Hey, bros! Hope you are doing good. Hope you are recovering physically, mentally & spiritually and discovering the real man that lives right inside you & screaming to be discovered. About Me You can clearly know my name from my profile. I am 23 now & from India. I can still remember my amazing childhood time when I used to be so energetic & youthful. Football was my favourite sport. Until I discovered masturbation in 2008 ( I was in 8th standard) & porn the next year. It was the most wonderful thing I ever did and like all of you bros, I fapped to almost every situation of life. I knew that the things were still the same & it changed nothing but I would become miserable if I go without it for a day. My porn addiction reached a peak during my Engineering when I was fapping multiple times to the inhuman porn videos. Additionally, since the porn did so much damage to my soul & mind ( which I realized after reading books only like this ), I had become ugly & out of energy. Since very recently I was having acne on my face & I never realized that PMO is the source of all that trouble. My confidence was always low for I was filled with guilt & shame each day. And hence, I could never make a gf or had a real sex. But the frustration & brainwashing to real sex kept building & I started having paid sex. I don't even have the count of how many times I involved in this debauchery but I found it good to have sex with no strings attached. Adding on to all this, I had been a cigarettes & drugs addict for the last 4 years. Weed remained my favourite time pass. 16 Feb 2018 was the day when I had my last paid sex encounter. I cried badly in the night thinking about all the sins I have been committing. Having Paid sex & still never feeling satisfied but guilty every time.Being jobless for more than 2 years. Smoking a pack of cigarette each day. Lying to my parents about my whereabouts. Eating shit food each day & looking like a potato.Smoking weed & doing other drugs. Drinking alcohol on the weekly basis. Having great ideas to work on but always procrastinating. Masturbating multiple times a day. Spending time with my loser friends & finding hapless to change anything. And finally going bankrupt after spending all your money on filth. " Enough is Enough " Change becomes inevitable when you say yourself, " Enough is Enough". Let's change & create a life where there is no regret & crying. Where you can look back & feel great about each moment. And it's surprising that once you make a decision to change, you start attracting all the great things. And that's how I was introduced to NoFap when a random video popped up in my YouTube feed & the guy talked about this site. I knew I don't like it. I have always felt guilty & ashamed of myself after doing this. I have never felt great or energetic after committing this sin. And all the cases I read in forum proved the same to me & I decided to do it. " So what changed? " A lot. A lot of things. I know that it's been just 30 days but it appears to me that I have come out of the nightmare life that I was living. Somebody took off the blanket that I was firmly holding it & now I had no option but to face the things. Looks like I got a new mind. I can really live consciously now rather than being on autopilot each day. Now, I look at opposite gender with respect & indifference rather thinking to bang them like I used to in the past. I feel so much good & confident being around girls in the office. Once guilt & shame is gone, you return to default & natural state. My voice pitch seems to be getting better & now I speak slowly and with confidence. People just stop and pay attention to my words when I speak. I quit smoking 3 days after I started NoFap. All thanks to Allen Carr's Easy Way to Quit Smoking. If you are a smoker too, read the book & break the nicotine slavery once and forever. I have lost almost 15 pounds in the last month. I know that may be a lot in a month but when you start eating one meal a day ( high fat & high protein ) & start doing bodyweight exercises rather than eating fast food the whole day, the body had no option but to drop off that excess fat. Acne, which had troubled me since my 9th grade, is gone. I am so ecstatic to tell you that. My face has never been so clear & radiant since years. My hairs have become so much better. I need not worry about combing them every now & then like I used to in the past. I feel so much energetic & in control. I can wake up early, do the workout, go to office & still feel energetic after coming back to home. I had never been able to harness so much energy in the last couple of years. And the best feeling? I would be frank with you bros. I never got any looks from opposite gender till now. But now? Yes, I do observe a couple of times that girls do check me out. And it's such a great feeling. What Helped Me? Reading. A lot of reading. I read books & made sure that I remove all the brainwashing & my previous assumptions that I had about sex, masturbation, girls & other things in general. Please do read this book. Find books on life, motivation, Buddhism & all the great topics that would strengthen your mind. If you want to successful reboot without needing to count days, just involve yourself in reading a lot of great stuff. Meditation. Now, if you read in the forum, you would certainly come across this topic every now & then. But why meditation? It's your brain that controls your hands & your thoughts & not the vice versa. Once you start having some command over it, it becomes easier to manage your thoughts & avoid relapse. You would be merely counting the days & waiting for relapse to occur if you don't set up your schedule & goals. But if you do latter first, the days would merely pass and you won't have to worry about your days' streak. Use the extra energy you possess to find your passion, goals & create new habits to build a strong foundation upon which you can really count success. How do you deal with occasional sex-related thoughts & images? It's simple. When do you think it's the easiest to contain the fire? It's right when it starts. If you allow it to become a raging fire, it would be almost impossible to control it. But even if you control it, it would end up doing an enormous damage already. Use 5-second rule and as you catch yourself slipping, count backwards ( 5 4 3 2 1 ) and move. Do something. Go for a walk. Hit pushups. Talk to your friend. See it as a battle you can't afford to lose. The pain of starting from 0 after relapsing never really feels good. What do you do if you get an intense boner? Try this next time. Visualize that the blood is flowing from your genitals to your brain & the brain getting charged by all that surplus flow. This is weird but you can certainly do this once you start practising meditation & have some control over you. What Next? I really need your advice regarding this. Since I committed so many bodily sins ( though I have forgiven myself completely for my past), I just made a commitment to myself to not involve my body in sex or PMO for the next 2 years at least. But I do have some doubts that still needs to be clarified. Are you rebooting to start getting involved in sexual activities after some specific time? Are you planning to be celibate? Are you planning to master the art of tantric sex so that you don't spill the most vital energy of a man? Or are you planning to involve yourself in moderate sexual activities? I am still confused about this. I don't want to waste my sperm & would like to retain it for I have experienced some amazing benefits from its retention. Can anyone help me about that? Thanks to all of You! I never knew that such an amazing & unique community can exist online to address the issue that seems to be destroying men's health everywhere. Thanks for your lovely posts! Thanks for posting your experiences & stories that really allowed me to make solid changes. Thanks for being so nice to each other. And thanks for making me feel a real man again! I would be here until I accomplish 180 days challenges. Feel free to reach me! Would be happy to help bros who are just getting Started. See you on the other side of success!