I have seen countless guys that do not have an attractive face or are even fat that are in a relationship or dating women that are very physically attractive. So there are other factors aside from looks that are drawing these women to these men For example: - a guy that they genuinely feel comfortable communicating with - a guy that is financially wealthy (or represents himself in a way that he appears to be wealthy because he drives a luxury car, lives in a beautiful home, carries lots of cash with him all the time) - a guy who has a slim and toned body - a guy who has a muscular athletic figure - a guy who has a high income job or a stable well paying job - a guy who owns a successful business - a guy who does very well academically - a guy who has integrity and is honest - a guy who is considerate of others - a guy who considers his family to be important to him and does what he can to take care of his family. - a guy who is a great listener - a guy who prioritizes her and gives her a lot of attention - a guy who is very knowledgable and well rounded. Basically, we all have DIFFERENT expectations, both men and women, in terms of what we expect out of our partners. It doesn't mean that looks is the only deciding factor. For some women, looks may be important but, in fact for many women, looks is not the most important criteria!! What I am trying to say is that even if you are lacking in one department, for example looks, there are other factors that women look at as well when they consider a potential partner. It doesn't mean that we should all try to force ourselves to meet their expectations. I think it is important that we learn to accept and love ourselves more, since in the end, if no one is your friend, at least you should be your own best friend. You deserve that much Some ways that you can start to be kinder to yourself is by treating yourself well. Doing things for yourself that will make you stronger, better, empowered, happier, and more positive. Get to know yourself better by exploring different hobbies. Even working out at the gym NOT to impress others but to nurture yourself. Do it for you. While you discover yourself, you can try to communicate with more women to make yourself feel more comfortable around them and to build more confidence in your ability to communicate with them. It's a good start to just be yourself when you communicate with them. Without interaction with the opposite sex, it will be hard to find a person that you can connect with on an intimate level. One thing for sure is that pornography and PMO will obstruct your efforts in maintaining a healthy relationship with the one you want to be with. Being faithful in a relationship is one of the hardest things that you may face, when you find the right one, when you have PMO addiction I can say more but I will stop here.