What happens when you remain on hard mode for an extended period of time?

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by PRN-ADKT, Nov 13, 2018.

  1. PRN-ADKT

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    I'm talking beyond the typical 90 day reboot.

    Besides putting your willpower to the test like nothing else could, have you seen a difference between day 90 and day 365 for instance?

    Or is it just more of the same ebbing and flowing of urges and flatlines?
     
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  2. Man08

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    From what I've read there are big chances to feel a lot better, so, this is my aim too, in fact, I want to go far beyond this limit.I just can't stop thinking and dreaming at the day when I am going to break free from it, I will be the old me again, I just can't wait :D well, I have to wait, it takes time.
     
  3. CH3RRY

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    I'm at the point right now that you're describing. It's great, the "super powers" are real, take it from me. It's been like 50-60 days since I last masturbated, 0 urges.
     
  4. CH3RRY

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    I haven't been on NoFap for that long, only about 50-60 days but it feels like as if I had been on this for a year. I have 0 urges, feels like my addiction has gone away completely. I could go to a porn site and look at videos and think it's nothing special and leave right away. Obviously I'm not gonna do that cause why would do something so random? It hasn't been on my mind since I last fapped, I don't even shed a thought on it. It's completely out of my life and this is how it's going to stay.
     
  5. Your_life_in_your_hands

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    Hello PRN-ADKT,
    I have been thinking for a few days regarding the question you have . I recently crossed the 90 day hard mode and have continued the hard mode, but strangely, I am not keen on "counting days anymore". The urges now happen infrequently as compared to the pre-90 day period. The willpower gained from this hard mode success "be used as fuel" to overcome other habits.So I am using the new found confidence to tell myself that I can sit through a 2 hour data analysis exercise without looking at my phone or browsing. Slowly but surely this Nofap behaviour should become the "default" setting without any expectation for a grand reward at the end. I guess the whole point is to simply do it because its the right thing to just like many of the hard but right things we do everyday.

    Thank You for bringing up this topic.
     
  6. gagate

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    Depends what you mean by hard mode. to me it's not having any sexual tought
     
  7. Prime36

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    How many
    How many flatline periods have you had now; and did you go through that period that the loss of libido could be permanent?

    Cos that's scary as f'.

     
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  8. CH3RRY

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    By 0 urges, I meant that I have no urge to masturbate or watch porn. I'm very interested in real females and can get aroused. I don't get aroused randomly anymore, no random boners and pictures can't arouse me that much. I get morning wood sometimes, no wet dreams. Though last night I had a dream where I came a little bit but that didn't happen in reality. When I go to bed, that's when I get very aroused. I'm constantly thinking about being with a female and just the thought of that gets me very hard.
     
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  9. Prime36

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    Sorry I meant "the period where you feared the loss of libido could be permanent". And my question isn't directly based on your comment, but because I saw we're at about the same number of days of retention.

    By 0 urges, I meant that I have no urge to masturbate or watch porn. I'm very interested in real females and can get aroused. I don't get aroused randomly anymore, no random boners and pictures can't arouse me that much. I get morning wood sometimes, no wet dreams. Though last night I had a dream where I came a little bit but that didn't happen in reality. When I go to bed, that's when I get very aroused. I'm constantly thinking about being with a female and just the thought of that gets me very hard.[/QUOTE]
     
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  10. CH3RRY

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    Oh alright. And yeah I'm actually just went through that period. I've had this fear for some time, but it's not real. I'm sure if I would get with a female I would be very aroused for the whole time.
     
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  11. Gota

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    I'm in 'hardmode' for 16 months, that's a long time. Overall I would say the urges were more strong in the first few months then they are now. Now they are almost non-existent and I don't have any desire to have orgasm. I also stopped fantasizing about sex. But I still have sexual dreams sometimes, also get morning erections almost every night (for me they never disappeared). I never had a wet dream during this period, but used to get some semen/precum leakage in the first 12 months of my reboot, especially after some physical activity. It stopped now.

    I don't know if I'm still in flatline or it's a normal physical and mental reaction when you have no sexual stimulation. Sometimes I worry that such long period with no orgasm might be not good for the health, but as I have no sexual desire at all and don't want myself to force to orgasm I just left it. I think my body knows better what to do with this.
     
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  12. DucksInARow

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    The longer I have been abstinent I notice the power of the mind to shape my experience.

    With mindfulness you can spot thoughts and urges early before they turn into a whole universe of fantasy and suffering.

    All sex/porn addicts, masturbators have one thing in common. They have taken a natural urge and turned it into a private world of fantasy and escape. They are scared of the intimacy of aligning that natural urge with a real person.

    I am now focused on channelling my sexuality into real life. I won't check out or think about a woman unless I am prepared to to talk to her and ground that sexual energy into real life. Most attractive women are often not a good personality match so the desire dissipates quickly. All our problems come when these urges are not anchored in life, warts and all. This approach honours our nature without letting it control us.
     
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  13. I am at 91 days. The porn urges are in check, but I still have strong urges to masturbate see several times a day. How about the rest of you.
     
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  14. Mr. Tumnus

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    Congrats on hitting 250 @DucksInARow
     
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  15. Mr. Tumnus

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    My answer to this question:

    The positive changes keep on coming. It gets better and better. I only wish I had done this years, even decades, ago.

    Even at 220 days I noticed an amazing change: I just never now lose my temper, even under extreme duress. I used to sometimes fly into uncontrolled rage: No more. That has gone. Indeed, I was originally concerned that I would end up getting worse. Not true.

    There are no major downsides. Unwanted sexual fantasy stopped for me circa 150 days, but all these things depend on the individual I think.

    Only minor downside is aching balls. This still happens. I ignore it, and see it as a test of will (of course my will now is excellent, I call it 'titanium will', another super power that arrived I think about 170 days). If it continues much longer I will seek advice. It comes and goes.

    A major improvement rarely discussed is improved brain power. Sounds crazy, but it is true for me. Many physical benefits I noticed early on, but recently I realise that academically my mind is improving. I demand a lot of my brain - I am a research academic, I constantly stretch myself mentally. This is a good habit for everyone. I have noticed that I can now tackle high level math and other processing tasks that someone of my age would often baulk at. I would not have felt able to do this a few years ago. I honestly feel my brain is going into 'age reversal'. Feels pretty good from where I am sitting.

    By the way my wife commented yesterday that I am losing weight and looking more athletic. I didn't tell her it was due to my 'titanium will' and increased testosterone from no pmo.
     
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  16. DucksInARow

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    Thanks, and a belated congrats to you for your 250. I had a good feeling that we would both be in this for the long term from our early journals. Heres to the next 250 and onwards!
     
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  17. DocT

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    for me by day 30, the need to fantasize over sex actually stopped........ it seems my brain just got bored or im simply having another flatline phase.
    i still get aroused when i see hot women at work and on the streets.
    it will be a great releif to one day actually not have any need to keep on fantasizing about sex unless the woman im actually trying to seduce is right in front of me.
    stopping tv watching helped because so much sexual subliminals are thrown at us left right and centre.
    i recently had to stop watching some dating/PUA youtube videos just to get off the whole sex craze mindset.
    i beleive after 1 year of true physical and mental celibacy those obsessive sexual thoughts will be gone or reduced to the barest minimum
     
  18. Slick Willie

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    Couple questions. Has your wife mentioned your performance in bed is better than it use to be? Do you still retain during real sex?
    (My wife takes it personal when i dont cum.)
     
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  19. Mr. Tumnus

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    I am completely celebate. I have a platonic marriage now.
     

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