Trying to get girls

Dude, can you make it the first 10 days without fapping? For a young man under 30, I know this is tougher than Navy SEAL training.

 

First, calm down and take a few deep breaths!

Second, re-read your own post, particularly this part:

There's your answer...

 

You gotta get the eye of the tiger. This means Nofap for 30 days+.

 

You still need to calm down and take a few deep breaths. Reading your posts leaves me feeling slightly agitated...!

There is no quick fix. And having a relapse is not the end of the world - at your age NoFap is really tough going.

You just need to find a trigger activity that you do as soon as the PMO urge grabs you - boxing or lifting weights are popular ones. Something to flow your aggression / testosterone out of the system. Or else something that gets your mind off it - a nice walk being a basic one.

Then aim to keep increasing the gap between relapses. Every day without PMO is a good day and will help. And it will get easier as you increase willpower and take back control of your brain.

Good luck!

 

The day or two days after relapse are a bit like a hangover.

You just have to wait it out I'm afraid. But in saying that, you'll feel better if you do a few productive things and drink plenty of water.

Try this: write down what lead to your relapse, then write down what you will do differently this time. Always ask yourself this and your streaks overall will improve with effort. Good luck!

 

Dude you're still young, just relax... theres plenty more girls to come.
For now focus on building discipline and getting that PMO streak up.

 

What do you do in your spare time(apart from PMO)? You need to find some hobbies that get you out meeting people. Salsa dancing is good, or take up a martial art.

 

Dude, you don't need to use an exclamation mark after nearly every sentence, FYI.

The above post reminds me of how my first real teenage sexual experiences were vaguely tied in with my Tae Kwon Do sessions at age fifteen. I dropped out because I was, at yellow-belt blue-stripe stage, asked to train a hot white belt chick. I started getting a boner and I was mortified by the idea that she noticed. Never did go back to martial arts sessions. In fact, I turned down an invitation to swing dancing from a nice Irish lass with the same fear in mind... seventeen years later. Curious what psychological repression you dig up when you get together with a bunch of like-minded persons--in this case on NoFap.

Things change when you smash out a good streak. YOU change. I feel ready to get out there and get involved in creative, social activities again. You'll know when you're ready.

Also, I would amend the phrase "get girls" to "attract girls." Just sounds nicer, that's all.

Good luck.

 

Might want to check out this video, too:

 

Try going to the gym or exercising in general. the release of endorphins will make you feel a lot better. It will also boost your self esteem, once you see the results of your work, you will get a boost of testosterone, even a little. You will fix your diet as a consequence (if you want to build an aesthetic body) and won't need extra vitamins. This will also help you quit PMO. Saying all this from experience.

 

@The Atman @Mantasx1 , Awesome guys thanks heaps...It's getting better everyday, i've been keeping active and the idea slowly fades away so it's all good
Sometimes we all just need a reminder, i'm glad you guys are here!