Went to a prostitute as a virgin but...

There have been discussions about escorts on these forums.

What you say here, from your own experience, should be the final word.

There is no substitute for being wanted for yourself as a person.

 

I haven given up on losing my virginity to anyone else but a prostitute. But I'm still going to wait a few more days until right before I turn 30. No way I'm becoming a wizard.
With that said, I admire you for having such a mature realization and having so much hope left that you are allowing yourself to take the normal route. All the best for your adventures!

 

This might be true.

However, there is no self-esteem and confirmation of one's social worth in paying a whore.

My question is this: "Why is 'losing it' so important?"

There can be a lot of pride in remaining a virgin.

That will set you apart and make you exceptional, even if this is not by choice.

 

how did you RESIST???

 

You're good ..I believe I will be able to resist that as well...

Spoiler

Ohhhh !! I don't have money to have a prostitute

 

I'm 28 still a Virgin also not just throwing it away anyway 2017 I'm my year happy I found this community

 

Hi, I know, I know, a woman chiming in again but I just want to throw my point of view in here
(a) Some of us - including me - would LOVE to date a man who is a virgin and DOESN'T pressure us to have sex right away. In a world where we GET a lot of that pressure, some of us, it would be nice to go out with a man who ISN'T doing that.
(b) I was a virgin for religious reasons until 25 when I got sick of waiting. And I'm sure, despite all the pressure, there ARE other people out there who are virgins too, for a variety of reasons.
(c) It's not a race. It honestly annoys the CRAP out of me that women are told NOT to have too much sex and men are told to have LOTS of sex, like unless we are gay or bi etc. for straight people, these two things contradict the HELL of each other and it's plain stupid!
I was 25, but, he was my boyfriend at the time, plus he'd been my closest friend when he was in a relationship with another woman so of course I didn't let anything happen. And we'd been a couple for at least a few months. When it happened. And - even though things didn't last, and yeah yeah some of you may say it's different for women eyeroll! I THINK your first time is something you're gonna look back and remember so do you REALLY want that to be with a prostitute?
(d) For those of you who DO have or HAVE had your first time with a prostitute, please don't think for even a milisecond that I judge you in ANY way. Our bodies are our OWN, WE and NOBODY else gets to decide who we have sex with (well, except it needs to be consensual!)
But you "have my blessing" too - not that you need it. But I feel like for THIS poster, he feels like it would have been a mistake. You may feel very differently and that's OK.
(e) For a lot of guys on here (and hopefully women too!) NoFap seems to help us be more attractive to others, so stick this out, whether or not you have sex and regardless of who with if you do, stick to NoFap and there IS a chance, from what I have read here, that you may have a MUCH better time at the other end of it attracting your first time with someone you DON'T have to pay.

 

It's not necessarily that I'm anxious to lose it. Well, it kinda is but let me explain: Having sex is just something I feel I want to experience once in my life. You know, like those "1000 Movies To See Before You Die" lists? And I'm absolutely convinced that nobody would voluntarily put up with an inexperienced 30+ year old virgin. So by then, my chances would have gone anyway, so I might as well get it out of my system with an escort. Just so I can tick it off of my list.
Also, @Oliver123: Isn't that an argument in favor of escorts? You might die tomorrow so better experience sex as quickly as possible?

Heard that a lot, never understood why I should be proud of the embodiment of my social awkwardness, boringness and ugliness...

No, not really. But this implies that everyone has a choice between losing their virginity to a significant other OR a prostitute. For many of us it's to a prostitute OR not.

I think this is mostly placebo. And it doesn't really work for me, so...

 

That was a very good insight, and good that you could stop yourself.

I think you learned a tremendous lesson.

It's all about the emotional bond which surrounds sex.

 

Well, that doesn't really make me feel better...

 

Good decision mate.

 

That was beautiful

 

Honestly dude... forget the morals (I've no issues with prostitution if they want to do it and are of what ciuld be considered sound mind *yep I know, contentious issue*)... I think you should have had sex with the prostitute.

You are 23 so plenty of time but don't leave forever and try not to be too sensitive over it. Sometimes you just have to get over the line. Then it builds from there...

 

Shitty attitude, LZ.

 

I just wanted to underline that. Our brains treat sex like it's a BIG deal--releasing dopamine like crazy, wanting more of it, seeking P and M when it doesn't get sex, and so on. I think we can find more value in sex if we also treat it like a BIG deal by paying attention to the emotional bonds, the commitment level, and even (dare I say it?) the possibility it has to bring children into the world.

We don't just want sex, we want to belong. We want to love and to be loved.

It's not my place, though, to judge people who go to prostitutes or who have sex without deep, committed relationships. There are as many ways to understand sex as there are people who have it.

 

"And I'm absolutely convinced that nobody would voluntarily put up with an inexperienced 30+ year old virgin."

Please don't think I am hitting on you & I'm older than you anyway so you wouldn't even WANT me to LOL, but i would TOTALLY voluntarily put up with an inexperienced 30+ year old virgin! !

Again NOT a hint!!

Come on, I could always teach him a thing or two if need be.

And, I'd probably come across as being DYNAMITE in bed to him, because he has no other lovers to compare it to!

All I am saying is you are COMPLETELY WRONG about that.

Some women WOULD go for the inexperienced 30 + virgin. I bet I am not the only one who would go for the hypothetical virgin!
(Again, please don't worry, I am NOT coming onto you here, but I am just stating the truth.)