Watching Porn without masturbating

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by chase, Oct 19, 2014.

  1. chase

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    Hi Guys,

    I had a relaxing Boring evening, boredom always come with stupidness, So I watched some porn, for a very short period of time (~5 min), I was just about to masturbate, but then I started to think about the amount of time that I’m going to waste, and I really don’t want to start the new week exhausted from +6 hours edging, especially because tomorrow could be the first day in school for me, so I just shutdown the computer and did some push-ups instead.

    Anyway, I the urge to watch the porn or masturbate faded away, but I wonder:

    - what is the effect of watching porn without any sexual release ?

    * for a Long period of time.
    * short period of time.
    * and accidentally.

    I deeply appreciate any help I can get about the topic.

    Many Thanks :)
     
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  2. MrJiggles

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    From what I've read of nofap here are the potential problems-

    You will keep giving your brain the dopamine whether you masturbate/ejaculate or not.

    You will also keep strengthening the neural pathways to porn which nofap attempts to sever.

    If it's accidental then it won't be for long, which means it shouldn't be a problem unless you fantasise about what you watched.
     
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  3. Low Light

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    In addition to what @mrJiggles said , it will give you stronger urges to PMO which will keep growing to a point when you won't be able to control it anymore . So , it's like you're slowly stepping towards a relapse .

    I tried many times to just watch porn but not once could I control it . Trust me these 5 mins are not worth it.

    Good luck .
     
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  4. IGY

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  5. EternalWaves

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    The main effect is that you waste your lifetime.

    Looking porn every evening, 3 hours, everyday = 1095 hours wasted in one year.
    What could you do with 1095 hours of time ?
     
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  6. chase

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    MrJiggles: Thank you for the information’s, I forgot about the fact the reboot is all about rewiring the brain.

    LowLight: I can’t agree more, watching porn even for a little bite is like a mental edging, and that’s even more dangerous for us than the regular edging.

    IGY : Thanks for the article, I was exactly what I was looking for.

    FreedomFlight: well, I could become financially independent if I invested those 3 hours in building my business every day instead of PMOing.

    “PMO addiction is a result, and not a cause. Therefore, become a balanced person, and PMO fades away. “

    I totally agree with this one, I’m currently trying to focus on improving other areas in my life instead of doing the nofap challenge…
     
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  7. MelancholyWeightlifter

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    Instead of? Or in addition to? It's all connected man. Discipline in NoFap is discipline in other areas.
     
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  8. hms74

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    MelancholyWeightlifter is so right in a way. If we can discipline ourselves in masturbating then we are capable to do it anywhere in our life because this is one of the hardest one. It is overwriting our human instincts (kind of)
     
  9. Shin Iu

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    people always fail, this is a lesson. However, you must walk away from all por or any sexual stuff, which would cause you to"fk" yourself!
    1. if you couldn't control your thoughts, the thoughts would control you.
    2. during the no-fapping period, if you didn't kill your thoughts, then the thoughts would definitely kill you instead.
    3. relapsing situation: you always had the thoughts first, then carry on -- the thoughts are the causes! Some thoughts look like normal or sweet, but actually they're not. For example, testing your certain " ability " or "tolerance", or touch your sensitive parts would cause fapping. No one ever overcame these " self-test", because these thoughts look like "you" or some saints or good/pretty people but are actually some devils. Remember God or good ones would never ask you to test yourself! Especially when you are doing well!
    4. if you ever let your thoughts go over or pass, what coming would be that they totally take over your body and mind, and fap crazily. Plz refer back to point 1, and 2.
    5. Never agree with these thoughts, because remember they are just "tools" in your mind, and they are never real unless you agreed with them. Regards that you are playing the game, the character you are using is a tool, it's not you (are you on the computer :p).
    6.We should strengthen our control over our thoughts, instead of letting thoughts control you, and masturbate you until you lost yourself!--destroyed your life and health, and make you not look like or smile like a human, but a dirty pauper or tramp (forgive me, nothing offensive just a parable for helping you).
    7. Thoughts are just unreal stuff won't affect life, unless you follow it and make them happen! After that, they are fking real!
    8. You must clarify your thoughts, the ones with any sexual stuff or their substitutes, you must not listen to it! You must not listen to it! You must not listen to it!!!!!!!!!
    9. Thoughts are our tools, we are the owner, Do Not let yourself become their slaves!!!!!!!!!
    10. NoFap or Fapping, it all depends on your mind!
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  10. Fork2323

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    Watching porn warps your mind, plane and simple. puts toxic energy into your physical body. Distorts and desensitizes any normal relationships with women. Jades you as a human being. Gives you shame, low self esteam and dark secrets that you carry with you for awhile after isolates you from others. Makes you hate yourself. Interferares with your ability to have normal relationships.

