What would be inside our head when we are married?

I have been married for 20 years. Strangely, I find women with imperfect bodies more attractive these days. Actually, the hottest thing to me is a middle aged slightly overweight woman who dresses provocatively. My wife has the average body, but she won't dress provocatively.

 

You have self control... and commitment and respect for your spouse. It's not that difficult, really.

 

You definitely will see attractive people but that won't matter because you marry a person not only because they're pretty. Same goes for your future wife and to add complexity, there will also be people attracted to you or your future wife. If you suspect yourself to be the type that cheats just because some other person is hot, marriage is not for you. Or maybe you married someone only because they're appealing, than you're definitely in trouble

 

I don't know why people get excited over TV actresses. I see hotter looking women walking up and down the street and thats without all the special effects, airbrushing and instagram filters.

 

practise doing the right thing before you get married, ie kick this porn addiction. In my opinion, porn is similar to cheating. And marraige is so much more than attractiveness. and attractiveness is so much more than looks!!

 

Acknowledging a person as being visually appealing is one thing, thinking they are "hot" and "fuckable" is another and would fall under cheating on your commitment to your wife. Once you have healed your brain from this addiction, I'm sure you will be able to look at attractive women without objectifying them and focus all your attention on your wife. Good luck!

 

truth! Celebrities are so over rated. People are so quick to put them on a pedestal just because they're on tv. Part of the whole media created illusion.

 

In short, the question was
"What would be inside our head when we are married?"

In short, everyone's answer is a healthy functioning brain in your head and a heart in your chest.

 

im in day 223. I wish I could explain everything to you but I can’t read or write properly.

Just relax. Filter all your tv content n mobile. Realise that love awaits. When you find her fight for love. The more you fight off negativity and porn and media women the more virgin you’ll become the more you’ll get closer to your potential wife.

When I was in hospital in month four, I would stare out the sky as I felt the fapping illnesss that I had for 12 years was slowly going away. I would feel like a virgin again. And I thought that, if I had a wife it would be a blessing from god. Every time you see a woman dressed provocatively go home to your partner n make love to her. You’ll feel better for it!

I think that being married and looking at women in society is wrong because we are all gods children. You can lower your gaze and walk past. Each time you’ll get stronger. Just like nofap.

Fight it. Don’t believe media hype.
Media = ways of mass communication or manipulation.

If they show a woman dressed provocatively they wanna broadcasts something that is wrong then stay away.

Learn how the brain works when watching porn. I read Gary Wilson book Your brain on porn. Then I knew I had to do something!

 

There is nothing wrong with appreciating beauty when you see it, since other attractive people will still exist, but there is no need to obsess about it and start sexualizing it. And I'm sure that's easier said than done based on our natural instincts, especially when you have a porn addiction, but I have trust that you and anyone else can heal from this addiction if you have the willpower, and actively train yourself to be more in control of your instincts so that your actions and thoughts will be more in line with your own values.

 

I'm surprised no one asked for a translation. I didn't actually know what a wazzock was. Lol!

 

We make up all sorts a words here up in the north, I’m surprised too.

 

Lots of great inputs. Thanks everyone!

 

Yes. Communication is 100% the most important quality to have in a marriage, in my opinion. That and grace. If you have both of those down, you will have far fewer issues.

 

Day 233.

If you live like the waltons or little house in the prairie you would perhaps never have watched porn. Because those times were excellent and very god fearing. Families or immigrant families were united by cultural and religious values which bonded their way of thinking positively. Now it’s crazy. Things have changed in the western world.

Porn has damaged us. I was getting girls older than me to like me and I even kissed a girl for 2 whole hours but my manhood has been lost to this filth online.

My advice. Work hard on improving yourself. Your wife or girls who know you will love n respect you more. Everydays a struggle in some way. You have to spend time with her that is no.1 reason they leave men. Not just for satisfaction reasons or wether size matters but because of intimacy and connection. Like lovey dovey lol


Marriage is a blessing from above. Get married while you can don’t delay. The delay mainly caused by girls and this cause problems for men. They too busy deciding perfect partner will come along but they don’t understand down here on earth men have urges and needs. The delay also what causes fornication to be widespread.

If you look how the prettiest girl go for ugly guy because that essence of her nature is spiritual. She can see through him. Same for guy good looking goes with ugly girl he has a clean heart. That’s the power of virginity from god.

May he help us all Ameen