Virginity in 30s

Don't worry about being a virgin.

I'm a virgin too, even if I had girlfriends in the past. But they had some problems and I was 18 or 19 years old at this time - I will discuss this in another thread, so back to your question!

I know a friend from a festival who is in your age and also a virgin. And I knew another one who was 40 years old and also a virgin. He said, he didn't care about it as long as he can enjoy his life.

In terms of bars, clubs, Pubs etc.: It depends on your surroundings. I visited clubs or bars which are very good, but also visited bars which are just boring and clubs they just suck because of the people.
Most of all I visit such bars or clubs with friends just for fun, not for getting a woman because that would make me sick the whole time.

 

Im currently texting this amazing women who I met in college. Shes asked me if I wanted to have sex, but I don't want to because I believe in that idea of a special someone. I know that idea exists as my parents are still married after 30 years of marriage. My mother is fiercly loyal to my father and my father wouldnt do childish things (like sleep around while in a marriage). I really look up to their example, and I'm going to live up to it. Ive had multiple times to lose my virginity, but I never gave into my primitive side. This might sound romantic to some, but its how I see it through my eyes, honestly, couldntdo it any other way.

 

That's good. I am quite 'romantic' too and I reckon it's quite common for guys to be - but we don't here about it so much.

 

I’ve never understood why people equate virginity with loneliness? You guys do know you can feel completely and utterly alone even when you are with someone, don’t you? Especially if it’s someone you don’t love or care for.

Your virginity doesn’t dictate your happiness unless you let it. In fact it can bring you a lot of happiness if you shift your focus and values.

 

So true.

I think virgins like me have a problem with society's perception of us - though maybe we imagine that perception to be worse than it is....
that's partly what causes loneliness.

 

There are times I regret losing my virginity so early (I was 16). But now I'm with a guy I'm happy with so it worked out in the long run, I guess.

 

Hey man!

Funny topic, I was recently thinking about it and decided if i did have a wish, i most definitely would have stayed a virgin.

I lost mine at about 17 and i don't even feel proud about that honestly.
I mean if you can quit the fap id say you have no qualms. At the risk of sounding like an absolute douche, it seems kinda like the honorable way to cultivate all that seed and use it to be mentally & emotionally equipped to be a part of your partner and children's lives...

As a pup, i used to be a slave with an appetite for sex, now i just see it as a game of swords. Everyone thinks theyr'e ready, but someone is bound to get hurt eventually, unless it is true. Plus it's so common, everyone has sex, even animals. So for us it should be special, unique... natural but humane in a way of emotional connection. (sometimes )

I keep thinking to the nocturnal marriage scene in the movie 'Braveheart' where the protagonist, William Wallace weds the lady Muron and the vows exchanged were mutual ...

"I will love you my whole life... You and no other."
"And I you... You and no other. Forever!"

okay, so im a romantic as well

 

Nofap challenge is definitely for you!good luck!

 

I'm 29 and a virgin and it doesn't bother me. Sex outside of a loving, caring relationship is meaningless and beastial. That's my opinion. Sex is only going to be 100 times more amazing if you're with the right person.

 

I was a virgin when I got married at 22. I don’t regret it but I will say that it took some time before we got the hang of things.
I don’t know how two people just meet each other and have sex. Esp. for the first time. Seems super awkward, but what do I know.
It’s been good but sex isn’t what keeps you from being lonely. That’s 19 years of experience speaking.

 

People used to say this all the time - then they kinda stopped.
Porn devalued sex for me and others , but I can feel that value coming back. - which is great : )

 

Here too, when I had my first girlfriends I didn't know how to handle sex - and I still don't know it today. The biggest problems I had with them, they just lay on the bed and just wanted only that I do the whole job. That's just terrible and every time I embarrassingly gave up every time. And if I was in the big horny mood - that was rare - thinking 'THIS time it would definitely work!', the girlfriends didn't want. So I said to myself "Fuck, I'm out here" - in context to women.

 

Wherabouts in UK are you from Millenial?

Ye I see your point here. So many guys (and girls) rely on alcohol to get sociable in order to potentially meet partners. Whilst I do enjoy going out to bars and meeting women that way, sometimes I get annoyed when everyone seems to just want to get pissed whilst I want to have the old fashioned charming conversations. Depends where you go I guess.

There are COUNTLESS ways to meet women Patrick - social groups, classes, meet ups, social circle. Even cold approach during the day Find the methods that you can resonate with and stay positive. You'll give yourself every opportunity to meet that woman who is prepared to take your virginity (either knowingly or not).

 

I have pretty much the same mindset as you OP... the only difference is at the age of 25, I decided to have a hookup. To this day I regret it. It was very unlike me to do such a thing and I will probably never do it again.

 

I so, so wish I could have my virginity back! Don't wish to lose it too quickly! Give it someone you love and you know they love you back. Sorry to be cheesy!!

 

I'm 30 + virgin (too). Now I change my goal or mindset(?) which is not to have sex or having girl or wife, but to contribute more to myself, community, society, and the world, anything for greater good, as small as writing in my blog. Life is not just about sex. I mean we all born alone and virgin, I really don't mind if I die alone and virgin (all people are actually die alone you know, they won't follow you into the grave).

 

I was a virgin until 20-something, and I remember the desperation prior to that. Feel free to ask anything.

If you feel a lot of pressure because of being a virgin, you could try to lose it first to lose that mental burden.

However, even if you go to a prostitute or lose your virginity with a random girl, that is probably not going to cause a change in your lifestyle so you can suddenly be super-social and have sex regularly.

The real lifestyle change needs a different mindset and daily habits. It is a medium/long-term game.

In my opinion, knowing what I know today, the best option would be a dual-flanked attack (I wanted to use that expression so bad ), in which:

• You take care of that burden in a sensible way.
• You steadily improve your habits, life goals, etc.

Best statement in this thread.

Hope it helps!

 

You don't need people nor women to feel complete or be happy in general. All they do is waste your time and make you catch unnecessary feelings.. you'll find the right one when time comes, if not, why bother? Your world does not revolve around women, that's what I thought until it came to my realisation that there's much more to life than relationships and girls. It's so much better having a true purpose to knowing what you love as a hobby and pursuing it because that's what makes me happy every single fucking day man.