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Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by IceRoots, Aug 2, 2017.

  1. IceRoots

    IceRoots Fapstronaut

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    So I have done this challenge for 100 days now and I finally found the time to sleep with my gf for the first time of my life. Everything was fine, but than I could not get a boner. Even masturbation did not help.
    That made me thinking: I made 100 days within my first attempt and had no real problems with it what made me conclude that I wasn't an addict. I sure had some improvements but they may have other reasons like passing my finals and having more time for self development. But not beeing able to have sex properly made me question this challenge.
    I will no go back to some PMO on a regular basis and I notice ANY addict-hobbits or steps backwards I will start a new streak. I am thinking of maybe 2 times a week. And I will cum once and try to last as long as possible to avoid more black outs.
    I will start today and will end my counter today. I had a really nice time, trying this out, but maybe it wasn't the right thing to do for me.
    Greetings and keep on fighting if PMO is or was a problem for you!!
    I really love you and you helped me in many self-development issues.
     
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  2. IceRoots

    IceRoots Fapstronaut

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    Doing well! Have not masturbated since my announced relapse. Since then I had a major achievement! For the first time of my life I randomly talked to a girl and got her number. The date on the following day did not go very well because of my smalltalk skills, but I will be working on that! Besides that I did not notice any differences. It feels like laziness got a little bigger but I have no problems in doing my daily tasks. What I did notice is that I touch my dick more often in order to make it a little hard. Don't know why I do that, probably because I fall for the urges.
    I haven't yet quit the relationship with my gf. First reason I can think of (it is hard for me to reflect these things) is that I just don't have the balls and find bad excuses or secondly our last dates went pretty well so I am thinking of fighting for us.
    Will wait a week or two and decided then (said the same to myself two times now).

    Today there are some things to do and I hope to accomplish all of them to prove to myself that productivity and fapping once a week can go hand in hand.
    Again: If this does not work out for me, I will do a full reboot again.
     
  3. Infern0

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    Do you not see the backwards rationalization going on here?

    You think PMO once per week is going to be somehow "healthy" and that not doing it is somehow related to your performance anxiety with your girlfriend.

    put it another way, what would you do if you were transported back in time 50 years to before PMO was even an option? Not be able to have intercourse forever?

    On top of that you are having dates with other girls whilst in a relationship?

    Really?

    It's your decision to make but i just want you to think about what you are typing above.
     
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  4. IceRoots

    IceRoots Fapstronaut

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    I am not saying that it is related, I am saying that even though I passed a reboot I had problems with an erection. And on top I heard that MOers (still debating whether or not to watch porn) can get erections faster and know better, what they like. Training to last longer is a benefit as well.

    I know that morally it is not the best thing to do but this relationship thing is just not working out so I need to have alternatives. I have to admit that it was not a real date. I spoke to two girls at once and met them at once so it wasn't a 4 eye meeting.

    I am willing to discuss my position and maybe changing my plans!
     
  5. IceRoots

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    I had my first real wet dream a couple of days ago. I had two more dreams about sex but I did not ejaculate while sleeping.
    The weird thing is, that in these dreams I knew about my nofap ambitions and broke with it intentionally. Sure, I hadn't had a chance to change my decision, but it could be a sign about how I think about Nofap.
    I am pretty close to relapsing as well. I don't see the benefits anymore and think, I can achieve all the promised things along with PMO. I wasn't an addict and I have my urges under control and looking forward to have more sexual contact to other people.
    Other than that I feel pretty good, I broke up, introduced myself to a company and I pushed some minor projects. Can't really complain.
     
  6. IceRoots

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    Final idea after not being able to sleep without any clue about the future of nofap.
    In about 2 weeks I will start a 30 day pmo session and document every day to see a development. Then I will go on with 90 days of nofap and after that I will do a month of MO.
    With my daily documentation I hope to see, what works out best for me.
     
  7. GG2002

    GG2002 Fapstronaut

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    Dude if the relationship is not working out then end it. Don't keep the gf hanging on until you find something better. Part of PMO recovery is learning not to see women as objects and respecting their feelings. You don't seem anywhere close to there.
     
  8. IceRoots

    IceRoots Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the clear words. Just recently I noticed that it is fun for me to hurt girls feelings. I don't really life that out but it scared me that I had the wish to tell her everything I was annoyed of and did with other girls. Just strange.
    Currently struggling with meeting new girls. But talking to girls on the street is so hard.. But I have plans on doing that with friends.
     
  9. GG2002

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    Did you ever hear the quote "hurt people hurt people." So your desire to hurt someone else emotionally usually comes from your own inner pain. If you work on that that's your path forward.
     
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