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We made fun of my ED and it sucked

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by BlueEye, Jun 15, 2018.

  1. BlueEye

    BlueEye Fapstronaut

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    Hello,

    As I said in a post, when I was younger, let's say 18-21, girls would not understand why I had no boner with them. I could dissimulate the "problem" by saying "meh I just don't want you" (which sometimes made the girl crazy about having sex with me).

    But one day, I was with a pure HB+, she was a nymphomaniac. I was in a group of men, all of them wanted to fuck her, I did not. I did not wanted because I knew I would not be able to but I would have loved to make love to a girl like her. I have an H-U-G-E regret.

    But guess what, she chose me.

    And what was supposed to happen happened => ED

    She first said "nah it's okay just let go" then after 3 - 4 nights she gave up and told everyone that I had a flabby dick. Everyone acted like they did not know about this and it hurted me even more because I was like 19 and under bluepills and I was not being able to do what everyone my age including me wanted to do : Fuck the HB, have fun.

    It feels good to write this down because I always wanted to talk about how I felt, how I was ashamed because of my low performance. But I've concluded that the girl was a dick. I should have not felt ashamed but I should have knew that I had a problem with a porn induced ED.

    Instead of correcting it, I isolated myself into even more porn. Writing this make me angry, and it's a good think because I know how to use my anger to do wonderful things, NoFap will be my next success.

    It feel also sad to remember me how I've missed such a good time..

    Can you tell me your feedback about this and/or share your similar experience ? I would love to see what you did when it happened to you because I see a lot of people complaning about ED, but what about the situation itself, what do you feel when it happen, where etc..
     
  2. Do you really think ED is because of porn ONLY? I mean, most guys watch porn like crazy and still can get erections.
    I am a fukin virgin and I am now afraid how my first time will be because of this forum. To be honest, I don't even believe that I will have a firtstime since I am already 27 almost 28.

    I mean, even gay man can get fuck women, how can a hetero that watches porn not be able to fuck women?
     
  3. BlueEye

    BlueEye Fapstronaut

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    What do you mean a gay man can fuck a woman ? If it's on porn then there are bluepills behind this.. If it's not on porn, the supposed gay is at least bi or just not gay.

    Yes, porn induced ED is a real thing. I used to have normal sex until I felt into the porn pit. Now, I need to objectify the woman in order to be able to fuck her and it takes a lot of times, a lot.

    I'm atheist and I clearly believe in the science behind the porn induced ED since I am facing it for years now.
     
  4. There are many gay people that married, had kids and only then they reveal themselves. Bluepills? Idk.

    I also believe that porn induce ED. But considering that most of 20's yo guys have watched a lot of porn and most of them can have erections with women, then something else must be causing the ED.

    For example, I believe that I will have ED in my first time, why? Because I don't have any experience, and I will be anxious as shit.
    But, I really don't know. As I told you, I am a virgin and I don't know nothing about ED's. I just fear that I will have one and I am getting prepared.

    That is why I am on nofap.

    I hope that nofap cures your ED.
     
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  5. BlueEye

    BlueEye Fapstronaut

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    Thank you @SoloMan

    Well, if you have ED on your first time, it's okay, it happened to me because I was anxious and I don't know one man that did not go flacid when they discovered sex especially when you have to put that fucking condom :D

    The second time we tried to have sex, I fingered my GF after puting the condom and I did go hard quickly.

    You have to understand that I was normal until I started to consumn insane amount of porn. I think you don't realize that some of us watch porn for hours and masturbate like a compulsive wanked. I personnaly had no trouble with my sexuality even when I watch porn. It was when I became a porn addict, watching impossible thing that I became disinterest of real sex. Imagine, hours and hours of masturbating, no odor, no touch, no fear. Once you're with a women, you have no desir and the anxiety is the only thing that you have which does not help you. You feel like you should not be there, like this kind of sex is not for you.. This is horrible and I can't wait (actually I have to) to be cured of this shit to meet girl and fuck them like I should be doing instead of having no interest. This is not me, this is not how I was before porn and I want to go back to it.

    Btw, there is plenty of success story about porn induced ED and I hope that one day I will be one of them ! :)
     
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  6. Yes, the problem is that I am almost 28...I don't know how a girl looks like when naked lol.
    Porn is the only shit I know. Pixels. I fear that the more time goes by, the less likely will be to have an erection with a girl.


    Yes, there are a lot of success stories. Maybe I don't really know how addicted people are to porn.
    Good luck man! You will do it.
     
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  7. SpiritVessel

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    IMHO - My advice (take it or leave it, it's just my take on your situation):

    Step 1 (option A) - Start by getting involved in volunteer work - especially if it can be with kids or the elderly; it will demonstrate compassion and thoughtfulness - very attractive qualities to women.
    Step 1 (option B) - Find fun social activities that you enjoy - karaoke, improv group, yoga (sort of social, but typically more woman than men), nature walking group, language exchange, toastmasters, etc. Then join that community.

    Step 2 - By becoming part of a community (the volunteers, improv group, etc), you'll start to make real connections with women (and other men). When one of those connections deepens with one of the women, start spending time with her one-on-one.

    Step 3 - Once you're spending time with a woman one-on-one and feel you can trust her, be honest about what you are going through and what your hopes are. I have a friend who was a nofap-er a few years ago and anytime he made friends with a (single) woman, he would eventually tell her about what he was going through and why. In almost every case, the woman was intrigued enough to, at a minimum, expose herself to him or play with him. In a few of the exchanges, they did have sex.

    Don't count yourself out yet. I promise there is a woman out there for you. I've met women before who are incredibly turned on by the idea of being a guy's first sexual experience.

    And as for the anxiety around your first time, we all dealt with that. Many of us still deal with anxiety every time. The best way to reduce it is to increase the connection and trust you have with your partner before that first time. Sure an anonymous one-night-stand looks hot in movies, but the truth about sex is that it is vulnerable and intimate; it's easier and better when you know, trust, (hopefully even love) your partner.

    Hope this helps. Like I said, just my thoughts. Thanks for being part of the forum and sharing your story.
     

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