Virgin @ 27

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Bemybest, Nov 30, 2018.

  1. Man, I'm a virgin guy just like you, same age as well. I considered many times to look for a escort to lose my virginity. The truth is I don't want to lose my virginity like that, I want it to be spontaneous with a girl that loves me. Sometimes I really feel lonely, specially after the pmo, but then I remember my decision to fix me up before starting a relationship and I focus on the others aspects of my life. There's no shame to be a virgin. Improve yourself, work hard to bring the best version of yourself. Don't worry man, there's nothing wrong to wait for the right girl.
     
  2. j0rdi3

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    I was commenting on how poor your argument was/is. I did prove my point which was that just because something is more or less timeless, doesn't make it proper or beneficial to society. You can't even think straight enough to make an argument..
     
  3. Perhaps I didn't make myself clear, so again: prostitution doesn't harm anybody and has been a part of human culture since forever. Can we just fucking accept it already and move on to solving real issues instead?
     
  4. j0rdi3

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    Prostitution harms everybody involved in it. Period. One day you will realize that.
     
  5. j0rdi3

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    Hey guys can we move on already? The foremost thinker and social scientist of our time has declared that prostitution is not harmful to anyone. Thank God we can finally put this matter to rest.
     
    • Impressive self awareness you have there.
    • The phrase 'social scientist' is an oxymoron.
    • Still no evidence for the supposed danger of legalization.
    This is not a very productive dialogue. I'm out.
     
  6. j0rdi3

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    Do you think perhaps that I was being sarcastic with my second comment? It's understood and axiomatic that prostitution is harmful, that's why its illegal... The burden of proof is on you to prove that it isn't harmful not on me to prove that it is.. Go ahead and run away because you can't prove or even argue what you're espousing.
     
  7. So you want him to get addicted to prostitutes as well as porn?
     
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  8. Moscote7

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    I would consider prostitution is also highly addicted from my own experience, it has many similarities like porn, from I learned in the TED Talk about porn I watched recently. It cost me a lot of money so I shifted my addiction to porn. I start quieting porn from 12/1. I've never been in any relationship, I become really anxious around girls, and it's why I decide to stop porn.
    Don't hire a prostitute!
     
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  9. "Axiomatic" :emoji_laughing:. You're right, I can't argue with tradition worshippers. Luckily victimless crimes are not punishable in my country so I don't have to.

    Please save your fingers and don't post any more provocations because they won't be registered as I'm putting you on my ignore list. I think anyone reading this ridiculous exchange would agree that I've given you plenty of chances to lead an honest conversation but you insisted on purposefully misunderstanding what I was saying instead. Good-bye and have fun burning witches.
     
  10. phwrancesco

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    did i talk about addiction?i don't want this guy became addicted to prostitute, or alcohol or cocaine. Hell no.

    I just want for him to cal talk with a woman without being ashamed as hell of himself.
     
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  11. As you know guys on here have thought seeing prostitutes will help but it only starts another addiction. How can you know for he won't get addicted to it? I'd say it's better to have one addiction than two. How do you know he still won't be ashamed still? Who goes around letting everyone they know they've been with a prostitute? Is this really a cure for loneliness?
     
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  12. phwrancesco

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    i know a lot of guys who has seen prostitutes in their life and none of them has become an addict. I guess that addicts are just a small minority of all prostitutes clients.


    would i prefer telling a girl i'm a 27 year virgin or that i hired an escort once? probably the second, but is my opinion.
    Before loosing my virginity i was feeling ashamed like i was a serial killer and i was only 19, i don't wanna imagine how does it feels like at 27.
     
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  13. ClaritySeeker

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    OP, are you part of a gym? Maybe you could meet women there? Maybe join a dating site? Definitely don't go for a prostitute, it will make you feel worse in the long-term and there is a higher risk of acquiring STDs. I know someone will say, it's legal in my country and the government tests for them), but they don't test everything...Will they stop them from working with they have HSV? I'm pretty sure they won't stop them from working if they have HPV. Those are incurable lifelong viruses, the first causes herpes and the second causes genital warts and cervical/penis cancers. So, it doesn't matter if it's legal or not, please don't go down that rabbit hole. As a PA, you're more likely to become addicted to other things as well, it's just our nature as people susceptible to addiction. If you're on this site, you're most likely an addict of porn.

    Another point, just because something is legal, doesn't mean it's ok. Alcohol is legal, slavery was once legal, and there are more examples. You can do what you want with your life, but at the end of the day you have to ask yourself, "Is this what will make me truly happy? Will I be proud of my actions? Can I sleep well at night knowing about what I did?".

    Hope this helps
     
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  14. j0rdi3

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    It's not easy perhaps to understand why prostitution is outright harmful to everyone involved, but if you would lift your preconceptions of it for even just a moment and try to see it for what it truly is, not being afraid of the truth, you would realize how awful it is for society and the individual. Go ahead and ignore me if thats the only way you can continue to avoid the truth. By all means
     
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  15. Bemybest

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    Last three years I have doing same thing repeatedly. I will waste my time for one day..then keep wasting it for week then eventually get more depressed and hopeless from myself.

    Then because of my bad habits I lose my confidence in myself. Whether I can achieve anything ever. I start to feel as a failure.

    I work hard but only for one week then I get depressed because I don't have a girlfriend and friends. That is where the depressing cycle triggers for me.

    In this cycle I won't do anythingn I would like oon bed and binge watch TV shows, YouTube, and porn. Anything that I can use to escape from self imposed stress.
    I want someone who can discipline me and mould me into inculcating good habits like a coach.
    Sometimes I feel a girlfriend would have helped ward off loneliness which is my biggest trigger for depression. But not having is something I have to accept and move on. But that is the biggest challenge. As wherever I go I feel so upset about my life seeing everyone enjoying with their lives ones. Even watching TV shows and movies just adds on to that viewpoint of mine.
     
  16. Bemybest

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    I am part of a gym but in our culture it is really difficult to hit on girls in places like gym, pubs etc. Also I don't have the experience and confidence.
     
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    But how. It has not happened for last 7 years. I want to get mentally strong to get over this fact that I don't have a gf. Though I have been trying this for last 7 years and failed horribly.
     
  19. Bemybest

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    Same as u for me. I also don't want to lose my virginity to a prostitute. And for that matter I don't want to have Sec with a prostitute. That is only due frstration.
    I have tried hard to bring the best version of myself. You can check my blog @Bemybest
     

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