Trying to overcome a recent rejection

Just take it as a learning experience and don't overlook those "red flags". As long as you don't look like Quasimodo or aren't a total sperg, you'll meet a woman that is worth your time.

 

How is this a rejection? She's simply unavailable.

Unless you were clear with your intentions by asking her out on a date, she really didn't have to tell you that she has a boyfriend.

 

The fact that she is walking by you all the time with her new boyfriend indicates this women is a tease and is not someone I would waste my time thinking about, also if she treated you like she did just wait till she does the same thing to the new bf and next and the next I have seen this pattern with diffrent women a lot the best thing is to ignore her and don't give her any of your attention and thoughts. YOU CAN DO BETTER

 

Hey Namekian23, I would have never been able to point that out if I had not been threw that myself, good luck to you reach out if you have any questions

 

Hey guys, new poster here. Mannn what a tease! Next time try and be very clear with your intentions. Something like 'hey theres this cool thing on after work tonight, I'm going with some friends, would you like to come, hang out, party a lil bit?' Instead of just 'trying' to get her attention grab it with your eye contact and then boom just ask. you will save alot of time in weeding out the taken people and most women find that attractive anyway a man who has direction in life. Are you using tinder or anything?

 

I think I understand you. I had to deal with a lot of rejection so I know how much it can hurt. And the more rejection you get the more it hurts and lowers your confidence. I tried to analyze it and one I found is that I was too focused on one girl way too early. And I think I see some similarities with you as well. I could be wrong but judging from your story it seems that race is important to you. If it is it can limit your options severely. So in that case I say to not look at race at all. Good girls you can find anywhere in the world.

Second thing I want to say is to maybe interact with more girls at the same time and get yourself more options (easier said than done of course). I don't mean that you have to have sex with them all. But having more options puts you in a different state of mind. Also girls treat you different once you do. It is not something you can fake because girls will know. But once you have options they will know. An outcome of that is that rejection won't hit you as hard. Another outcome is that girls like it when I a guy is considered attractive by other girls. They may act angry about it but deep down inside they can't help but find you attractive as well

Then with the interaction with that girl. Unfortunately girls want you to do everything. They don't want responsibility. They don't want to set the direction. They expect guys to do that. They also like to test you by acting uninterested. Here is the difference between nice guys and bad guys. When a girl kind of acts uninterested the nice guy will think "She must not like me. Let me give her some space". The bad guy will think "I'm just gonna ask her out if she refuses I'll ask another girl". They just go for what they want and it is this mindset that attracts girls to guys. So the girl you were talking about was just testing to see what you were made off. I see you as the nice guy. Not meaning this in a disrespectful way.

So next time. Just go with you want. Don't force her into anything of course. But don't go by what a girl says or tries to portrait. If the girl is talking to you or not running away that is only sign you need to go by. Hope this helps.