Using spy cameras to record sex partners

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by derobe, Jun 30, 2019.

  1. derobe

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    It's something I have considered doing and on the brink of going ahead with.

    Setting up many spy cameras to record my sexual encounters. Of course, the purpose is the partners don't find out.

    I want to hear other opinions on this?
     
  2. Africanman

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    Sounds sadistic and creepy.. you have to be a sociopath if this is what you want to do..
     
  3. sparkywantsnoPMO

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    Depending on your local laws, in light of “revenge porn,” many jurisdictions have written laws against such behavior, and even where laws don’t exist, it’s really immoral, and you know that. If you thought they’d be okay with it, you’d have no problem asking. Plus, you’re making porn, which is counter intuitive to recovery.
     
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  4. Infrasapiens

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  5. CookyMonster

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    Is this some new fetish of yours? I got recorded twice then was exposed to blackmail. I could solve it in the end without paying but hey ... this is f•*¿ing DISGUSTING!
     
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  6. need4realchg

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    Might I make a suggestion? Instead of the secret sex tapes, why not consider attending a group sex session?

    You may or May not like it. It might be hard to get erect while being observed, judged and measured. If you have any difficulty “performing” maybe apply those lessons to how hard this fantasy you have will be
    Anyways.

    Also, in a group sex session, you are normally not allowed to tape.

    I just think you are focusing on the voyeuristic nature of recordings but if you consider the secondary aspects of being sexual in front of others; allow your partners the courtesy to opt in or out. Some may like it ; others may not.
     
  7. GripStrength

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    . Kinda messed up, dude! If they don’t want to be filmed. What are you going to do with the videos? Just jack off to them?
     
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  8. Just done

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    Your comment made me laugh a lot.
     
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  9. Just done

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    Don't do that!
     
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  10. Dont do it..!
    Setting up spy cameras?? creepy, making love should be just between you and your partner.

    When I was at my rock bottom in my addition I sometimes took pictures of my GF without her knowing (and not during sex obviously) , cropped her face out and for a short while had them uploaded to a small fetish community site, to hear others with my fetish comment her in ways i couldnt, as I wqs too ashamed for being honest about my fetish at the time.

    I felt like shit afterwards and told her all about it, she was fine with it as her face didnt show, i promised not to do it again and thats when I stopped.
    Today we are engaged and live a happy life, but I still feel shame and guilt.

    This was creepy aswell, but not nearly as creepy as setting up spy cameras recording you having sex with random girls IMO.

    What if your videos would leak out, showing them naked with face etc showing??


    EDIT: I saw your profile, your age says 28 so you should know better by now man, I was 22 when I made my mistakes and I have grown alot mentally since, being free from P now at 24 is because I learned from my mistakes and was lucky my GF didnt feel harrassed by it, and gave me the oppurtunity to show that Im not like that.

    The older, the harder it is to forgive or understand such behaviour IMO, 22 and 28 is a big difference.
    So please for your own good, sit down for a while and ask yourself what you really want, its not too late to change your ways ! :)
     
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  11. derobe

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    Ha. I'm not a sociopath, I care about others. It would be a private collection for myself, I think some people are assuming I would leak the videos or use the footage as a weapon.... no interest in that - I'm a man - we love trophies.
     
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  12. derobe

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    Yeah, you're right. I understand I could get in a lot of trouble if I was caught. And yes very true making porn isn't going to help my recovery. Helpful comment.
     
  13. derobe

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    That's shitty, sorry to hear that, my intention would not be to blackmail anyone.
     
  14. derobe

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    Nah a group sex session wouldn't be for me. Yes it's just a voyeuristic fetish, same as a porn search instead of the thrill of it being my own footage/partners...
     
  15. derobe

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    Yeah dude, keep them as trophies. I've got videos of girls who were fine with me recording shows their faces etc and they were cool, this would just be random girls I meet and stuff. These comments have helped me to realise it's not the right thing to do though... I'll just have to find partners who also want to do this instead of recording without their knowledge...
     
  16. derobe

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    Really, you think it should just be between two partners, so you wouldn't agree to a threesome? Just interested.

    Shit man I never actually shared footage of girls online or anything. Like I've said they are just for personal use/memorabilia. You should forgive yourself though dude that's in the past and it's obviously not who you are anymore. Let it go.

    Don't really know how they would be leaked? I wouldn't' leak them.

    Yeah I was quite safe in my early twenties, was a one-woman man but I was desperate to sleep around (mainly influenced by porn use), eventually that urge got the better of me and I broke up with that girl and started sleeping around, I really don't regret that as I really enjoyed sex with multiple different women.
     
  17. sparkywantsnoPMO

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    It’s good to have a context to your question, as you appear to have set a calmer tone than was first expected. I stand by my first thread, though if what you want is a trophy list (which mind you is still reducing women to just sexual conquests), may I suggest just asking them to take a PG rated selfie with you (maybe you’re both topless, but you can only see from the shoulders up). This way you get your memento, they see that you’re not taking nudes of them, and you’re allowing your brain to remember the experience as opposed to relying on technology. In the future, when you view the selfie, you could memory recall the experience.
     

  18. I wouldnt like a threesome, not as I can think of at least heh.

    Yea I try to, its really hard forgiving yourself after doing something that goes against your own ”moral” so to speak, thats why im trying to make you think twice, I dont mean to sound rude though :)



    I understand, porn does mess with our minds, but think of it, its probably your ”porn-brain”(?) wanting to record those who you sleep with, as you seem to understand that its wrong but still wanting to do it.

    No man I didnt mean it like that, I dont think you would decide to leak the videos, but what IF?
    I never had the intention to upload pics of my gf from the beginning either, I just wanted to watch her and admire her looks when she wasnt available, but it escalated.


    I never felt bad until the last time I did it and decided to tell her about everything, and THATS one of the best decisions I have made, as I felt it was impossible to stop.



    Its a bad behaviour and you will probably just feel nasty and guilty, and what if they would find out somehow?
    Dont get yourself in trouble for no good reason buddy, once you have done it you cant escape whats in the past, the shame I feel is so so so strong some days and I cant imagine the shame I would feel if I were to spy-record girls having sex.



    There are better things to enjoy in life and you deserve it just like the rest of us! :D
     
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  19. need4realchg

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    You said trophies and it hit me.
    I do that (or at least used to) with pics of my girlfriends. I would find it impossible to delete because I had Both an emotional connection and sexual connection to the event.

    I think you bring up an excellent question though.

    Is self-recorded sex acts considered porn??
     
  20. Watching yourself have sex on a video must be s strange feeling, Im pretty sure most of us consider it being pornographic, but obviously better than watching others do it :)
     
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