What do I do?

Discussion in 'Significant Other Journals' started by StrugglingPartner, May 18, 2019.

  1. StrugglingPartner

    StrugglingPartner New Fapstronaut

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    Hello. So I'm new to this site and I figured I would ask for some advice... my boyfriend and I have been on and off for four years. Mostly together but we have only separated because of porn for the most part, and what porn had sone to our relationship. It was 1.5 years before I had any clue about his porn and I found hundreds of hentai photo sets and gigs and awful stuff saved to his phone. I confronted him about it and he got SO upset... fast forward a few years and it had been a co stant struggle of him lying to me, I feel like I cant trust him with anything he reads or sees on his phone and every time I felt like things were better, I would trust my gut and take a peek on his laptop of phone and there was the same kind stuff....and A LOT of it. This is an issue he has had since he was a kid. I love him so much and the last time we got back together was after our only "real, serious" breakup. 5 months later we came back together and he promised that if we were ever together again I would have full access to his laptop and phone at any point in time. No hesitation.... well a few months go by and I'm pregnant, I have been patient about having access to his phone because I wanted to trust him right off the bat. But one day I trusted my gut and found some porn again. Not alot. and not frequent. But it makes me wonder if he just got better at hiding these things. He is now extremely defensive about the phone and refuses to give it to me. And I am to the point where I want to leave after I have the baby because I'm so tired of being lied to... I know he has been doing better and not watching nearly as much. Only if he is REALLY struggling but I dont know if I can ever get the confidence back that porn stole from me. I dont know what to do.
     
  2. Lostneverland

    Lostneverland Fapstronaut

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    Dear StrugglingPartner...you have to do what’s right for you and your baby. Porn is a progressive illness. Decide what is right for you and your baby. I understand that you are in a vulnerable position, but your child deserves a life of honest and trust worthy parents who put the needs of the child first. Please take care of you and your baby as your number one priority. Your boyfriend will either rise to the occasion or he will continue on with his porn.
    If I was in your position...I would tell him exactly what I needed and what I expected from him. I’d keep it simple and straightforward.
    Good luck and all the best to your baby.
     

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