Virginity in 30s

I'm a 23 year old virgin. I recently learned the lifestyle of the Buddhist. I now know the way to generate happiness in myself, and not by my happiness be dependent on other peoples opinions of me or the environment. I used to believe that I needed friends or a girlfriend to bring me happiness, boy was I wrong. I too am a loner, picture that quite looking goth kid in your school, I could make myself look invisible (literally), I barely speak. Anyway, you need to find your own way of making yourself happy, and when that day comes when you want to share your happiness with another member of the opposite sex, so be it.

 

I was a virgin until 34. Hang in there. Just love your self. Happiness is a choice and not a feeling. I was not really happier married than single.

 

Wow. I know like two people who are virgins in their 20s. Thirties is something else. Are you saving yourself for someone special?

 

@Pat-rick

I'm 34 and have had hardly any sex in my life so I can relate to what you are saying...
My whole life I've felt pressured by others to have sex when all I really wanted to do was get to know a woman properly so that sex would be easy as we understood each other... instead I ended up just having a few crappy sexual encounters with women I barely knew..they didn't go well and that put me off real sex.

Much of what we can do is practical... for example I have made an effort to make my home look nice whereas in the past it was a bit of dump. - My bed and bedroom too is now decent and clean and a good place to have sex in.

Of course the 'emotional' side is more important - put while we are figuring that out we can at least prepare for the sex we want in practical ways...
Another big step for me will be to reduce smoking - which does not combine well with kissing and intimacy.

 

I'm 20 and a virgin and I honestly don't care if I never had sex in my life. Porn used to feed my desire for sex but now after I realized how dumb this is, I took the decision to quit porn and not have sex till the right one comes. Nowadays, anyone can have sex for as cheap as it gets and lose their virginity but wait, is it really worth it? If time goes back I'd never have smoked that first cigarette, or drank that first beer, so I don't wanna add another regret to the list.

 

That is so true - If we looked at pictures of food all the time that would make us hungry for it. - It's just the same.

 

Vaping is Awesome!

It's amazing how something so brilliant got a reputation as 'weird' and somehow annoys people - the world is screwed up.

 

I'm also a 30 year old virgin. I guess whether one is virgin or not, it doesn't matter. What matters is how we spend our time in making a happier and better life for ourselves and for people around us.

 

I'm 28 and all my sexual encounters which are like 3 were kind of lackluster lol honestly I only did it because of the societal pressure and none of them were very enjoyable and I felt like I was used or using others and followed by that pmo was used to combat my feee of intimacy but after quitting I realized I owe to myself to find a meaningful intimate connection with a women and having sex with anyone isn't good for me and anyone can have sex even people who are less genuine and are assholes to others can have sex but to have a meaningful connection is rare just having sex because your friends are all doing it or calling you a bitch is no reason to have sex lol I'm realizing you just gotta give no fucks what others and society think and only the man upstairs can judge me good luck

 

So true.

I just feel like the 'accepted procedure' for getting a girlfriend and having sex is bullshit... meeting potential partners in a bar when you're half drunk.
I want a partner that I've got loads in common with. At the moment one of my hobbies is Pinball - so if I could find a female Pinball player that would be a good foundation to start a relationship in my opinion. Just an example. Shared enjoyment of hobbies and stuff.

 

I totally agree I'm trying to look into different hobbies lol meeting women at a bar or a club isn't the main way to go but I like to dance and have fun so maybe learning different dances would be a start

 

Dance is fantastic in all it's forms - even though I'm completely rubbish at it lol.

Another thing I don't like about bars and clubs is this 'procedural chatting up' women bullshit. - Basically saying stuff that a woman wants to hear which in my experience often means people telling lies... That applies to women looking for men too.

There are better ways to get to know someone... like actually doing something interesting together.

 

Yeah your right it is lol I'm not taking any interactions at the clubs seriously anymore just gonna use it for practice approaching and being more comfortable for me it use to be the end all be all for me haha

 

Sorry I should've clarified something - I'm from the UK where although similar to the US there are some traditions here that are different - Many Many British people feel the need to get drunk in order to meet a partner - it's one of these stupid things in the national psyche... believe it or not it's worse that most other countries.

I've got nothing against Bars and Clubs - it's when the behaviour inside them gets crazy that's where I draw the line... nothing wrong with chilling out in a bar and reading a book or playing a game - that's cool.

 

Lol a lot bullshit happens here in the states too