my day, keeping me in bed until the after noon, spending 5 hours watching porn. I want to quit because I want a relationship with a beautiful girl. I want to quit because I want emotions, I was almost emotionless but as i spend more time not watching porn, I am finding I feel more (if that makes sense).
To be really honest though, I can think of reasons for quitting porn all day, the list is countless... my issue is, are all those reasons a load of bullshit?
I truly think i need A reason. A. Singular, strong, personal, unique. To quit smoking, there are stories where people quit because of their baby, or maybe their partner will leave them or whatever. My point is that I think I need a reason to quit. A proper reason. Low energy, depression, blocking socialising - I don't have these issues.

So, at the moment, I have been trying to figure this out... and I have come to the conclusion that every reason is the reason for quitting porn... my friend is still watching porn because he wants to. It gives him zero positives, it just takes up his time and limits his life. There is no reason to watch porn. It is disgusting, it is degrading, it is a demon that is ruining the world and everyone in it. Don't just give yourself one reason, don't limit yourself to that. Have a long hard think about why you are doing NoFap and realise that the answer is every reason. I also suggest doing this with other activities. reading, why do you do that? Cleaning? Exercise? If there are no positive reasons for doing your activity then don't do it.
For me, this helps. Know why you're doing something and you'll do it.
Why is it that a mother can lift a car to save her child but she can't open a Jam Jar? She knows why she is lifting the car. Why open a jar of jam if you can't open it, you can have so many other options with bread... butter, plain, chocolate spread? suddenly, if we get rid of all the other options and you are left with Jam on bread or eat nothing, that jar seems to open pretty easy.
Just to relate that to a proper example, take working out. know why you're there 3 times a week, know why you need to push out those extra reps. If you don't you'll be on your phone and only putting in a 10th of your full potential.
Know why and you'll do it.

 

Well PMO drains a hell of a lot of energy for me, after fapping i just dont feel like doing anything at all honestly. Right now i am only on day 8 but i already feel i have a lot more energy, motivation and confidence. I just feel like all of these positive effects from nofap is enough motivation for me to keep going.