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What is the biggest problem that porn had caused in your life?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by fenix99, Nov 26, 2016.

  1. Dutchman19

    Dutchman19 Fapstronaut

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    So much time down the drain. Half an hour turns into an hour which turns into multiple hours... Aside from time and it being a motivation killer afterward, it never really affected my life for years of being single until I got a wonderful girlfriend. Intimacy has been amazing, but I realized that years of P use made it much harder to finish and I even lost erections mid session a few times. No good... I did a little reading and realized that P had more issues than I thought, and decided to give it up. It has been MUCH harder than I anticipated which is concerning, so now I'm here! Great group here and grateful for the support/resources!
     
  2. I Free I

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    3 Major Problems Porn Has Caused In My Life :
    * Depression
    * Objectifying Women
    * Delayed Ejaculation During Sex
     
  3. Onelieatatime

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    As the wife of a porn addict....It made me feel like I wasn't enough for the person I was supposed to be everything to. It took away my happiness (for a while). It turned me into someone who would check up on their spouse. It made it hard for me to trust. It made me anxious when he would go to the bathroom in fear that he was doing it again. It made me hate myself.
     
  4. HopingToGetBetter92

    HopingToGetBetter92 Fapstronaut

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    The biggest problem I have ever had with porn is just the guilty feeling you have afterwords. You feel like complete crap. Especially if you are in a relationship.
     
  5. Jojo man

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    You a good friend mate.
     
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  6. Jojo man

    Jojo man Fapstronaut

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    Aww may god bless you for perseverance
     
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  7. stewie19

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    extremely f**ed up fetishes, and social anxiety which im not sure is caused by my addiction
     
  8. Mandala88

    Mandala88 New Fapstronaut

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    Well I got really ice cold in Terms of Feelings for relationships.
    There is no sence at all while mastrubating in my life.
    Real woman are absolutly not of interest for me, they were like air.
    I blocked them all the time, I gave them no Chance to get in contact or in touch with me.
     
  9. AngryGroceries

    AngryGroceries Fapstronaut

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    For me, its the stuff that I didn't notice at first/thought was related to other things. Depression, lack of self-worth, etc. Since I've just recently begun my journey none of this has been "resolved" yet, but I actually do feel a bit better because I know that I'm actually trying to help myself now.

    Plus, I'm around my family alot more now. I used to spend most of my time home from university in my room. Not necessarily looking at porn, but I spent quite a bit of time doing that. Now I leave my door open when I'm in my room, and actually spend time watching television with them (even though I still don't enjoy television). I'm assuming this will translate to me leaving my door open much more in my apartment when I'm back at university after break.

    The other thing was the time I wasted. As someone else said, a half hour would turn into an hour, an hour into two, etc. This happened VERY often for me, and it also increased my procrastination. I procrastinate a bit by nature, but things were really starting to get out of hand.

    The last problem (and probably the most embarrassing) was issues in a past relationship. At the time I didn't attribute it to my use of porn, but knowing what I do now I absolutely know that my use of porn caused my problems. They weren't the end of that relationship (general incompatibility of personalities was), but it certainly didn't help.

    Actually acknowledging this stuff has really helped me to get a good understanding of just how much I was struggling with life in general, now that I look at it.
     
  10. fenix99

    fenix99 Fapstronaut

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    Im glad that you identified your negative patterns ... Beeing around family and friends is the best thing you can do to begin your recovery for a healthier lifestyle
    Keep it that way bro
     
  11. Besides depression, social anxiety, and hampering my emotional development, the biggest problem was porn became my #1 priority. I put it over my wife on several occasions, and the last time, broke my promise of never looking at while she was home. I really thought she was leaving for good. We've been together for 7 years and married only a year and a half. That was seven months ago, and I can't believe I did that to her. At that point, I knew it was a real problem if I was willing to choose porn over an incredible relationship. Although she knows about my NoFap journey, I still worry she will change her mind and ask for a divorce.
     
  12. Scisteve

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    I can identify with your post; mine is a similar situation. I'm 57 days PMO free and slowly, ever so slowly trying to reestablish the close emotional relationship I used to have with my wife. Porn is so isolating! I had become distant from my family; NO MORE!
     
  13. A346

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    P completely messed my head up and tricked me into believing that I was into all sorts! I started watching at the age of 11 and slowly progressed from vanilla to transwoman, hardcore and gay. I used to love my relationship with p but would feel really guilty after m.

    I have been with my wife for 10 years and couldn't be happier. But due to p addiction, I have become destructive and slept with several escorts and random women. I also looked at transwoman escorts and became fascinated by their d. Then in February whilst I was pretty much passed out due to drink, a guy started trying it on with me. I thought I was interested due to watching gay p for so long. I gave him oral and anal. Immediately I knew that it was completely against my sexual preference and have suffered anxiety and depression ever since. To say it's destroyed my soul is an understatement! I'm just trying to rebuild my life but I'm struggling to live with the toxic guilt and shame caused.

    I regret everything and ever getting into p :-(
     
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  14. CerebralReset

    CerebralReset Fapstronaut

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    I thing that no one issue is the biggest. I'm 35 and having used P my entire life, with some male influences objectifying (point out attractive woman in the street) and then being in a career where is it considered acceptable to at home in a group and to talk in a derogatory manner about it has really messed with my mind.

    I am struggling to see that what I have been doing was wrong and detrimental. But I know that it is.
     
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  15. My life became a problem with porn.
     

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