    Oh, and you are co-signing and participating in the dystruction of all the women in porn. These people's lives are ruined as they are degrading themselves publicly for life. All have been mentaly, and physically abused as children, hate themselves inside to do this, and are recreating their childhood tramas in a sick way. These are real people and its quite sad they are doing this to themselves, whats even sadder is watching them hurt themselves for your own pleasure.
     
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  11. Nicolette

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    It is difficult to spiritualize yourself entirely, and if your sexual and materialistic desires are stronger than you are, then you should overcome it, and that's another issue, which you unavoidably face sooner or later. I gently suggest you to fight your inner demons one by one, don't bring all of them at once, as it gets unrealistically hard to fight all of them in the same time, and achieve a clean victory. What I mean by this is that, if you having a real tough time without PMO, try a dissolve effect. - It's a practice to satisfy your desires one by one, and not go in full, like straight PMO. But I highly recommend you to erase porn from your mind forever.

    Anyway, the method of dissolving is to masturbate without watching porn and ejaculating. Just give your dick what he wants for a couple seconds, do not orgasm, don't do this for a long period as your balls would hurt afterwards. If you can't handle this, and think that it would only make worse, it's not for you, or anything like this, then masturbate and ejaculate, but try to do this without fantasizing, watching or seeing anything sensual that tingles your nerves. Basically, stay away from your sexual thoughts, stay away from electronics. To not get aroused unnatural way, I suggest you to do this method without getting naked or laying in bed. Don't do anything that might be comfortable or arousing for you, in this specific scenario, it is important to remember why you masturbating, and if it's worth it. Don't do this on a shower, as shower thoughts are mostly deceiving. (Mental side) Water also helps your body to relax and it massages every area of it, which is not good in this case. (Physical side).
    That's pretty much it. Stay strong, bud.

    Sincerely, Nicolette.
     
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  12. newtonlkh

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    I think M without P is much better than P without M
    Mankind should have lived with M for thousands for years, without much problem
    But we lived with Porn for ... a decade? and got serious problems.
     
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  13. GripLess

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    I would rather smash my fingers with a hammer than waste anymore time, and the time of nofap, then to watch 5 minutes of porn. Its just not worth dragging yourself back through that again. Find something to do so you dont have bored periods. Learn archery, build a bow, make knives, walk, sew whatever. Pick something and enjoy it
     
  14. Gooding

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    It is also possible to be spiritual even in the matters of sex and materials. PMO ruins that.
    For example I use to say "God is great" each time I peel and taste an orange, or a date, or when I get hurt and my blood clots, when I see a flower bloom in our backyard. Trust me you would think I am a freak..... Because I don't even believe I God in conventional sense. But the "God is great" mantra is my spiritual way of feeling gratitude. You can imagine how I would feel to be resting on breasts.
    After the addiction to PMO I had lost all that gratitude. I don't ever say my mantra anymore .....

    I am in reboot now
     
  15. Gooding

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    Watching porn without M and O.
    During reboot: will ruin your reboot
    After complete recovery: pathway to relapse. Might distort your attraction to female partner. Might affect the expectations and experience you have with reel sex partner
     
  16. NMIE

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    Watching P without M is one of most stupid ideas if u take your rebooting seriously. Its just excuse of cowards that are too weak and always end up PMOing (since... yes... watching porn always lead to a masturbation... sooner or later but for sure.. especially if u r already addicted or pretty much familiar with the thing)
     
  17. Andrea1986

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    From my personal point of view, the most important thing in our recovery period is to avoid pornography completely. If we think in terms of what is natural and what it ins't, porn is something that doesn't exist in nature and this is why it's the most dangerous aspect from wich we must stay away! So even though your questions are really intresting, I don't care about the effects of P without M because I want to be free from everything that can bring be in chain!
     
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  18. FEEL

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    Don't do it man.
     
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  19. Just leave your dick alone and let time do its thing. It sucks and is hard, but it's the best way.
     
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  20. Ok, TBH, I would rather watch porn that smash my fingers with a hammer, but that's just me.
     

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