Urges wont stop!

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by mirx88, Sep 11, 2018.

  1. mirx88

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    First of all, thank you all for being such great support system- truly happy to see everyone trying to help others..i m 30 years old, have been no PMO for 10 days but i am itching to do it... i miss everything about it... i miss feeling relaxed after.. i miss seeing the nudity... i just cant stop thinking about it... i have been PMOing since young age... i dont have a girlfriend which also sucks bec i feel lonely many times ... actually feeling lonley is one of my main reasons to relapse especially after being rejected... problem is, every girl i wanted, i was unsucessful with but girls i dont want, want me badly... oh to give u idea about my relapses — they are not you usual type of relapses...when i relapse, i could PMO 7 to 10 times in just one day... anyone here struggle with feeling lonely - how do you cope with it.. my work schedule kinda doesnt help me meeting girls.. so i feel like i m lonley forever. Due to my NoFap, i feel attracted to older non attractive women... its so hard.. when will this ever end, and when will i stop feeling lonely :( i hope someone help
     
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  2. mirx88

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    Here we gooo.. day 11– yest was like a bitch... i hope today is better
     
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  3. sayonaraPMO

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    Hey @mirx88, the first two weeks are the most difficult with constant urges, but keep pushing to get through the day and the urges will start to settle.

    Your brain desperately wants that rush that it gets from seeing porn. What you're feeling isn't a need though, you don't need porn, you're brain just wants the chemical that porn produces in your head.

    Don't give up your mental health, your future relationships, your fully-functioning dick, just for a rush of chemicals in your brain.

    Eventually you won't miss porn whatsoever. You'll miss real human connection (and then you'll go out there and get some!).
     
  4. mirx88

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    Thats amazing! Really appreciate your support... i have this voice in my mind that keeps saying that urges will never stop... i appreciate u saying it is harder in first two weeks mainly... i even look at older very unattractive women but i m wouldnt MO to them.. thats how bad i m at right now.. :(
     
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  5. sayonaraPMO

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    Yeah anything can set you off. I remember being turned on by seeing an advert for Tarzan on Netflix and thinking about Tarzan and Jane porn... so ridiculous haha but your brain makes whatever connection it can to get you thinking about sex
     
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  6. mirx88

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    Hahah ok i see.. i cant wait for urges to go... thanks again for your motivation!
     
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  7. mirx88

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    Day 12– i woke up not even thinking about it but after like 10-15 min, thoughts started coming again ughh lets keeep going.. i m afraid of faliure!!
     
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  8. menace64

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    Focus on the future! Remind yourself what you're aiming for, and press on!
     
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  9. mirx88

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    Thanks so much
     
  10. mirx88

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    Just woke up and i am sooooooo Hard.. like it felt like a piece of metal sticking out- i guess i never felt that hard bec i used to fap so much... honestly i was afraid to even move bec i feel like i can literally O without doing anything.. it did feel great just moving a bit gave me back memories of the amazing feeling... i miss PMO like a fat kid misses chocolate :(
     
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  11. Duffman@1

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    Buddy, first of all, wow 10days, You are doing soooo good. If you have an urge, google how bad porn is for you, and read some of the stories on here. This is a helluva strong addiction, but you are stronger than this. Try and block porn on your pc and phone. Try cold turkey for you pc, it works! I am also trying, together when can make it happen buddy. Just think about a life without the boss of porn and masturbation, and if you meet a girl, you wont be able to make love properly because of your habits.
     
  12. sayonaraPMO

    sayonaraPMO Fapstronaut

    Haha, isn't it amazing that quitting PMO can give us this level of hardness? THIS is the goal. You should feel encouraged that you're seeing getting these kind of erections. But it's important that you can appreciate then but then move along and get on with your life. Now is now the time to pay them any attention.
     
  13. mirx88

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    Hahaha its true but at that moment i wana celebrate if u know what i mean hahah.. i appreciate u sendig me a message to motivate at the time.. so far, thank God still hangning but hahah if this continues i ll relapse so badly hahah
     
  14. mirx88

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    Day 13— i have been hard since morning and erection wont go down.. not sure if anyone experienced that.. but i m so tempted to just go for it i cant stop thinkig about it
     
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  15. mirx88

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    Day 14— this is never ending but trying to stay strong.. this is soo hard
     
  16. GeorgeJetson

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    You are an inspiration! I just started on NoFap and need help from people like you. 14 days is amazing...I'm hoping to make it that far, but just taking it one moment at a time.
     
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  17. mirx88

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    Thanks alot- means alot! Whats your story buddy? What made you say dont wana do it again
     
  18. GeorgeJetson

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    In a nutshell, I'm married with kids but addicted to finding/catfishing women on chat apps and convincing them to watch me masturbate on video chat. At times, I fully consumed by the chase and absent from life and reality. I have a career which includes an incredible amount of trust and responsibility and participation in these types of acts is not acceptable. In addition, I'm fearful of eventually destroying my marriage even though it is the last thing I want to do. My wife and I have an amazing relationship but that still doesn't stop me. I'm here for hope and recovery.
     
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  19. iWantToGoTheDistance

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    Mirx88 good on you , ...georgejetson just read this , this is deep mate. I think I was drifting towards the same issues you mention above. I genuinely hope both you guys quit this stuff,,,,,
     
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  20. mirx88

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    I m not married or currenty have a gf, which makes me feel very lonely and want to do it even more but seeing how relationships suffer makes me also feel thankful sometimes.. irs hard either way it seems like... i dont want to sound stupid but like how does it destroy ppls relationships? I just wana know at least from your life.. or point of view bec i wana get a girlfriend but then hearing how relationships r suffering may be i should hold off? Btw how is ur journey so far?
     

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