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Trying to be content with being alone

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by NoBrainer, Aug 1, 2015.

  1. I'm a lone wolf and while I do have some social interactions from time to time, I do no require it. People tend to mistake being a lone wolf for being lonely, being lonely the person yearns for human interaction but being a lone wolf is a matter of choice. I take solace in enjoying my hobbies byself in my own man cave aka room. While I will welcome new friends who share common goals in the future, I've very comfortable in the way I am. I think too much isolation can be dangerous and if you're anything like me you're waiting for better quality of people in society to engage with but not completely change your new mindset, I'm more concerned about my own protection. I believe we need more social conventions rather than the typical, clubs, bars or coffee shops, they are not my scene, I tried them. And the ones I'm probably interested in happen once a year, so I can only meet with people here online and socialise most of the time.
     
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  2. Similar for me, I also have some good friends, but I spend most of my time alone. I also prefer quality of social interaction over quantity.
     
  3. I know what you are going through, I am 38 almost 40, I had to live through, self centered escape, that lead to not such good things, and here I am all alone. with out an end in site, of this loneliness. well I can not blame my parents here, but it is what it is. But does any one really want to 'look at p'? its an escape, from pain, that leads to another pain.
     
  4. Thechosenone

    Thechosenone Fapstronaut

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    My story is that I was content being alone until I hit late highschool /college time I was seeing friends outside school, a friend would stay over at my house for a few hours after school everyday

    I knew this wasn't sustainable at all, it left a void I felt demoralised infear of ttemporary friendships. For me it meant a lot becuase that precious time for me was after school to recharge being an introvert.

    It wasn't nice, I don't talk talk to the guy anymore we were best friends I was a shy introvert who was boisterous when it came to humour.

    Since that moment I haven't felt like he same at all...I was waiting for a good friend to stay and chill with. This guy was a user.

    It sucks. I have to put on that I'm OK all the time but I'm not, I'm aiming to interact more everyday with people and focus on myself to remedy this. I haven't been able to laugh so thunderously since and struggle to keep my mood genuine.
    Nofap doesnt help - withdrawals
     

  5. Never did the movie thing before but will try it sometime even though im not into movies so much unless there oldies .
    Eating alone on the other hand is awesome, some days I go without food for a while and then I will go out to eat order like 3 plates and just sit there and enjoy. Servers get confused because they think its for 2 people. :)
    This post about the camping story is great to.
    For the most part. If your shy or out going you need "you time and spend time with family ect."

    Much Love Everyone
     
  6. Pancho

    Pancho Fapstronaut

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    Nothing wrong with spending time on your own. I've felt immense joy, compassion, understanding and meaning being alone and seen great things.
    Spending a great deal of time alone can mould you though; you cannot come back easily, especially as you get old.
    It takes time to reconnect with others and faith to get hurt yet continue.
     

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