What would you tell your younger self If you knew what you know now?

"Hey kid stop fapping alone. Let's join the fapping tournament". My younger self would be happier than now

 

LOL, what?

 

Same

 

I kind of explained it like that to my nephew the other day, who sees me as one of his friends I guess. He came up to me and casually talked about porn and showed me a clip on his mobile, told me about his porn use, his favourite website and asked all kinds of pmo/sex related questions. He seemed obsessed. So I told him about how problematic it can get if you "overdo" it, regretting it the second I said it. Two days later he seemed distant and when I asked him if what I told him had scared him, he said "yes, a little bit". I then told him he needn't worry and that he's still young and that it only gets problematic if it spins out of control later on in life because one might end up needing more and more and more. He then basically said he didn't want to talk about it anymore.
Problem is, now I really don't know what to do and feel like shit. I don't want him to be scared or inhibited regarding his sexuality in any way (and, I mean, there are enough teenage boys who PMO like an addict for a certain amount of years and still, later on, develop completely healthy relationships), but at the same time I don't want to back down and say it's all fine, you should fap away as much as you want, because I damn well know the struggle. I mean, obviously I can't and won't dictate if he should do it or not and if yes, how many times a week/month/year. The whole thing is super uncomfortable now, but part of me wants to keep coming back to it, just to make sure that he understands it from a fearless, positive perspective, while another part of me wants to drop and forget the whole conversation as it now seems to make him uncomfortable, even though he was the one who brought it up in the first place...so as an answer to this thread: I think I would tell my younger self nothing, because it's such a sensitive subject and I wouldn't want to fuck myself up even more. Maybe we all need to go through this by ourselves and learn from our own mistakes. It's like smoking or drinking at a certain age. You can tell them as much as you want how bad it is, all it does is it will make it even more interesting for them. It's the story of Genesis all over again. The forbidden fruit that you can't resist, even if it's God's only law in paradise not to touch it - for the sake of your own wellbeing.

Any thoughts on what I should do now are highly appreciated...I'm done for today...

 

First I would tell my 14-15-ish-year old me about how his future will play out if he doesn't change things. After that, he'd hopefully be willing to seriously listen to my advice.

Then I would ask him what he really deep down wants with his life and if how he's acting now is authentic to who he is.

I would tell him to read and work with the book "Get out of your mind and into your life".

I would also tell him about NoFap and to spend time on valuable things, such as studying and working out.

 

Read books

 

Eat healthy exercise be sober and don't jack off lol and other healthy shit

 

Get your shit thogeter your the source of your own problem learn about Nofap

 

Evah hear of a Paradox!

 

I'd say "good job" as I'm pretty satisfied and proud of who I've become over the years. I would be vastly different if all that happened in my life, didn't happen.

I used to think of myself as the biggest loser on the planet. I was so, so, so hard on myself. Talked down to myself and was just a down right asshole to myself for a handful of years in my late teens, early twenties. But without all that shit, I wouldn't have 'gotten over myself' and emerged on 'the other side' where I am now, feeling better than I've ever felt in my entire life. : 3

 

"Honestly nothing good is going to happen if you stick that key into the wall outlet."

 

real talk

 

that's exactly what i had in mind. I always tried to blame something else for the way i'm feeling. Should always look at yourself and reflect on what you personally could've done that made you this way.

 

don't hook up with your ex you dumbass