Very extreme severe Femdom real life- help

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Aiden5, Aug 6, 2017.

  1. TimeToQuitNow

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    I read all the posts in the thread. It may be one of the most interesting thing I've read in a while. It was triggering but worth the read. This woman is evil but smart as well. She shows how plastic the human brain is.

    Isolation: she has made sure the man is isolated as much as possible from the real world. The only places he's aloud to be is at work and at the home. And within the home he is either in the slave quarters and not aloud to connect to the outside through the internet.

    Brainwashing: She makes him say mantras to her, similar to praying it sounds like. Saying something like "you are my goddess" over and over again makes him believe it. He must kiss her feet and can't look in her eyes. This create a power dynamic. All those chores he does not only help her out but further enforce his love for her. The more you do for a person the more you love them. Not only that but all those punishments instill fear in his heart. Even if he knows on an intellectual level that he can leave at any moment his heart doesn't realize that out of fear and love for her.

    Sexuality: This cock cage sounds serious. It devoid him of all sexuality. He gets aroused by her without ever realise. At the same time his body and brain as shut down his ability to get erect since it would cause him pain. This cage has caused the sexual arousal to transform into complete devotion to her not on a sexual level, but on a device level. On top of all that it completely removed the possibility of another woman taking him away from her.

    @Aiden5 I hope you got out but honestly I doubt it. My guess is she found out about this account and punished you for it. If that's not the case and you are able to log in please do so. Maybe this post can help you. I wanted to show the situation removed from all emotions and talk about it purely logically. She has completely transformed you in a way that even if you leave your brain has forever changed in a way. That doesn't mean you shouldn't leave. She has left the door for you to leave wide open. I assume she did this to escape any legal trouble. But in any case walk out that door forever if you haven't already. God bless you.
     
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  2. joshep56

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    Much appreiated this thing
     
  3. Freedom_from_PMO

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    It was a very sad read. OP is inactive for a long time. We should pray for him.
     
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  4. Freedom_from_PMO

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    I never tried bdsm lifestyle in real life, but I used bdsm dating sites and it was a very bad idea. I wanted to participate in petplay and be woman's dog. I think I tried to satisfy my furry and animal transformation fetishes that way. But I never find an owner.

    I really can relate to OPs problem with doing insane things to be close to very desired and attractive woman. I once met online a woman who was beautiful and who had a dragoness outfit she sometimes used in sexual situations. She was bisexual but she was only looking for women on that site. She was a woman of my dreams, because I have furry fetish that is especially strong for reptile girls and I was ready to do a lot for her. After talking about our preferences (it was during I had problems with sissy porn, now thanks God I am free of it) we made a deal that she will peg me if I will allow her boyfriend to have anal sex with me and I would be the bottom. I realised how sick it was and also sissification lost its power, but if I would decide back then to participate in this I probably would fall into very toxic relationship where I am abused by one person to have some scraps of attention from another one. It would probably badly affect my sexuality, because I can feel anal pleasure but I am straight and heteroromantic and I would lost my virginity to that guy I never even cared about or was attracted to. I thought about losing my virginity to escort before participating in it. It was fucked up. I am much better now, but I have no idea how low I would fall if I made different decision.
     
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  5. TimeToQuitNow

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    I'm glad you left that life style. It may have been your first time but there will be better times ahead. Just keep going
     
  6. overclocked

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    Hang in there, @Aiden5! You can get out of there. Although we focus on porn and fapping addiciton in this forum, you are welcome to stay here and get the encouragement you need.

    This woman is an asshole. Make your great escape and cause her as much damage as you can.
     
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  7. Brown Boy

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    Oh My Godddd!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    leave her right now. how can u have strong feelings for her, she is just using u and u know it. u r broke so stop giving her money. leave her. live ur life life freely. u r man. be a man.
    and i think u should start saving money coz u r gonna need a therapist bro.
    Just stay away from her even if she begs u to come back( she will obviously).
    u may will feel devastated for a while but after sometime u will realise it was the best decision of ur life...
     
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  8. Brown Boy

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    we only live once. do u really wanna live as slave?
    leave her and one day u find a girl who will really love u. And she will do what u want coz she loves u nd want u to be happy
     
  9. Orest

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    dude!!if she sleeping with other guys that she doesnt care about you!Even if you have feelings for her shes a cold hearted hoe who doesnt give a shit and taking care of chores is not part of femdom,she should take care of your chores if she wanted you to be her sub no the opposite! and you arent obligated to do them! Also how can you stay with her if youre not fucking her! thats really stupid in my opinion!Why did you give a hoe all of your money?There are other people in this community with femdom fetishes and they would never give their money to anyone and also even porn is better than spending your money on these shit!YOU just dont realise youre making her a favour!She doesnt! You are the submissive that gives her pleasure by doing all of these stuff! Without you she is nothing! Get away from her right now!! like this fucking moment!! Tell her im not gonna do these shit for you so you better do it yourself you lazy cow!(but first make sure you dont have anything on you,like a collar or something make her take all of them of before you tell her that) and if she tries to make you do something grab her by the hand and fuck her HARD the way she fucked you(dont worry she will like that shit)!! and then leave her and get out of her house and go home to your parents to tell them what happened(or dont) just say you need financial support
     
