Was the breakup rash?

I might not be the most qualified person to answer this question as I've only ever been in a relationship with one girl (though we managed to go through 3 breakups in a span of 3 years), but seeing that no one else is answering I thought I'd give you my perspective. Just keep in mind that I might be totally wrong.

Anyway, here are the thoughts I had when I read your post:

1. Are you sure that the breakup was 'rash'? In other words are you sure that your relationship was great before you broke up? Sometimes it's easy to get blinded by your feelings and not see the relation worsening. From your post I gather that you had no reason to suspect your relationship was deteriorating (she didn't grow more distant etc.), and you seem like an observant guy so I guess you would've noticed something was amiss, but maybe it's worth thinking about when looking for reasons.

2. Having common interests is not vital for a good relationship. There are lots of couples who don't really share the same interests, but it's the chemistry between them that makes their relationships work. There are tons of 'neutral' activities you can share and enjoy together, plus you can try and introduce each other to you interests or find new ones that you both will enjoy.

3. There is also the possibility that she isn't giving you the true reasons for why she broke up with you. Her refusal to discuss your differences makes it probable in my mind. She might've chosen to give you 'nothing in common' reason because on the surface it looks like a valid and serious cause for a breakup. Maybe there are external circumstances that she has no control over that make it difficult for her to be with you? When my ex broke up with me for the first time she gave me a reason that, just like in your case, made no sense in my mind, and it later turned out to be not quite true.

If I were you I would give her some time, and then try to get in casual contact with her. Keeping in touch with her might give you some insight into what she is thinking about the breakup. I definitely wouldn't demand that she talk with you about that or gives you the real reason as she already said why she broke up with you and refused to go into more details, so pressing the matter further will probably make her want to avoid talking to you at all for fear of confrontation she doesn't want.

Like I said, keep in mind that I am not a relationship expert and if you feel that I am wrong in any of my observations, then you're probably right .

Good luck to you!

 

It's good to hear that you're closer to getting to know the reason behind your breakup. Maybe she's coming out of her shell now that you've shown her that you're cool and not mad about what happened between you. It might be that she was scared of the breakup (of hurting you etc.), since she is socially awkward and maybe never had to break up with anyone before.

It's even better that you're moving on. I think there's no reason for you to dwell on a relationship that ended the way yours did.

 

Revenge Your Ex

Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a
variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on.
Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to
vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like "Get Revenge On Your Ex"
for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge.

So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting
nude photos of her and so on.

The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your
life well. This is true no matter who you are seeking revenge on. Coworkers,
past bosses, bad friends or ex-lovers. Put your energy into succeeding and
enjoying your life, not wasting your time, energy and resources on revenge
that can end up costing you much more. Plus, when you seek revenge, you send
them a massage that you have not gotten over the relationship. It's much
better to show you are indifferent and don't care.

According to Kenneth Agee of A Foreign Affair, a service that specializes in
helping men find young beautiful foreign women, "The best revenge is to date
or marry a women 10 years younger than your ex. This will piss her off to no
end. No woman ever wants to be replaced with a younger, more attractive
woman. Just like a man never likes to get replaced by a guy who is wealthier
or more successful.

I will never forget one of my first clients we took to Saint Petersburg,
Russia." says Agee, "The client told me that two days on our tour was better
than two years of therapy. Having hundreds of attractive women fighting over
you gets your ex out of your mind pretty quick.

I personally went through break up when my ex ran off with another man. But
a short time later, I met a new lady who was ten times better. I ran into
that man who stole my ex and I gave him a big thanks. In fact, I could not
thank him enough. He was stuck with an older nagging women, while I was now
with a young, beautiful, caring women. Plus, my ex had gained about 100
pounds. I don't look at that fellow as any kind of enemy but as the person
who saved me from my ex and years of suffering." This is the best a revenge
when you win without lowering yourself.

Other sites like "Get Over Her Now" give practical advice and tips for
getting over a past relationship.

Top Tips from Get Over Her Now:

Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
young, skinny, fat, cute or ugly. This greatly helps you get back in the
game of socializing with the opposite sex. And it opens up lots
opportunities to meet their cute attractive friends in a more relaxed
environment. This also helps you build your game and confidence.

Improve yourself, start working out, get up early every day and exercise.

Buy new clothes. Dressing better makes you feel better and improves your
confidence.

Focus on work and getting a promotion or raise. Don't let a break up effect
your work negatively. Put that extra effort into work and it will pay off
with a better position and more money. This will also build your confidence
and help attract better quality women.

Any time you are depressed, improving yourself helps greatly. When you feel
depressed, don't sit and watch TV and then sleep-in late. Get out and do
something that will make you feel like you've accomplished something. Take a
class, go hiking, fix something you've been putting off.

Don't start drinking. Drinking will always have a negative impact on your
life. Don't drink while depressed or when you are trying to get over some
one. After all, drinking is for celebrating. So if you are not celebrating
something, don't drink. A quality women is not going to be attracted to
someone who drinks a lot or has a drinking problem.

Don't sleep in; sleeping late increases depression. Get up as early as you
can and go for a walk, take a hike, or go to the Gym. Research shows getting
up early and exercising can eliminate depression. You will have no game be
depressed.

Don't binge eat. If you start gaining weight, you will feel less self-worth
and lose your confidence. Confidence is a quality that women are extremely
attracted to.

Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!

 

Just move on (easier said than done, I know), if you treated her well then she will come running back someday.

 

Your young. Take this as a lesson learned and keep this experience with you. The lesson is....some bitches are just fucked up. Better to just move on to greener pastures my man