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  10. Truth-Seeker

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    Yea as someone who was into crossdressing, sissification, and would have enjoyed having a mistress dom me this makes no sense to me. Why the F would you give her your money. You are supposed to be a sex slave not an actual slave lol. I understand getting off to a powerful woman with a whip, but if she isnt doing it to please me Id snatch that whip right out of her hand. Scared of the punishment? Put a gag in her mouth and F her in the ass, use a broom stick since your dick doesn't work, the laws will never believe her considering all the weird shit she is into.
     
  11. TimeToQuitNow

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    He has a chastity cage on so he can't fuck her. Also what you described sounds like rape. He shouldn't do that. Also coming from a guy who has had these fetishes I understand where you are coming. You are mad at him just reading this thread. I know I was. I was like "why did he get himself into this situation? Fuck this bitch! Get out of there dude!" But the best thing to do is not revenge. He should just walk away. He said she left the door wide open so there is no problem there.
     
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  12. Truth-Seeker

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    She has a key, take it from her and remove the cage if you don't like it. Its just a fantasy. Woman are physically weaker than men and there is no way she can physically stop you from doing whatever it is you want to do. Thats my only point. In reality he is only a slave to his own addiction. I suspect this whole thread was just part of his fantasy to be a real sex slave.
     
  13. TimeToQuitNow

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    What you just wrote here, I 100% agree
     
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  14. chapuleta

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    Read my posts here about femdom.

    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/femdom-crush-fetish-cuckold-and-other-stuff.235521/


    I almost entered in a femdom bdsm relationship with a girl but i knew i never liked that so i back them and didint go for that, i just want enter to that to fullfil my foot fetish,and the girl orders me to give some Money to her and other stuffs, and i did some stuff but only virtual,i did that because i dont want to lost her because she was going to fulffil my footfetish and i really liked her she had some comum things with me like she is a geek and other stuffs in commun. So i started to tell her the truth, that i was in love with her and im not that submissive guy and i supposed to be and i was doing that because she was the first girl going to accept my foot fetish and i say i would never accept she with another guys while she was with me, and it already show that im not a submissive guy. But she started to tell me that she had any feelings for me that she is just using me and blocked me.



    The conclusion is that i was entering in a toxic BDSM relationship because of my desire of having a girlfriend who would accept my foot fetish.



    The other thing intrigues me is how a so cute girl can be so evil like that, i would so much ask her why she is so evil and like these thinks like BDSM stuff.

    that really intrigue me. And she is not the only girl imet virtually that are into that,but she is the fartest i go into that stuff. because she was the first girl i gave Money and did some humiliating things vurtually like licking the floor to her.
     
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  15. Mr.Chips

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    Foot fetish is a key to femdom fetish but it does not necessarily mean a guy with foot fetish has femdom fetish, because femdom fantasies start developing after time. In my opinion you can make a relationship with any random girl on the bases of understanding and love and then you might be able to get her into foot fetish without letting her feel that you only care about that ( learn to treat it as a small part of flirt ? ) .. So you dont need to enter that dark door called BDSM. Also all these femdom girls there dont search for submissive men, most of them care about money and if not money then you will find them not even interested in men by any mean, so they will just care about what they want..they are bitches.. smart bitches. Anyways the femdom thingy is very bad and you can get rid of it but it takes courage to take a serious steps and never look back, then things will become better.
     
  16. chapuleta

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    Yes, My goasl is try to minimalize my foot fetish,And find a girl to have a normal relationship and live a normal life or thar will accept my foot fetish. hahahaha.
    Because i love to think about worshiping all the girl body inclusive the feet in the act of sex.
     
  17. phwrancesco

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    seems like a good plan :)
     
  18. chapuleta

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    Yes i know a bunch of girls principally on Money slave groups only there for Money.
    i am Always saying to them. "i want you stop making Money from a fetish,that is not cool, many guys here with foot fetish have their foot fetish represed trough life, they pay for it because they cant have it on their real lifes and you cant imagine how fucked they are to claim themslves as slaves that want give you money to see your feet. So instead of making Money, find a guy near of you that have a foot fetish and if you really like do it for love.
     
  19. TimeToQuitNow

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    Have you gotten rid of it? What did you do. I have femdom addiction so I'd like to know
     
  20. Mr.Chips

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    I didn't, yet I am totally convinced that it is wrong and I will never be peaceful with it. I know people who got rid of it but after reaching 120.. 140 days streak. So have patience. If you may mention what startegy you use that led you to reach 33 days I will be thankful!
     
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